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Wine is not a hug in a glass, @hallmark. 🤦‍♀️ Apparently today is #nationaldrinkwineday so be prepared to see messages like this, and like the one from @popsugar. Wine not? Um, for about a million reasons. Here’s the spoiler alert: wine doesn’t equal love, and it doesn’t equal friendship. Real connection isn’t found in a bottle. Hugs sure as heck aren’t. I used to kind of believe that that though, and reached for the bottle many times when what I wanted was real connection. And in the process, I got further and further away from real connection. I also became addicted, which they don’t talk about on these cute illustrations. But that was then. Now I know more about all the complicated factors that contributed to many dark years. It wasn’t a meme of course, but these kinds of messages reinforced the part of my brain that said “This can’t be a problem.” 💛As always, I’m not a prohibitionist: it is about the messages we share around alcohol and what’s underneath. If you are struggling today, keep going. #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing
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I was supposed to sit and write this morning, but instead, I chose to try and squeeze myself through a tiny door that has been staring at me for a very, very long time. Despite all my writing, despite all my rambles, despite the loving and supportive messages from all of YOU (that leave me breathless) on how my words and stories, confessions and lessons resonate and help – I have these rusty parts inside me, still. Parts that creak and seize up when I think about 'putting myself out there'. Parts that clunk and make noises they aren't supposed to when I imagine sitting down to write "The Book". So, I sent a pitch to @MindfulMagazine , one of my favourites (this is a huge step for me) as a way of poking my head through that tiny door once and for all. You'd think that if I can get (and stay) sober that I can do anything...because we all know the superhero strength it takes to accomplish either. And yet – I stall. I procrastinate. I still feel like sitting down to write "The Book" or put my words out there with *intent* is among the scariest things in the world. . Which means I should probably do it. It's easy to stare at the mountains before us, thinking it's the biggest hurdle we've ever had to cross. It's easy to stare at the tiny little door you need to squeeze through so you can break through on the other side. What's hard is leaving behind all the heavy things that weigh you down and bloat your size so you can finally, at long last, fit. What's *hard* is remembering all the tiny little doors you've crawled through in the past, and all the mountains we've surpassed that at the time seemed insurmountable. The quote in the image is from a piece I'm working on for the blog at LifeInDetox.com, about listening to what scares you, setting down your weapons of self-destruction, and crawling through to freedom carrying nothing but courage in your heart. xo SJ 🙏🚫🍷
I remember so clearly the day I sat down to write my first post on the blog in Jan 2017. It's titled "How Did I Get Here" and is a sad, desperately honest coming-to-terms with the reality of my addiction. I was finally acknowledging, but not yet accepting, what I had been denying for so long - despite deep down inside knowing it to be painfully true. Up to that day, it was 'easier' to just keep suffering in impressive, oblivious denial. To suffer, because I had imagined different. I suffered and stalled because I refused to accept that my life was unravelling and I was out of control, because addiction happens to other people – until it happens to you. I suffered and stood on the outside of healing looking in since I couldn't accept I had become so battered, because falling apart happens to other people – until it happens to you. I suffered and shamed myself for lacking the strength to resist my temptations, because weakness and dependence happens to other people – until it happens to you. I suffered because I was clinging to my imagined life where troubles were few and far between and landed in other people's backyards, not mine. Addiction was the thing of talkshows and documentaries, public health posters and high school social studies classes. It was something I walked past quickly and changed channels to elude; these were stories and warnings for other people who were out of control – not me. I was avoiding the truth and hoping it would, in turn, change the facts. I had to give myself permission to be the alcoholic I had become, as much as it conflicted with my imagined life. I needed to just let that reality be, to sit with it and not take on any more SHAME because of it. I had to remove the notion I had that only OTHER people became alcoholics. I had to admit to the reality that I WAS one of those other people, and that it had indeed happened to me. The longer I 'believed' my problem wasn't actually MY problem, the longer I stood longing for healing, always looking from the outside in. I had to begin owning the solutions that were available to addicts like me – because I was one. From "Until It Happens To You" on the blog (link is in bio!)
🎉 This week I celebrated 1 year of sobriety. . 1 whole year... . It's a bit surreal. . I took a long hard look at my life overall, and a whole lot of the problems that came up were based around alcohol. . So I DECIDED to change. . With this one decision, I have been blessed with the gift of fertility and a brand new baby girl. I finally achieved my goal of self publishing. Relationships ended and the ones that stuck became deeper. I got engaged. I discovered the introverted me is actually the REAL me. And my anxiety dropped dramatically. . I don't know if I had a "problem" nor do I really care. What I know is outside of the blur alcohol gives is a better life for me. . It's a version of myself I didn't know I was capable of. . Sobriety didn't solve my problems but it stopped creating more of them. It didn't give me answers to everything but it made me see things more clearly. . It wasn't easy and some days it still isn't but nothing worth it is easy. . For anyone questioning if it's time to give up the bottle - stop focusing on if it's a "problem" and start asking if you are living the best version of yourself? . A lot can change in just 1 year. ❤ . . . . . . . #sobermom #1yearlater #momprenuer #firsttimemom #youareabadass #soberaf #higherself #spiritjunkies #spiritualgangster #soberjourney #soberskirts #sobervibes #nashvegas #partysober #zeroproof #momproblems #sobersunday #madeformore #businessboutique #girlwashyourface #healthandwellnessjourney #worthit #decide #tellbetterstories
Oooo yes, I’d love to take a bath and get out reeking of an alcoholic drink 🙄🤦‍♀️ #whyyyyyyy
The Lists I Used to Make. I wrote this on my 35th birthday. I thought if I wrote more or worked out more or prayed more or handled my life more that would solve all my problems. Not on the list: consider stopping drinking. But on pages surrounding this list, all of the signs, notes about having consumed a half bottle or whole bottle, notes about always getting sick, notes filled with self-loathing and “if I just try harder.” Write more. Launch more projects. And “trust God” as the very last item on my list 🤦‍♀️. I drank for four more years after this and it did get worse. Then in the fall of 2015 I finally looked at what I had been avoiding all those years: drinking and me do not mix. And it was also killing me, though hardly anyone knew. I had my *dream* job at a magazine. I had a family. It all looked fine, just fine. It wasn’t. But ... I got help, I get help and I share my story for women who need help and to know they aren’t alone. 💛If you are a woman writing in her journal this morning, wanting more, knowing there’s a bigger life for you and you think alcohol is keeping you from it, keep pursuing that. Talk to someone. Talk to many someones. You aren’t alone. 💛 #Sunday #journal #sober #recovery #health #womenshealth #freedom #tellbetterstories
My wife is the best! I handed over my uke this morning along with my trust - told her to do her thang. Boy did she deliver! 🙌🏼🎶♥️
I wish that healing was contagious, and that we could spread it like the common cold. That just by being near someone, you could undo their hurt and untie their knots. That apologies could disinfect the past. I wish I could pour my sobriety on all the open wounds I've left in my path and help them close without scars. I wish I could properly explain the dark and passive indifference that consumes you when you're sitting there at rock bottom. I wish I could explain how in the unawareness of addiction I couldn't see who I was hurting, while I was spinning wildly and blindly with a knife in my hand. Maybe it's in the slow untying of those knots in sobriety that your rope grows longer so you can throw it out to others. So the ones you dragged down with you to that lower, darker, painful new depth can begin to climb back out. . When you make amends, you hand someone a bandage – but you don't get to decide if they choose to use it on the wounds you carved. When you explain that you stumbled when you barely knew how to walk – it's not up to you if they remember your fall, or instead, your struggle. Sometimes you need to make peace with making peace. We are all characters in each other's stories, and we hold no control over how we are written in to anyone else's. Despite starring in a new role in your own, you may always be a flashback in someone else's, forever repeating the same horror scene until they choose to change the channel. These are the truths that come with recovery. . When you slowly and finally wake into sobriety from the nightmare of addiction, a time arrives when you need to admit that it wasn't just your own bad dream, but you were the monster under other people's bed, too. Sobriety cannot be selfish. Read the full post "Resurrected & Infected" on the blog at LifeInDetox.com (link to the post is in my bio!) xoxo SJ 🙏🚫🍷
People wait all week for Friday, All year for summer, All life for happiness! . . Ps: your world glow with your mind. 🌈 . #timidsmiles #softhellos #hellosunshine ☀️ #shelivestruth #allthegoodonesarelittlecrazy #selfloveisrevolutionary #tellbetterstories
This is so important on so many levels. #Repost @tellbetterstoriesmedia with @get_repost ・・・ My friends: I’m not going to talk about all the things wrong with rage and beer yoga. It’s a gimmick, and the several stories about it were written because people will click on them and share and repost and laugh. These are the times in which we live and people will do what they will. I obviously disagree with a class like this (for the millionth time alcohol + fitness/wellness don’t belong together) and the subsequent coverage. • • What’s on my heart today is if you are feeling rage today, rage the way I still feel it from time to time (ok a lot lately), there are so many ways to channel and transform it. Some ideas: physical movement without having to put in a drug; the act of creation — whatever your thing is: art, words, making; speaking to a mental health professional, a therapist, psychiatrist, counselor, etc.; connecting with a recovery fellowship; connecting with a spiritual practice of your choosing. In other words: confronting it in a way that doesn’t involve alcohol or other drugs. • • Also messaging alcohol as a release for rage is scary. Pairing it with yoga doesn’t make it any better. This honestly scares the hell out of me. • • As always, I’m not a prohibitionist. But I want us to look underneath the messages we’re sending to our selves and each other about how alcohol is the antidote to everything. And how if we pair it with some kind of workout it just magically becomes a harmless substance. It doesn’t. And the rage doesn’t really go away. I can hear the critics: “Lighten up. They can ‘handle’ it and you can’t.” But my gut says no: this is wrong. All of these messages point to deeper issues. And that we can use them to have conversations about what’s really going on with us, underneath. If you are struggling with alcohol or rage, or anything else, there is hope and there is help. Please keep going. 💛 #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #yoga #wellness #fitness #health #womenshealth
You're up against a nasty beast when someone you love is caught in the tight grip of substance use. But, friend, what I've come to learn is that CONNECTION is the opposite of addiction. Kindness, compassion, care, honesty, gentleness. THIS is what is needed right now to fight for who you love! They're not in this alone... and neither are you. We're waiting for you at wethevillage.co with 24/7 answers and support - join us. ⠀ _____⠀⠀⠀ #sober #soberlife #soberliving #soberissexy #newlysober #recovery #addiction #addictionrecovery #wedorecover #recoveryrocks #serenity #teetotaler #soberaf #tellbetterstories #howtostaysober #sobrietytips #soberquotes #recoveryispossible #buildvillage #theaddictally #endoverdose #opioidcrisis #depressionsucks #stoptheshame #opioidawareness #recoveryispossible #recoveryisworthit #riseupagainstaddiction #riseabove #shatterthestigma
My friends: I’m not going to talk about all the things wrong with rage and beer yoga. It’s a gimmick, and the several stories about it were written because people will click on them and share and repost and laugh. These are the times in which we live and people will do what they will. I obviously disagree with a class like this (for the millionth time alcohol + fitness/wellness don’t belong together) and the subsequent coverage. • • What’s on my heart today is if you are feeling rage today, rage the way I still feel it from time to time (ok a lot lately), there are so many ways to channel and transform it. Some ideas: physical movement without having to put in a drug; the act of creation — whatever your thing is: art, words, making; speaking to a mental health professional, a therapist, psychiatrist, counselor, etc.; connecting with a recovery fellowship; connecting with a spiritual practice of your choosing. In other words: confronting it in a way that doesn’t involve alcohol or other drugs. • • Also messaging alcohol as a release for rage is scary. Pairing it with yoga doesn’t make it any better. This honestly scares the hell out of me. • • As always, I’m not a prohibitionist. But I want us to look underneath the messages we’re sending to our selves and each other about how alcohol is the antidote to everything. And how if we pair it with some kind of workout it just magically becomes a harmless substance. It doesn’t. And the rage doesn’t really go away. I can hear the critics: “Lighten up. They can ‘handle’ it and you can’t.” But my gut says no: this is wrong. All of these messages point to deeper issues. And that we can use them to have conversations about what’s really going on with us, underneath. If you are struggling with alcohol or rage, or anything else, there is hope and there is help. Please keep going. 💛 #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #yoga #wellness #fitness #health #womenshealth
The morning after my last drink brought with it both a mammoth sized hangover, and an impossible to ignore, starving sensation of wanting. I had relapsed from my first, short-lived attempt at sobriety, and I was waking (dead for the most part) after an 8 month bender that could put Betty Ford to shame. THE WANTING I wanted to never feel that awful again. I wanted to stop having to beat myself up every morning over my weakness the night before. I wanted to stop once and for all the lying about how I "wasn't ever going to drink again." I wanted to be in control of my actions and my decisions, for a change. I wanted off the ride that was only making me sick, over and over – and over – again. I wanted all the losses and hurts to stop. I wanted everything to cease being so hard, because I was always so drunk. I wanted to stop wanting all of this. Every. Damn. Morning. THE WILLINGNESS I had finally reached the decisive tipping point of * wanting freedom more than I was willing to deal with the suffering that came with addiction. * I was finally willing to do the hard work (whatever that was, because at this point I wasn't too sure) – and change. No matter what it involved. No matter how uncomfortable. If I didn't change, I was going to either have a stroke, have an accident, or take my own life – physically or figuratively. I was 8 months into my relapse, and life was again starting to feel like I was racing full speed ahead towards a busy intersection and not sure if I wanted to slam on the brakes, or just fly headlong into and under the transport trucks in my path. And yet, every time, I'd hit the brakes just in time. I'd hit the brakes because somewhere, something inside me, however small, was still conscious and beating hard enough to know that I didn't really want to die. All I really wanted, was to change. From "This Time Around" on the blog at LifeInDetox.com (link to post is in my bio!) 🙏🚫🍷
Whose stoked it’s the weekend?? This girl!! And if you’re looking to tell a better story (especially on the weekends, am I right?!) then go check out and follow my friend @erinshawstreet and her gift to the world @tellbetterstoriesmedia. It’s eye opening, inspiring and motivating!! You matter. Your story matters. ✌🏻🖤🦊 ... ... ... #youmatter #yourstorymatters #story #stories #tellbetterstories #bethechange #thesoberhipster #soberhipstertees #sober #sobriety #alcohol #addiction #recovery #inspiration #motivation #weekend #weekendvibes #weekends #saturday #saturdayvibes #saturdaymorning #saturdaynight #birmingham #alabama
READ THE POST, not just the photo 😉 Repost @tellbetterstoriesmedia ・・・ I call BS @glamourmag. There are million ways that women are heroes tonight but rescuing wine “trapped” in a bottle isn’t one of them. I know, I know, it’s just a silly meme for clicks. It just strikes me as odd that these messages continue to be posted during a time when female alcohol use disorder in the US has increased by 83.7%, high risk drinking by women has risen by about 58% and alcohol related deaths for women are on the rise too. Yet we keep talking about alcohol like it’s a harmless accessory. Another joke on a Friday night. 🙄Here’s the good news: more women are questioning this narrative, questioning what’s underneath it all, and how they respond to it in their lives. 👉Honestly, even my friends who drink says the message is getting old, and the prevalence has made them think. To be clear: I am not prohibitionist — everyone has the right to choose to drink or not drink. But the messages we share around alcohol? We can do better. @glamour , which does celebrate true heroes (see: their Women of the Year program can do better). Finally, if you are struggling tonight, there is hope. 💛 #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #magazines #lifestyle #women #womenshealth #fridaynight
#Repost @tellbetterstoriesmedia (@get_repost ) ・・・ I call BS @glamourmag. There are million ways that women are heroes tonight but rescuing wine “trapped” in a bottle isn’t one of them. I know, I know, it’s just a silly meme for clicks. It just strikes me as odd that these messages continue to be posted during a time when female alcohol use disorder in the US has increased by 83.7%, high risk drinking by women has risen by about 58% and alcohol related deaths for women are on the rise too. Yet we keep talking about alcohol like it’s a harmless accessory. Another joke on a Friday night. 🙄Here’s the good news: more women are questioning this narrative, questioning what’s underneath it all, and how they respond to it in their lives. 👉Honestly, even my friends who drink says the message is getting old, and the prevalence has made them think. To be clear: I am not prohibitionist — everyone has the right to choose to drink or not drink. But the messages we share around alcohol? We can do better. @glamour , which does celebrate true heroes (see: their Women of the Year program can do better). Finally, if you are struggling tonight, there is hope. 💛 #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #magazines #lifestyle #women #womenshealth #fridaynight #sobersnotadirtyword
I wish I had kept count of the number of times I tried to stop drinking. Over 20 years. I'm sure Guinness would've been impressed (the World Records people...not the brewery). I kept turning to the cause of my problems to cure my problems. I think it's part of the human condition – we do it in our relationships with people, money, things. It took a really long time for me to *finally* figure out that what was breaking me could never fix me. That if nothing changes, nothing changes. That I was tired of being broken, and I was staying broken because I kept running back to what kept breaking me: drinking. And only then was I finally able to deal with the *really* broken parts, the parts that drove me to drink and numb and escape in the first place. 🙏🚫🍷
I call BS @glamourmag. There are million ways that women are heroes tonight but rescuing wine “trapped” in a bottle isn’t one of them. I know, I know, it’s just a silly meme for clicks. It just strikes me as odd that these messages continue to be posted during a time when female alcohol use disorder in the US has increased by 83.7%, high risk drinking by women has risen by about 58% and alcohol related deaths for women are on the rise too. Yet we keep talking about alcohol like it’s a harmless accessory. Another joke on a Friday night. 🙄Here’s the good news: more women are questioning this narrative, questioning what’s underneath it all, and how they respond to it in their lives. 👉Honestly, even my friends who drink says the message is getting old, and the prevalence has made them think. To be clear: I am not prohibitionist — everyone has the right to choose to drink or not drink. But the messages we share around alcohol? We can do better. @glamour , which does celebrate true heroes (see: their Women of the Year program can do better). Finally, if you are struggling tonight, there is hope. 💛 #tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #magazines #lifestyle #women #womenshealth #fridaynight
For all you sober curious friends! Many times... a night out with friends, birthday parties, bachelorette parties, weddings, holidays, wine tasting excursions, etc. would include consuming at least 3-4 drinks across the span of the evening for me. I remember during my annual check-ups when my doctor would ask how much I drink in a week, I definitely wouldn’t tell her the full story. I knew it wasn’t healthy to be drinking the amount I was, but I also knew a majority of my friends and the people I knew were also consuming a similar amount, so I didn’t think of myself as abnormal. Now, as I’ve taken this journey of sobriety, my eyes are being opened to all the major health risks and to the fact that many of my previous drinking days were considered HIGH RISK. 3 or more drinks in one day is considered high risk drinking for women. And more than 7 in one week. High-risk drinking means a higher chance of cancer and other health ailments. Fortunately, the human body is amazing and can regenerate cells and has the inner wisdom to heal itself. So, I’m hoping my body will heal itself of the damage that I may have already caused. If at any point you are considering cutting back on your drinking or stopping altogether, know that it’s never too late to let your body start healing itself. 💗✨🙌 . . . #soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
>>AWARENESS<< ⠀⠀ A recent Healthline article titled “Women are Drinking More, but Get Less Help for Alcohol Abuse” sheds light on some of the critical barriers to treatment for women. The article also states that women’s high-risk drinking is up 60% from 2001 to 2013. Walking through the store the other day I noticed that pink alcohol was everywhere - Rose wine and pink hard cider and pink liquor. ⠀⠀ These companies don’t care about women’s health. Women’s livers. Women’s lives. Take back control of your life, your health, your well-being. Talk to your doctor about your drinking, if you have any concerns. Let’s have an important discussion about the issue and dissolve the #stigma . There are people who care and want to help. 💗 . . #soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
I used to refer to booze as Liquid Courage – and it’s absolutely anything but that. There was nothing courageous about drinking myself to oblivion. I was cowardly, numbing myself each day as a way of eluding the truth. There was nothing brave about my tolerance. Being able to easily drink anyone under the table (including myself) is foolish, not fearless. There was nothing gallant or valiant in poisoning myself bit by bit and bottle by bottle, aware of the slow death I couldn’t live without. Killing myself from the inside out was pitiful, not proud. . Referring to alcohol as Liquid Courage does a disservice to those who are truly courageous. . Courage is having strength in the face of pain and struggle. And, the more I drank, the less strength I was able to muster. The more I drank, the more I summoned situations that brought me – and everyone around me – nothing but pain. The more I drank, the less courageous I became, and the less courageous I became, the less I was able to love – myself and everyone around me. . What is courageous though, is feeling fear and still choosing to act. Courage is following your heart. Courage is persevering in the face of adversity. Courage is standing up for what is right. Courage is letting go of the familiar. Courage is suffering with dignity and faith. . Courage is being sober when all you want is to be wasted. . Courage is acceptance when all you want is to forget. . Courage is loving when all you want is to run. . Read the full post "Courageous Love" on the blog at LifeInDetox.com (direct link to post is in the bio!) 🙏🚫🍷
Stories make the world go round #brandstorytelling
The last “selfie” I took because I felt good about myself was December 15th. Here’s something else I realized after this weekends break down: You need a place to talk about your trauma’s. Especially in early sobriety, find someone you trust to talk to. I held in a lot of painful memories, questions, flashbacks, all of it - I held it in because I felt ashamed that it happened to me and I would be less loved, less attractive and so all that stuff ate at me and I allowed myself to fall into a hole of sadness. If you cant seem to talk about it, write down. I can say that this instagram account has helped me heal in ways I didn’t expect, and thats because I feel I have a place to lay my pain. Holding in all that pain and hurt can make you a very angry, bitter person. Don’t be that person. Nobody wants to be around that person, TRUST ME on that one. Get yourself an avenue, I can be your avenue. I’m not a trained counselor but I can listen and cry with you and give you a space for positivity. I’m going to be sharing a lot more of my traumas on here; I encourage you to share back so we can create an avenue of healing for each other.
Please live accordingly. 🙏
Happy Valentine’s Day, lovers. I want to tell you a story: I just got to hand my husband his Valentine card. We’ve been together since 2001, so he has seen all of it. This morning looks a little different than the worst of my drinking, where I came in at 7 am in the morning, filled with shame, sadness, and fear. That was years ago now, and I wouldn’t recognize that woman, other than to give her a hug and tell her there was hope, and here’s what she could do to stop living this heartbreaking life. ❤️It’s cliche but it’s true: I had to learn to love myself. I didn’t when I was drinking. Through sobriety and recovery I am learning how to do that, and only through that can I truly show up to love the ones I hold dear. It was hard to break up with drinking. Like when I first saw the book “Drinking, A Love Story,” by Caroline Knapp, I knew what that meant, and it would be years after I read it that I got sober. Now I know sobriety and recovery are the love story of my life ... well one of them. The one that allows me to love and to receive love, which I believe we are created for. But it was a hell of a breakup and one that has taken quite some time to recover from. I do love the woman it is revealing. ❤️What is your sobriety love story? I want to hear it — share of you are comfortable. And if you are struggling today, know that you are deeply loved and worth fighting for. Oh, and BTW, all those ads that sell booze as love are BS. Here’s to real love. #tellbetterstories #alcohol #sober #recovery #love #valentine #valentinesday #health #wellness #selfcare #progressnotperfection #marketing #media
Over time, alcohol convinces you that you're worthless. As simple as that. No sugar coating, nothing fluffy, just plain old stripped down worthlessness with an ample side of disregard for everyone around you. As much as alcohol turns you into a selfish, twisted and self-absorbed Gollum-esque version of yourself, it also delivers an undefinable feeling of disgust and self-loathing. On one hand, you are obsessed with yourself and your situation, and on the other you are collecting and creating as much pain as possible so you can keep trying to endure it. It becomes a sloppy game of trying to balance your obsession with yourself, and at the same time, your self-hatred. It becomes a sloppy and hurtful, self-deprecating game of trying to build things up just so you can tear them down. Alcohol turned me into both the sadist and the masochist, doling out hurt as much as I loved wallowing in it. Addiction split me down the middle and left me and everything around me in pieces. It's easy to blame the alcohol – and I did and still do. Because I know I have a good, troubled heart. I know the peaks and valleys of all my intentions, and now through the less-smudged window of sobriety I can see in hindsight the sabotage I was doing to myself and everything and everyone, around me. Alcohol just deadened my feelings so everything hurt a little less; until I realized that I was the only one who was numb, and everyone else was feeling the impact of my actions with fierce and crystal clear honesty. Drinking just fast-tracked my downward spiral to that dark and lonely place where I kept all my hurts hidden, waiting for me to realize that I never actually had a drinking problem – I had a reality problem. From "The Worst Thing I've Ever Done" on the blog at LifeInDetox (link in bio to the full post!) 🙏🚫🍷 xo SJ
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My kids will never see me drunk. Sometimes I get caught in a mental vortex where I beat myself up for taking so long to quit alcohol. But I got sober in time to know that my kids will never, ever see me drunk. I call that a win. #sobermama #sobermom #sobermomtribe #recovery #wellness #inspiration #win #winemomnomore #tellbetterstories
I don’t know how I would be able to do life on the level I’m able to do it if I were still drinking and in active addiction. That said( there are still extraordinarily hard days, weeks and seasons, and I feel👏it👏all). I am in one of those seasons now. It’s overwhelming. But I look to people who have gone through many, many more seasons of sobriety than I have and think, “They did it!” This is very encouraging, especially because they share how. For me this means a lot more than not drinking. But that was a great place to start. 💛 I truly believe I wouldn’t have any of the blessings/challenges/opportunities I have today had I not made the decision and kept making the decision every single day. But I definitely couldn’t do it alone and you don’t need to either. Maybe this is the day you start stopping or stay stopped. If it is, I’m cheering you on and believing in the blessings to come for you too. #tellbetterstories #sober #recovery #progressnotperfection #selfcare
It's probably fair to say that none of us grew up saying “I can't wait to become an alcoholic!” We don't set out to abuse alcohol in the same way we set out to become a farmer or a chemist. There are no text books to read that prepare you for How to Drink Effectively at 11am or exams to write that prove your knowledge of North America's Most Harrowing Hangovers. . It just happens, and one day you wake up and realize you've become top of your class. The problem is, it was never a class you wanted to take. . I remember the slow waking process of coming to realize that I had never signed up for all of this. That I had become someone (some thing?) I had never set out to be. That not once did I add "ability to drink 4 litres of wine before 8pm every day" to my wishlist, but somehow, it happened. It's not like you can just accidentally become a firefighter or unknowingly turn into a nuclear scientist. But you can easily become someone who loses their control over alcohol. If you're here and you're reading this – you know. And I'm pretty sure it was never on your short-list of Who You Want To Be When You Grow Up, either. . Maybe the journey isn’t so much about becoming anything. Maybe it’s about unbecoming everything that you actually aren't, so you can be who you were meant to be in the first place. . The you that your intentions aimed for, but somehow missed. .What I'm learning is that happiness happens naturally when three simple (okay, maybe not simple, but important) things fall into harmony: . What you are thinking What you are saying What you are doing . When those three notes play together they make the most beautiful music, and it will almost always sound like what you wanted to become when you grew up: happy. It's when one or all of those notes aren't in harmony with the others that the music starts to sound more like a piano that just fell from the sky. . Through the slow and ongoing alignment of making sure that ** what I'm thinking, saying and doing are in harmony ** I am finally beginning to become what I always wanted to be when I grew up. . HAPPY. . From "Unbecoming" (I recommend you read the full post!) 👉 link is in my bio!
...did I miss anything?  xo SJ 🙏🚫🍷
#wcw 😍 And it’s all about @americangirlbrand ❤️💁🏼‍♀️ These geniuses do content marketing at its finest, creating so much content around their base product- a doll- that you’re not purchasing a product... you’re purchasing a life and a story and all the ancillary pieces that go along with it ✔️ Well done @mattel #dollface #empoweringgirls #contentmarketing . . . . #aloud #aloudbc #girlpower 💪 #content #contentcreator #marketing #dollskill #brilliant #stories #otherstuff #bookworms #readmore #buymore #crushing #crush 😍 #doingitwell #getitgirls #creativegirls #creativecompanies #storiestotell #tellbetterstories
I know this is an advertisement for ad space, but I took it a different way and it was like a little high five on the Las Vegas Strip. #sober #sobriety #soberlife #motivation #faith #fitness #lifestyle #wellness #mentalhealth #anxiety #addiction #recovery #healthy #happy #productivity #tellbetterstories @tellbetterstoriesmedia #vegas #vegasstrip #lasvegas
Words matter. Sharing your experience matters. I really appreciate @realgirlproject and her recent Huffington Post article that reminds me how we need to keep talking about the reduced anxiety, happier mood and other mind and body benefits we can realize when we remove alcohol from the equation. She completed @whole30 this past January and wrote about the connection between how, during periods of excess, alcohol affected her anxiety, panic attacks, strength during workouts and productivity. “But the 30 days I spent going out less, making plans with friends to do things other than drink or meeting friends who were drinking and choosing not to drink myself were illuminating. I suddenly had more time to read, more time to watch movies, more time to be alone in my thoughts and as a result, more time to be comfortable with hearing them,” she wrote. And while she admits that she isn’t interested in denying the occasional fancy cocktail or glass of red wine she enjoys, this experience has made her more mindful about her drinking choices - and not just drinking “just to drink.” I love these stories and am so grateful we are all starting to talk about it a little more. Thanks Jamie! (Link in profile)
This is what recovery looks like. I’m sweating my face off, on a midday Florida run I didn’t particularly feel like doing. But travelling with three young kids is (newsflash) not easy. And my brain was a bit frazzled, and I need to take care of these things. You see, quitting drinking isn’t about putting down the wine/beer/margarita. Because when life gets frazzled/stressy/lame/boring/etc, you will just pick it up again. And if you didn’t want to do that, you enter the never ending shame and disappointment loop. And, if you’re like me, debilitating anxiety also shows up from time to time. (If none of this sounds familiar, this post doesn’t apply, carry on, friend 😉.) Quitting drinking is the start, then you get to build a life you don’t want to numb from. A life that’s less frazzled/stressy/lame/boring/etc. You get to take radical care of yourself. It’s not that all of a sudden it’s all perfect, it’s that all of a sudden you’re a lot more capable of making it close to perfect. And that looks wildly different depending on who you ask. It always means that you’re more present for those you love, but, honestly, the best part is being more present for yourself. That’s the real magic. And it’s not that I think quitting booze is the answer for everyone, but I’m sure it is for some, and if we don’t talk about it out in the open, it becomes a weird shame-y secret that is so not what it should be. Now excuse me while I take my calmed down mind back to our pool to sip on my komboocha and listen to some tunes. #recoveroutloud #wearetheluckiest #sherecovers #alcoholfree #tellbetterstories
Now there’s a spring collection I can get behind! 👏👏👏 It may seem like a simple message but one that still needs to be said, especially in a culture that centers alcohol. Reminds me of the work my friends @weareingoodco are doing too. I like what I’m seeing out of the UK! Nice job #tellbetterstories @doverstreetmarketlondon @noahclothing #alcohol #marketing #media #sober #recovery Repost @doverstreetmarketlondon with @get_repost ・・・ Noah Spring Summer 2019 collection launches Thursday 14th February at Dover Street Market and on the DSML E-SHOP. @NoahClothing
Is this one hard for anyone else to believe, at times? Or all the time?! . . It’s a hard one for me. And at times I fear that if I believe it, then I’ll become complacent in life and not continue to grow. But as I’m typing this out (personal aha moment) I’m realizing I can truly believe I am enough right now and still hold onto the desire to grow and learn and expand my awareness. . . It’s a small shift internally, but an important one that creates a different level of consciousness. . . How about you? Is this affirmation easy or hard to say and truly believe? What are the fears that get in the way of believing this? . 💗✨ . #soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
Moving up in your organization often means a more public role with more opportunities to tell your organization's story to stakeholders and team members. TellPeople can help you do that—better. Check out our training and one-on-one coaching. #tellbetterstories #tellpeople #communication
I said NO thank you to the prosecco bag! Quick visit the The Works to get a notebook and books this morning and I needed to buy a bag. I saw the glimmering of a bag which caught my eye but I couldn't read the front of it. The sales assistant read it out to me and I said "no thank you, I don't drink". Felt kinda weird but kinda good. I chose a different one instead 💪 @tellbetterstoriesmedia . . . . #soberliving #tellbetterstories #nosecco #soberlife #soberwomen #sobercommunity #nothankyou #prosecco #sobriety #sobrietyrocks #cleanandsober #sobermovement #livingsober #soberlifestyle #wedorecover #sober #choice #recoveryrocks #sobernation #sobermom #recoveryquotes #boozefree #soberevolution #sobermum #ichoosenottodrink #itsoktosayno
Tonight join me @jojo_templedenver for the first ever movie night @mirusgallery featuring the movie The Black Swan + 2 short films from local filmmakers 🎥 This is a free event with food trucks, cocktails and snacks starting at 7pm! • #MovieNight #myfriendsareprettierthanyours #templedenver #tellbetterstories #spaceshipgang #ganggang #mirusartgallery #weownthenight #edm #edmgirls #edmlifestyle #edmmusic #edmlife #denverfashion #denvernightlife #edmlove #edmtrap #edmnation #edmpics #edmdj #edmfestival #edmclub #dance #dj #music #bottlegirls #spaceshiplife
Well, I guess I could tell them I love them, treat them with respect, listen to them with an open heart, comfort them when they are sad, share joyful moments together, I mean really there’s a million ways I could tell my friends I love them without drinking. I swear I’m not trying to sit atop my sober high horse or anything, but sobriety has really opened my eyes to the sneaky ways society makes unhealthy drinking, and being drunk, so much more acceptable and normal than my choosing not to drink. I applaud anyone who can make healthy drinking choices, I however cannot, so I choose to be sober. I guess I’m still grappling with the fact that sobriety makes me feel like an outcast, which, let’s be honest, anyone who has known me for any amount of time knows this is nothing new so it’s not totally unfamiliar. Kind of a rant I know, but what else is social media good for? 🤷‍♀️ Maybe all I’m trying to say is take care of yourself, do what’s right for you, share love with drink or without, and don’t let bar signs convince you otherwise. 💜 #tellbetterstories #soberaf
Life only gets better when you take control #RecRoom #StaffParty #Litty #Roundhouse #Toronto #TellBetterStories
Take a moment and think about one of your goals... are there other thoughts that intrude or linger that may be interfering with a true and clear message to the universe? . Sometimes it shows up as self-doubt... sometimes it shows up as lack of time or energy ... sometimes it shows up as distractions... . Whatever it is that is getting in the way of sending a clear message. Identify it (“I see you”) — honor it — ask it if it has a message for you — and when you’re ready, release it — and refocus on your clear message to the universe. ✨💗 . . . Quote by Maryam Hasnaa . #soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
Making mistakes is human. It is a nutrient in our soil. . Learning — growing — evolving — those are the flowers of our mistakes. 🌺🌻🌼🌸🌷🌺 . And they are beautiful, darling. . . . . . Quote by Brene Brown #soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
Communication and storytelling are RELATIONAL activities. Your message, your ideas, LIVE between you and your audience. You’re never talking to yourself, or writing to yourself. So practise by TALKING IT THROUGH with someone. Say it out loud and to another person. Planning, revising, and editing are important, but communication and storytelling are alive—kind of like memes—and need to be treated as such. Practise, rehearse, observe how it actually goes, revise, repeat. #tellbetterstories #practise #rehearse
The Seattle snow storms have inspired me to slow down and start reading through my ever-growing collection of books on sobriety I’ve picked up over the past few months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve finished Nothing Good Can Come From This from @kristicccoulter and Lit by Mary Karr. I’m halfway through Drink by Ann Dowsett Johnston. And I still need to read Blackout by Sarah Hepola and Drinking A Love Story from Carline Knapp. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Did I miss one of your favorites? Send me a DM or leave a comment below with your recommendations—looking ahead at the forecast this week, I’ll probably have time to finish them all!
It has driven me to near madness, trying to understand how to “let it go” – the holy grail of recovery and growth, fed to me in the pages of self development books and blogs. It’s always the secret ingredient of success stories, without ever telling me where to find this elusive “let-go-ability” or what to do so I could, at long last, let go too. I’ve longed to let my dead rest in peace, to make the past sit still. I’ve wanted to let those things I did - or oftentimes worse, the things I didn’t do – fade to blackness and forgetfulness, to turn into myths as though there were a chance that maybe they didn’t happen after all. The things I’ve said – or definitely worse, the things I didn’t say – to be unspoken or confessed. To be released from gravity and history and lifted from me. “You need to let it go.” Famous words that are usually offered by hoarders of their own regrets, Professional Projectors of Advice who don’t even know themselves how to follow their own suggestions. “Just let it go.” – as though I could stuff all my sorrows into a balloon and send them off to the sky. You can’t simply let go of decades or years, of fleeting moments that have lived on like eternities, lined up like headstones in a cemetery of everything you’ve ever said or done. I always thought that letting go meant forgetting. Burying. Erasing. Dissolving. But letting go is the opposite of all of that. It is about connecting. Resurrecting. Honouring. Allowing. Transforming. Letting be. It’s about letting go of the desire to change the unchangeable. It’s about letting go of myths to make space for the truth of what happened or is happening. Of learning the language of your pain so you can sit with it, comfort it, and accept it. As it is. As it was. Without wishing it were different. Letting go is allowing those events or feelings to be as they are, and to allow them to become solid. To become real. To let your dead have died, to let your words have been spoken, to let your deeds have been done. And it happens in inches. Read the full post "Learning To Let Go" on the blog at LifeInDetox.com (link is in bio!) 🚫🍷🙏
#mcm @tonybakercomedy and this bit on #notdrinking . I’m doing a #dry2019 and whenever I tell people that I’m not drinking there is always a reaction and always questions. I’m on day 41 today, and finding the journey to be exactly what I need it to be. Here’s to #sobercurious living #hipsobriety #mancrushmonday . . . #Repost @tellbetterstoriesmedia with @get_repost ・・・ Not everyone who stops drinking has the same story. I’m open about the reasons I don’t drink and identify as someone who experienced addiction and it’s consequences — and #recovery — but it’s not the same for everyone. I like this perspective because it underscores what non-drinkers hear all the time ... and how crazy it really is. “Explain to us why you don’t drink poison.” Well said 💯💯💯Also, you don’t owe anyone an explanation. 👉And if you are struggling to say “no” today — there is help, you don’t have to go it alone, and there are many of us here to help. 💛 #tellbetterstories #sober #Repost @tonybakercomedy with ・・・ My life. I know im not alone
I LOVE the account @excellentcoatsonirritatedwomen , by which is exactly what it sounds like. So thankful she (@sarajbenincasa ) posted this as well as something to her personal account. I love that more folks are addressing this. Maybe, just maybe, at some point @target and other retailers will begin to take notice? In the meantime, I’ll be over here as a fellow sober and irritated woman, channeling it all into reminding other women that if they are suffering today, there is hope, you’re not alone, and no drug has to be your Valentine. ❤️#tellbetterstories #alcohol #media #marketing #health #womenshealth #sober #valentine #Repost @excellentcoatsonirritatedwomen with @get_repost ・・・ @target hunny r u ok #maybetakeaminute #deepbreathing #therapy #perhapsavodkasoda #somebodyneedsawarmcoatandsomelove #iamsoberbutbourbondeservesashirt
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