My real passion is behind the scene and by myself being creative.....the making of the next magazine that won't be something that people pick up monthly but more of something that will help people to unleash their masks to walk in their true self. You are not alone....
proof that positive black men exist may be the tagline but this magazine will change lives for more than black men. .
#knowyourworth #takeoffthemask #urbanmagazine #onlinemagazine #printedition
No more highlights. Im in a real place and my page is gonna express, not only the outcomes, but the reality of what I got going on. Some days it may mean photoshoots and commercials... other days it may mean frustration and failure. Stay tuned ✊🏾#TakeOffTheMask
Who won? Why is it lost? It has the gps! Shouldn't it say "Failed". 😩
Ok, puns aside(For now).
How do you guide yourself through life? Where are we're even going?
You have to move simultaneously through space and time, but also your city and neighborhood, family and friends, health and wealth, social life and work, bathrooms and kitchens, emotions and concepts.
I think, as an adult, I've programmed my GPS in avoidance mode. 😲 It doesn't know where to go! It has merely a vast map of all things to avoid. At any given time, routes that should be avoided appear in red.....
This sucks! I can watch other people driving exactly where they are trying to go and it feels like I am in their way!
I can go anywhere safely but I can't find anything or all my destinations have to be rerouted so many times that I go home.Too much time and effort to go anywhere and the route home can be the path with the most hazards. The farther out, the harder back.
This is depression caused by anxiety.
I have done massive amounts of reconnaissance and have determined through careful studies that "Fuck that." or other studies that show "It's not worth it for just a look around 😤." It's time that changed.
The time that I'm taking in my life, to be still, is to prepare for a one way journey in the Starship "USS Mindjob". I want to navigate to a new world where It's ok to be myself in my own mind even when it's not ok with anybody around me. I'm a fantastic navigator, pilot, and commander. I just don't have enough supplies yet and if you want to help someone preparing for a journey in a long distance ship, ask them what they need. It may not be another engineering consultant. Maybe it's a little fuel, food, a story of your traveling experience, or just ideas for destinations to explore.👽👾🤖👳♂️
I'm aware I use a lot of metaphors. Every story you love is a great big metaphor for something deeply meaningful to you and I'm the captain of a big ship because that's what sensory issues and an uncontrollable level of attention to detail feel like in a hostile alien territory where you are the alien.
Thanks for being other aliens! 😚
When it comes to getting to know someone WE ALL wear masks 🎭 in the beginning. We put on our best face 😊 in hopes of not scaring others away with our scars. Too many people are attracted to the mask of a person instead of the true makings of them. People wear masks to shield themselves from judgement, disappointment, and misunderstanding. Understand that if you REALLY want to get to know someone from the INSIDE...let the hands of time gently pull of the mask. With observation, disclosure, conversation, and behavior TIME will show you a person’s heart and intentions...these things transcend any mask. A lot of times we stop time from its revelation because we get in the way and stop the process prematurely. Let time and patience work on your behalf...let it protect you and show you what you need to see.
#time #mask #truth #trusttheprocess #revelation #instagood #instagram #inspiration #inspirational #inspire #lifelessons #lifequotes #life #patience #gettoknowme #therealme #takeoffthemask
✨We have all developed Introjects, where we internalize the beliefs of other people✨ This usually starts when we are infants and can continue on into adulthood. Beliefs such as, ‘you’re lazy’, ‘you’re not good enough’, and also, ‘you’re always right’, ‘you’re perfect’. We need these Introjects in order to survive as children, by adopting the beliefs of the adults around us we begin to make sense of the world and ultimately of ourselves. However, we don’t have the mental capacity to truly chew over the information we’re receiving as children, instead it is absorbed without examination. This can become problematic in adulthood when we act in certain ways automatically, without reflection and when such actions are detrimental to us or negates our True feelings and values. For example someone with the Introject of ‘I’m perfect’ or ‘I’m not good enough’, may automatically Always push themselves to achieve, to be the best, in order to prove/validate their Introject. But if we are to have TRUE FREEDOM, starting in our minds/hearts which will no doubt flow over into physical reality, we first have to unpack our Introjects, and find out the core beliefs we have adopted and question whether these beliefs are truly our own. Taking the example of, ‘I’m not good enough’, the work here would be, firstly to become aware of this Introject, question how it’s affecting your life, question if this belief is your own, understand that in fact ‘you ARE good enough’, which will leave room for the CHOICE of using that particular Introject, instead of it being an automatic reaction. When we become aware of ourselves, we gain true freedom to choose how we act/behave, instead of being in the grips of automatic reaction caused by unconscious/unexamined Introjects. What are your Introjects? Does what drive you nourish or negate your own wellbeing? Does it allow you to turn towards or away from yourself? 💜
Whether you're already out or not quite ready yet, never forget that you are loved 💖 and perfect just the way you are! 🦄
Who else LOVES Halloween??? My new wig came for my costume........No I'm not Elsa, but it was too good an opportunity!
It's so much fun pretending and using your imagination. •
It's so much fun being confident and pushing those boundaries.
It's so amazing how for one day of the year, you get to be anyone you want to be and not even think about it! •
There is something magical about Halloween. (More so than the usual awesome magik) we suddenly give ourselves permission to play, explore, let loose, have fun and simply be! •
Imagine what could happen if you applied that to your life every day. •
Imagine what you could get done. •
Imagine what you could become. •
If you could just let go of all those expectations placed on you, by you. •
You are already wearing all the masks. Maybe it's time to take them off and be you.
It’s World Mental Health Day today. Almost forgot to post about it, but then every day should be a mental health day, right? We should be as concerned with our mental health as we are our physical health. .
I just spoke with someone tonight about the things I’m doing for my mental health. I said I would suggest anyone find a therapist regardless of if what they’re dealing with is big or small. Maybe you don’t think you have some diagnosable condition. Maybe you just need to talk through some things. A therapist is an unbiased third-party that can help you.
I’d gone to counseling during college, and I’m so glad to be back in it again. It. Is. So. Helpful! .
So, talk to someone. Whether it’s with you primary doctor, a psychologist, psychiatrist, LMFT, LCSW, etc. Start taking care of your mental health. .
As a Christian - going to therapy, taking medication, practicing techniques to maintain your composure - I don’t believe that any of this goes against Scripture. If you have diabetes, you’d take your medicine to keep your blood sugar in check, right? If you’re a hunter, you’d practice breathing properly before taking a shot with your bow or long-rifle, right? Why are these OK for Christians, but they get wiggy when it comes to taking medication for your mental health, or practicing how to breathe to calm yourself down? Medication helps regulate. Breathing deep & slow has a physiological response on the body that lowers your blood pressure & pulse, and if you can get those lower when you’re feeling anxious or overwhelmed, it can get you back in a place where you can “take every thought captive” again.
Why do I keep talking about this stuff? Because people struggle, and they struggle silently. Because people are carrying wounds and brokenness that aren’t visible by a bandage or accommodated by a placard on your rear view mirror. Because too many people make fun of or dismiss those who struggle with any kind of mental disorder, whether minor or extreme. Because as a Christian, I believe that we are fearfully and wonderfully made, and I want other people to get that, too.
There is a strange paradox towards confidence. When we conform to social norms, we feel confident. Why? Because it is easier to climb quickly to what others are doing. The intimacy with our personhood is challenging for some. The reason being is because they want to follow the personalities, the needs, the drives, and other people’s ambitions, hoping they make the cut to success. Inevitably, you will construct the foundation of the Other, leaving you to be a ghost in their lifestyle.
#empowerment #thrive #quotestoliveby #beunique #confidence #motivation #takeoffthemask #authenticity
Some of us bury our past hurts so deep inside that most days we don’t even notice them sitting there, deep within us, weighing us down. We can deny or delude, but that heavy baggage is still there, gathering dust and cobwebs...shaking awake every so often to remind us that we’re not good enough, smart enough, brave enough.
This doesn’t have to be traditional trauma, either— maybe it was a bad breakup. Your dream college rejecting you. A parent that pushed you into doing work that was practical but not fulfilling. A random comment your 7th grade teacher made about your abilities that still crops up from time to time in your mind. Maybe you try to diminish it, feeling guilt because in the grand scheme of things your life is very fortunate.
The thing is, these things don’t go away when we try to bury them. In fact, they grow legs and sprout up in unlikely places. The great irony? It’s likely secretly driving a lot of the decisions you make to this day, the things you feel you need to prove or the person you think you need to be, or maybe in the ways you feel your children need to be. The schools and activities they need to attend to prove they are worthy. The car we drive and the career we have to prove we are worthy.
Quit carrying it around. It’s SO heavy. So how to start climbing? Practice feeling your feelings about it. Set aside a couple hours each week, literally time block your calendar, and get that shit OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Grab a box of Kleenex, find a friend or a notebook, and get every single thought and feeling out. Sit with it. Don’t even try to move forward or fix anything, just be. Feel the feelings. As you write or say the words that come to you, feel the weight of that baggage lightening. Unpack each item from that suitcase and watch it drift away. It’s going to make that mountain ascent SO. MUCH. EASIER. And at the summit will be so much more clarity on the person you authentically are and the way you want to intentionally live your life.
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Let go of the need to control who you think you should be and allow your authentic self to come forth. You are enough. ❤️
I personally have battled with my mental health for years. I was diagnosed with Anorexia-bulimia with binge purge sub-type at 15, I finally got help at 18 with CBT and gained 3 stone, however even now I have 'blips' and can easily be triggered into old habits.
At 15 I was also diagnosed with chronic depression and severe anxiety, At 17 during 6th form I was at my absolute worst which resulted in me dropping out... I had counselling, but for me that did nothing and I found it too difficult to talk and found everything too overwhelming and exhausting. Eventually, I went back to the Doctors where I was told I had 'Rapid Cycle Depression', aka Bi-Polar Type 2. I was put on anti-depressants/SSRI's which have helped a LOT, but that's not to say I don't still have days where I feel paralysed and incapable of everything.
I am emotionally unstable, I am difficult, I am irrational and erratic and now and again I have outbursts. But I am me, and I'm not ashamed.
There are days I wish it would all end, but I still have to put on a mask and pretend like I'm okay, and it's scary how good I am at that. Embrace your mental health, take care of it and never be afraid to ask for help. Sometimes it's easier to talk to someone who 'gets it', and if anyone needs that chat, I'm happy to be that listening ear. Just know, you are not alone.🖤 P.S. Be kind, ALWAYS.💕 #mentalhealth #awareness #talk #bekind #benice #domore #takeoffthemask #itsokaynottobeokay
There is no-one who sails through life. We perceive others have their shit together when in fact at some point they absolutely won't.
Life is full of comparison, guilt and pressure. No wonder many of us struggle sometimes!
Admitting we're having a hard time can be difficult. We might feel that opening up to others and letting them in makes us vulnerable or weak. It doesn't. It bloody well helps, even just a bit. Believe me. In the past I've been told I'm a strong person. A persona i wanted so badly to maintain. I've taken knocks in the past and dealt with them dead on. But knocks big or small, have an impact and you might not even realise.
We can only mask our feelings for long. We can't always hold it together. So now, rather than saying 'I'm fine" or "I'm ok" (when I'm not really), I'm honest. I've learned it doesn't make me weak. Life is too precious and too short to bottle things up and feel alone in your own head. Let others in to join and help you on your journey.
#takeoffthemask #oknottobeok #strong #mentalhealth #youllbeok #friends #worldmentalhealthday #communicate #share #notfine #noshame #mentalhealthawareness
#mindyourself #takecare #mind #support #headstogether #dontsufferinsilence #headspace #letitout
"Just a tree for me please!"
Today sucks! So far. As Curly from "City Slickers" reminds us "Day ain't over yet." I say reminds because nothing is really known at all. Rhythm and knowledge regenerate. Our connections with our past and ability to walk our future paths lies within our ability to access memory. Memory is chemical code which is not the past but a usable and unreliable impression of what you stored and brought with you to the now. I don't really want much of my past today so that means I feel like I want to cut myself out of myself like a splinter or appendix or waste I no longer need. The same types of feelings associated with contempt, shame and disgust abound. I really want to believe I can feel good and that stupid shit won't always, can't always just get worse. Some reprieve is in order. But I'm reminded as often as my faith persuades my childish heart to care or become excited what that will cost. This morning, car is dead, jumped it off, radio thinks it's been stolen and needs code, code is in manual, in the broken(now really messed up but still not open, so meltdown hangover) glove compartment. I've had no cigarettes and have gone to work but uber is having pay issues again and now I have no gas and can't get my money. So, I am writing instead of ceding to the great siren rhythm of recycling in which I could participate if only I realized the futility of trying and stood very very still and became a forest. For it seems that I cannot see a tree for the forests of my mind. My sense of self no longer settles on anything with solidity. Forests become trees. Trees become collections of cells. They become a group of other things and forces and matter and then nothing ad infinitum. I can't breathe or sleep or feel still anymore because I can't find a single tree.
So today, the first birthday as an autistic man, is the 36th year. That's two 18 years worth of childhood, one good and the last full of suffering. I still feel no confidence as an adult. I just wish I had a tree. I'm calling you out tree spirit! With all the 1000's off feet, I can't think of a single place to go so I'll crawl up on top of dead leaves and sticks, in my armor, and sleep. 😑
I visited a farm the other day ~
I feel very connected to animals ~
They’re sensitive to their surroundings, very much on a fight/flight mode, they don’t judge us humans by labels, they move in ways unique to them and they’re obviously emotional, communicating in other ways than language ~
Sometimes I feel more in tune with them than I do with other people ~
And I don’t think that’s a negative thing at all! 🐰🐷🐏
✨There is enough space for all of You. ✨
Go forth and embody the Warrior(ess) in You, the fiery, strong part who will fight and defend for you.
But don’t forget the small Child in you, the innocent and vulnerable part of you, who will love and pine for you.
The prickly inpatient part of you can take just as much space, as the wise and compassionate part of you. 💜 The human condition(ing) would have it that we would much rather only identify with the strong, beautiful, graceful part of our being. But I hope that we can all have the courage to face the parts of ourselves that we may not always be so proud of. Look with compassion and a critical mind as to WHY we are not proud or even accepting of those parts of ourselves. 💜