I had a coworker at my last job that literally said, “I guess I’d rather stay in a really toxic, stifling environment than risk the uncertainty of doing something new.”
I was literally speechless. She made it into a self deprecating joke, the conversation moved on, and chances are she hasn’t even thought about it since. But I have. Constantly. It HAUNTS me.
She is one of the most talented people I’ve ever worked with. She’s smart, tenacious, passionate, and SO. EFFING. CAPABLE.
She sees all the ways doing something new could go wrong. The known paycheck and status she’d be giving up.
I see the amazing, prosperous, fulfilling future she is giving up. The one where she’s living her dream of running her own business, doing things her way, and totally crushing it. Where there’s a wait list to work with her and interns clamor at the opportunity to study under her. It is so available to her, so possible for her.
This is an established concept in cognitive psychology and decision theory called LOSS AVERSION, which is a fancy way of saying people’s fear of loss is significantly greater psychologically than their desire to gain.
It’s fascinating and fun to read the studies on it, until you consider the actual implications of it. Then it’s terrifying. How many people will never pursue their dreams, live their passions, because they’re afraid to lose the known comfort and security of a paycheck from a job they don’t even like.
Hell is defined as being visited, on your deathbed, by the person you could have become.
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Shy little bunny... So proud that she had the courage to be up there in front of a huge crowd and show off some of her great moves.
Parents, what activities did you put your preschoolers in to help them through shyness? (It runs strong in our DNA!) #hiphopdance#gettinjiggywithit
1 hour ago2015
ITS FRIDAY WHICH MEANS BECKY FROM ACCOUNTING SHOULD’VE BROUGHT GLAZED DONUTS AND IF SHE DIDN’T YOU PROBABLY NEED TO FIND A NEW JOB THAT WILL MORE THAN LIKELY PAY YOU MORE AND ON YOUR WAY OUT YOU CAN POLITELY TELL BECKY TO FUCK OFF #SundayScaries
Our girl @iamsweetaf kills it in the baked goods department 🍒
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CALORIE COMPARISON: McDONALDS by @lb3fitness
👹 Sometimes, when the #sundayscaries hit, and you are hungover as hell, you just want some McDonald’s. Or maybe you’re traveling, and fast food is the only option. Obviously, I could just tell you “never eat that crap!”, but I’m a realist, not an idealist. I live in the real world, and in the real world sometimes you need fast, cheap, and easy.
🙀 That doesn’t mean however, that you need to blow your entire weeks calories on one meal with a stop at the Golden Arches. Just be mindful, and try to mitigate the damage you’re doing, and then to get right back on track after.
☝🏻So here are some pointers for your fast food fix:
🍗 Opt for chicken. Grilled if possible. Every fast food place has grilled options these days.
🚫 Say “NO” to cheese and mayo, to save yourself a few HUNDRED calories. This one is big.
🍟 Let’s be real, you want fries. That’s fine. Keep them small though.
🥤 water or diet soda. A regular size full sugar soda is an extra 3-400 calories by itself.
🕺🏽💃🏼ENJOY IT! If you are going to have some crappy food, that’s fine. But make it worth it. Enjoy it. Don’t beat yourself up about it. Just leave the junk when you walk out the door, and get right back to your nutritious diet your next meal.
🚨Glute-ham raises are easily one of my favorite exercises for the posterior chain
🚨Most of the people I see at the gym are pulling from their backs, which can lead to back pain and injuries down the line. Pulling from your hamstrings and glutes, maintaining a neutral spine the whole movement, squeeze hard at the top and control the eccentric on the way down. -
🚨Here’s a little drop set, holding a plate for 6 explosive reps, dropping the plate and finishing with just body weight.
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“Steve... Your TPS reports can wait. You think this fantasy football team is gonna manage itself?” #SundayScaries
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Monday’s can be such a struggle sometimes. The #sundayscaries exist for a reason, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Here are a few of my tips for overcoming the mountainous week ahead:
❄️ Plan out your meals - one of the biggest annoyances is coming to the end of a week knowing you are a bunch of crap because of convenience. I write out each and everyone of my meals to try to prevent this. Then, I know exactly what I’m eating which leaves room for less junk
❄️ Make a list of what needs to be done that week - The never ending to do list 😱 after I make my list, I assign 1-3 tasks for each day. Then I have pure joy when I get to highlight it off ☺️
❄️ Schedule your workouts - if you are going to workout, you need to make it a priority. My times are either 5:30am or 6:30pm.
❄️ Stop all work by 8:30pm. Then take that 30 min - hour to just relax. Take a bath, read, catch up on a show, do a face mask. Really take that time for yourself
Bottom line? Schedule ahead. This always helps my mind stay clear, decrease my anxiety, and allow myself to recharge.
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4 days ago36120
Forget Sunday scaries...forgetting to put a screw in will give you the Monday scaries👀😩
(Via @wyatt.hartman )
4 days ago250491
Sometimes Mondays aren’t as bad as I make them out to be on Sunday nights 😏 Today was a great Monday. I am actively trying to spend less weekend time with unnecessary anxiety about absolutely nothing in particular! #SundayScaries are real. Like what is this stress which cannot be mapped to any one thing that I knowingly box up all weekend and have to face head on on Sunday nights?! Any tips? P.S. I’m really excited for more holiday time off to really unplug soon!
We are getting in some major holiday spirit here at Library Bar! Tune in at the beginning of every week to find out about our weekly holiday cocktails. This week, meet Jack Froth: Bailey’s + Vodka + Coffee + ☃️
4 days ago9147
Starting petition to change “Monday” to “Merlot-day”. 🍷
To help you recover from any lingering #sundayscaries , here's a dreamy pic of the hottest (and seriously the sweetest!) hunk at Bev Hills Senior High. <3
4 days ago015
day 8 ❄️ it’s week 2 of the #tiuholidayhustle babes!
I had a real case of the #sundayscaries yesterday and was stressing out about getting back to the work week grind today - anyone else know that feeling? I’m always the hardest on myself and get all worked up about things that have yet to happen...
but I decided to focus on the fun things in the week ahead - the workouts I had planned, a little after work date night to catch up with my friend & a work outing on Friday to check out a new art exhibit at the Whitney! 🖼
all those fun things make the not so exciting work week a lot brighter and help me get through the days - new week, new goals!! 💪🏻🥂💕