Who needs friends? Well, for years I thought Aiden did. He always struggled to make friends, let alone keep them, he was never invited to a birthday party or a play date and as for sleepovers, well he’s 18 and we’re still waiting!
The only kids he ever socialised with were my friends kids - because they had no choice, and over the years they grew to accept him! You certainly find out who your real friends are when you have a child with additional needs!
Anyway, after years of desperately trying to get him some friends, and feeling really sad for him, it turns out he’s actually, genuinely not bothered. Aidens’ concept of friends is very different to ours, therefore, that need for friends, as we know them, is just not there. This was incredibly hard for me to understand especially when I, desperately need my friends and the busyness of people around me.
Just to be clear, I know this is not the case for all children on the spectrum and many become truly distraught with their struggles over friendships. I see it all the time at the school where I work, and for that reason, I now completely accept that this aspect, for Aiden, and those like him, is a positive one! All those years of worry, when I should have been celebrating!
Let me give you an example of Aidens’ idea of friends from just this week.
We went to the cinema as a family along with another family (family friends). I tell the kids to choose their seats. Aiden chose a seat on the end of an row, away from everyone else and placed his popcorn on the seat next to him. ‘Aiden’, I say, ‘your friend, Abby, would like to sit next to you?’ To which he replies ‘I’m sorry, my friend ‘Popcorn’ is already sitting there and I like popcorn more than I like Abby!’ Now you can see why we’ve lost so many friends over the years!
The only person that matters to Aiden, is Aiden! He can’t put himself in someone else’s shoes, to understand how they might feel and therefore holds no guilt - what a lovely place that must be!
Aiden is happy with who he is! He never questions it, so why should I?
When we try to make kids conform, we have to be mindful about who we’re doing it for, is it for their benefit or ours
KIDS ART. CREATING HOPE.
Together we put so much heart and effort into our brand as well as being full time mums and part time working our other jobs. Our passion towards raising money for our belief runs through our mind 24/7.
Its about the interaction with kids, the freedom and innocent creative minds of the youngsters. They experience so much enjoyment when they’re drawing, not just for us, at kinder, childcare and at school. They are so proud of their work and creativity and we are too. Thats why we as parents display them on the fridge.
Jacana Kids is a brand to embrace children and their minds. To encourage the artist in them. You find these days its all about tablets, smartphones, smartwatches and gaming consoles etc. Kids are unconsciously being restricted in the freedom of their minds, by playing these electronic devices. Back when we were growing up these things didn’t exist. We had to create our own play environment. Create our own stories, create our own memories and express ourselves through our art and drawings.
Research shows that children can communicate through their drawings. Not always being able to speak and/or use the right words. You can gain insight into their feelings and emotions. Its also as simple as developing hand eye coordination and strengthening their fine motor skills. Believe it or not, drawing enhances a child’s problem solving skills, which to use next pen or pencil? what colour to use? where to draw? etc. This then leads on to prepare them for school.
Don’t get me wrong, electronic devices are a definite part of our kids future, but we want to encourage to go back to the basics at an earlier age. Thats why our workshops are all about drawing, they're about setting their minds free, they are learning, developing, communicating, problem solving, imagining and strengthening their little minds to prepare them for the huge world out there, and in doing so, they are also helping kids with disabilities and special needs to do the same. KIDS ART. CREATING HOPE
A little thought for the day which I think will be on behalf of SEN needs parents everywhere;
If you meet someone who has a child with a disability, genetic condition or additional needs, please don’t ask the question “What’s wrong with her/him?”
I can guarantee you that the answer will always be “nothing”
Whilst I understand that it may be out of curiosity, care or interest about someone and whenever I have been asked this question it has come from a good place, but the word ‘wrong’ would imply there is something bad about our child and I can assure you that is never the case. If you look at the definition of the word wrong you can see how it can be quite offensive to a parent, especially if they may be struggling with the added pressures and demands that come with being a SEN parent.
By all means ask questions, be interested, be intrigued just please don’t say “what is wrong with them?” Because there will never be anything ‘wrong with them’
Sorry for the rant... @frankiesaysrelaxaboutt21
Says I should ‘blog’ more 😂
#specialneeds #praderwillisyndrome #factoftheday #thoughtoftheday #blog #senparent
#familytravel #mauritius #autismtravel #wheelchairfriendly
Envisage your perfect holiday destination and you will find Mauritius. With so much breathtaking beauty and lush landscape to discover, you’ll have the family holiday of a lifetime on this tropical island paradise.
Nestled in beautifully landscaped tropical gardens and close to the sleepy village of Belle Mare, the modern LUX* Belle Mare is the perfect place for a luxurious family beach escape. Younger guests are going to be in their element at ‘Play’, the resort’s fun and exciting kids’ club for guests aged three to eleven. Open until 10pm, it’s jam-packed with features to keep your little ones entertained, with a splash pool, an outdoor culinary school, an interactive buffet station and much more besides. With the kids free to play and make new friends, you can indulge in a relaxing session at the spa. You’ll also find a huge array of land and water sports to enjoy, whether it be a laidback game of golf on one of the three world-class courses, horse riding on the beach or snorkelling with the marine life in the house lagoon.
شاركنا رأيك فيما يخص الوجهات المختارة ، و نرحب ب أي اقتراحات ل وجهات اخرى.
.العرض ل وقت محدود جداً.
Easy like a Sunday morning..... Harper has definitely taught me to slow down and enjoy the little moments, there is no race in life so what’s the rush ? It’s so easy to compare our children to one another and think ours is developing better than yours because, they can sit up, they can walk or even talk maybe... but we need to stop this invisible competition as let’s face it what does it achieve apart from negativity?? yes celebrate your child’s milestones as they only happen once in their tiny lifetime, but don’t stress if they’re not there yet, don’t put that un-necessary pressure upon yourself, as you have them to look forward to and in the meantime enjoy the little moments in between, parenting is not about being perfect but instead to show your child how to love, care and be happy in life #wouldntchangeathing
Продолжаем тему патрефлексов. Сегодня рассмотрим второй тонический рефлекс - СШТР.
Центры симметричного шейного тонического рефлекса (СШТР) находятся на уровне шейных отделов спинного и нижних отделах продолговатого мозга. Нервы, выходящие из этих отделов, иннервируют мускулатуру шеи, и именно поэтому пусковыми механизмами рефлекса является растяжение или сжатие этих мышц при наклоне, разгибании, повороте головы ребёнка.
Всё дело в собственных или проприоцептивных рецепторах, которые находятся внутри волокон мышцы и улавливают изменение её тонуса. Эти рецепторы передают сигналы в кору больших полушарий. У детей с ДЦП пути передачи и обработки этих сигналов повреждены, поэтому они распознаются неправильно и запускается механизм патологического рефлекса.
СШТР - симметричный шейный тонический рефлекс, который проявляется в изменении тонуса мышц конечностей в зависимости от положения головы. При сгибании головы – рефлекторно сгибаются руки и разгибаются ноги. При разгибании головы – разгибаются руки и сгибаются ноги.
Действие СШТР сохраняется при любом положении тела – стоя, сидя, лежа на боку, спине, животе.
Для ребенка до 8 месяцев это врожденная рефлекторная реакция, у детей с ДЦП эта реакция сохраняется и после 8 месяцев. Слабо выраженный симметричный шейный тонический рефлекс, в возрасте старше 8 месяцев, не приводит к серьезным патологиям. Сильная выраженность приведет к формированию контрактур в конечностях.
Кроме того, не угасший СШТР препятствует синхронизации дыхания, произвольному открыванию рта, движениям языка, что влечет за собой нарушения речи.
Следует помнить, что при сильно выраженном ЛТР, шейные тонические рефлексы заметны слабо. При уменьшении выраженности лабиринтного тонического рефлекса (ЛТР) шейные тонические рефлексы становятся заметнее.
Всем деткам здоровья!❤
🌺”Our new foster sister made it all the way from Hawaii and @rainbow.friends.sanctuary
🌺Mom loves her already!♥️
🌺She has a lot wrong with her legs because she has #swimmerssyndrome
so her recovery could be a very long road🙁Therapy started today!🙏🏽
🌺We may name her “Little Lumahai”🌊☀️🌴Mom said that’s her favorite beach on Kauai🌴Then we could call her “Luma” for short🌺What do you guys think?🌺Her name right now is BabyCakes which is pretty dang cute so we can call her that, too😍We are very grateful to Lauren, momma to @pearl.the.poi.puppy
for bringing this miracle puppy to us @luvabledogrescue
🌺 #differentlyabled #specialneeds