How can you have the momentum you need to get started?
Motivation is not this magic pill that's going to suddenly make you want to do the thing you didn't want to do.
You're never going to want to do the thing!
Motivation is NOT: Can I do something that makes me want to do it?
Motivation IS: Can I make myself do the thing that I don't want to do, because I understand how important it is to become the person I want to be.
What's the leverage that you need to force yourself to get yourself to the place you want to get to? “Because the world needs your spark. The world needs your energy. ... We need your ideas. We need your love and care. We need your passion. ... We need you to stop apologizing for who you are and become who you were meant to be.” #RachelHollis
Drop a 👊🏻 if you’re gonna get that workout in even when you’d rather stay cuddled up in sweats.
Buenos días ☀️ y feliz lunes a todos- menos a los que no tienen que trabajar hoy, a ustedes no 😂😂
Sobriety is something no one else can make you commit to. It must be a lifestyle choice that comes from the soul. Sobriety also takes up such a large space in your life that it requires so much work on yourself, for yourself and by yourself, that at times it’s exhausting with highs and lows that seem to go on forever. This work never seems to stop, although I have been told that it does. That’s why you really need to want to give up alcohol for yourself and not because someone wants you to or you’ve been told to. You need to make that commitment yourself. Although if you trip up don’t give up, nothing worthwhile is ever easy to achieve. Keep working on it...✨✨✨
At Women's Circle last night, one of my beautiful sisters talked about how we are always trying to overcome a problem with the expectation that life will improve after that.
When I got home, this popped up on my news feed and reiterated the fact that there will always be painful periods in life, just as there will always be amazing times. And in between is the day to day mundanity that we all get lost in.
I've been learning to take life as it comes; the good, the bad, the mundane. One of the hardest things about recovery is no longer being able to hide from your emotions. To drown them, suffocate them, quieten them.
So if you're having a tough day today, try this exercise. Find a quiet and safe space to sit for a few minutes. Focus on what you are feeling. Ask yourself why you are feeling this way, really dig deep. Give yourself permission to feel this way. Sit and explore your thoughts and feelings until you understand them more and can figure out what to do next.
Treat yourself kindly and with compassion. You are allowed to feel negative emotions. Once we begin to face them, to really listen to what they are saying, we can change how we manage them in a more nurturing, healthy way.
I’ve been a man on a mission for over two years now. I nearly lost everything while being stuck in my selfish, alcoholic ways. I hit rock bottom in late 2016 when I had played all my cards and was left to face myself in the mirror. I saw a tired, embattled, waste of a man. I looked hopeless and felt worse than that inside. I was literally a lost soul. It took more work than I ever could’ve imagined to get up and go to a meeting, to ask for help, and to admit to myself that I was, indeed, an alcoholic. As hard as this was to do, the amount of weight lifted off my shoulders was the most emancipating experience I could’ve ever imagined. I live with purpose. I help others when given the opportunity. I listen, I love, and I cherish all the little moments of life. I can’t say this enough: no matter how hopeless and how far you’ve fallen, God has a plan for you. Don’t ever give up hope, no matter how many times you stumble. God knows I’ve stumbled many times, but we have to always get back up, and fight the good fight. Why? Because you never know who’s watching you, who will ask for your advice, your helping hand, or just simply to tell them it’s going to be okay because you’ve been there too. I’ve been a man on a mission, not only to get my self back on track, but to be able to be there for others who are struggling. “We keep what we have only by giving it away. We give of ourselves freely without the expectation of receiving anything in return.” #beofservice #giveitawaytokeepit #sober #sobriety #ibrokeupwithalcohol #manonamission #thoughts #soberissexy #soberaf #soberthoughts #idoallmyownstunts #soberblogger #helpthosewhocannothelpthemselves #soberlife #soberandfun #soberlifestyle #sobermovement #sobercommunity #sobertribe
This week I am letting go of what is not meant for me... people, places and things. On that note, this is my, “Not today, satan,” face!! 👿 It’s also time for me to stop entertaining the idea that I’m not good enough... f%*k the negative thoughts!! I am letting people and situations get to me that really do not deserve a second thought. I also need to stop giving so much attention to things that bother me... if I dwell on it, of course it is going to continue upsetting me. It is comforting to know that I have the ability to choose what I focus on, when I start to get whacky... if I can just remember that I do have that power. Tonight I walked past a whiskey bar and for a split second, thought how nice it would be to have a few, especially on this cold night! Fortunately I’m able to play it forward and know the shit-show that would ensue if I had a few whiskeys! 🥴 I kept walking and now I’m about to go home and go to bed! Tomorrow is my Friday and I’m so ready for some skiing and sleeping!! Long days in the office tend to get me thinking way too much and all up in my head!! 🤯 Anyway, I hope everyone got through the weekend sober and ready to start a new week! I am feeling confident in my decisions and want to choose better for myself! I deserve to be happy and not dwelling on all the negatives, especially when there is SO much to be grateful for! Much love, as always!! 😘🙏🏼❤️✨
Shout out to the Instagram #sobertribe
y'all are "AMAZING"
I forgot to post these! I got these for my girl for #ValentinesDay
. I usually dont buy flowers because they die. I would rather get her something that will last. But, my sponsor reminded me one time that #memories
last! We have been together for 10 years. We were in active addiction for the first 7.5 of that. We tried to get clean many times during that period. Quitting was never that difficult. It was staying quit that we struggled with. And, in reality, I have almost a year clean longer than her. Everyone told me that it wouldn't last between us. They told me that I needed to leave her. They told that she would get me high before I got her clean. They told me that I didn't know who I was, let alone her, and until i learned who that was, it wouldn't last. Well, #TheLieIsDead
!!! It was not easy! But, i refused to give up on her. What kind of person would I have been being of service to all these strangers that were addicts seeking recovery and then turningy back on someone that I had given my heart to for years? I went through the gauntlet of emotions with her. I tried everything that I could to "make her stop." At first I would take her using personal. I would try to #Shame
her into stopping. Then I would get angry and belittle her for using. After that I would try to make her feel guilty for getting high. How easily we forget all the things that others did to us over our own personal usage!! It didn't work on me! How selfish and thoughtless it was fore to expect it to work on her!! It wasn't until I fully surrendered to the principle of "attraction not promotion" that she finally made the decision for herself. She recently celebrated her first year completely free from all mind and mood altering substances! Our lives have NEVER been better! We have a love and understanding that most couples will never know! She works her program and I work my own. We find common ground through #Love
#WeDoRecover #CleanAndSerene #Addiction #RecoveringAddict #AddictionRecovery #TwelveSteps #JustForToday #ODAAT #NarcoticsAnonymous #HopeDealer #SpiritualNotReligious #SpiritualAF #GodsWill #NAIOU1 #NAJFT #Sober #LiveClean #SoberFun #SoberTribe
Así mismo me sentía yo. Estaba loca por darme un palo/copa de vino/margarita para sentir esa felicidad que tanto se anuncia y alega sienten las perdonas al beber pero no lo sentía. Me di cuenta que pare de sentirlo hace años (si en algún momento lo sentí). El alcohol no me añadía nada, solo me quitaba. Me quitaba sueño, felicidad, paz mental, tranquilidad, autoestima, salud... así que decidí dejarlo and work on my own happiness. No ha sido nada fácil. Ya mi cuerpo esta acostumbrado al alcohol, pero las metas se logran con perseverancia y mucha fuerza y fe en sí mismo. Y aquí estamos 🥰💖
Oooo yes, I’d love to take a bath and get out reeking of an alcoholic drink 🙄🤦♀️ #whyyyyyyy
HAPPY SOBER CELEB SUNDAY! Hoy tenemos a: Natalie Portman y Calvin Harris 🥳🥳
Lol, 😂 #repost @vintage_covers @yesthatone76
Me: when people always say with *confused face* ”Did you write this?” and I reply (again) ”yes” what else was I doing at University for six bloody years!?
.... y llegó el domingo 🥳
Sad but true. Don't keep making the same mistakes. It's only a mistake if you don't learn from it! 🦋🦋🦋
Nine months sober today. And this alleged baby never made an appearance either!
What a fucking achievement. Ultimate party girl quits drinking, manages to retain most of her mates, completes a module of her masters, starts a PGDE, pays off all of her credit card debt (and some of Hubs'), saves money, takes up a million different hobbies and loses 2 stone. Yeah, that's right fuckers, I'm back at a solid two stone loss this morning too. Big headline, eh?! I still can't believe I've made it this far. I remember how fucking hard it was at the start and compared to now and how little it bothers me on a day to day basis, it's amazing. Every aspect of my life has changed for the better, I only wish I'd done it sooner.
Thank you to Hubs for his never ending support and for still checking in when he thinks I might be on an emotional drinking path. To my best mate Ger whose wise words started me on this path. To @massive_pop
who always provides alternative drinks for me and presents for milestones. To every friend who has popped round with flowers or bath salts or books when I have been struggling. And to all of the new friends I have made in the last nine months who have shown me that Sober Kiki is fucking awesome. Who have taught me to love myself the way that they love me.
Thank you, I wouldn't have been able to do this without you.
We had a fantastic time at the @joinclubsoda
Bucks lunch in Amersham today! It was lovely to meet everyone and we’re looking forward to the next one! 💛💛💛
No falla... 🤦🏻♀️ ¿Quién más está cansado de lo mismo?
Buenos días ☀️ Llegamos al weekend!!! Para mi los weekends son los días más difíciles para mantenerme sober pero siempre me siento más fuerte cuando se terminan. Aprovechen estos días libres para cuidarse a sí mismos. Si actualmente están sufriendo de un hangover, not to worry! Nunca es tarde si la dicha es buena 🥰 Remember: self-love is KEY🌟
Finally, my blog is up! I'm so excited and I hope that you like it. One post, small steps but I am feeling really good about it. Just click on the link in my bio and check it out! Happy Saturday, waking up without a hangover is always a wonderful way to begin the weekend. Enjoy...😘😘😘
Definitely on a first-name basis with my demons!! 😆😈🤔
Pretty excited to be featured on @wearesober
Recovery Professionals!💜💥 Check our Laura’s IG Page and site and see all the awesome things people are doing in their own recovery journey. I’m just going to say this but there are so many creative AF souls in this community and I love how recovery has opened up that light within them. Living their true purpose. We do Recover and do some pretty fucking incredible things. Link in bio!🚫🥃
For all you sober curious friends!
Many times... a night out with friends, birthday parties, bachelorette parties, weddings, holidays, wine tasting excursions, etc. would include consuming at least 3-4 drinks across the span of the evening for me.
I remember during my annual check-ups when my doctor would ask how much I drink in a week, I definitely wouldn’t tell her the full story. I knew it wasn’t healthy to be drinking the amount I was, but I also knew a majority of my friends and the people I knew were also consuming a similar amount, so I didn’t think of myself as abnormal.
Now, as I’ve taken this journey of sobriety, my eyes are being opened to all the major health risks and to the fact that many of my previous drinking days were considered HIGH RISK.
3 or more drinks in one day is considered high risk drinking for women. And more than 7 in one week.
High-risk drinking means a higher chance of cancer and other health ailments.
Fortunately, the human body is amazing and can regenerate cells and has the inner wisdom to heal itself. So, I’m hoping my body will heal itself of the damage that I may have already caused.
If at any point you are considering cutting back on your drinking or stopping altogether, know that it’s never too late to let your body start healing itself. 💗✨🙌
#soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
It's Friday, and it's all good! Have a super sober weekend 💃🏻💃🏻💃🏻
Hablando claro, yo al principio me hacía esta pregunta demasiado. Hasta antes de parar de beber, solo pensar en parar me daba ansiedad porque sentía que mi vida social desaparecería. To my surprise, esto no necesariamente pasó. Tengo que admitir que no me interesa para nada salir a sitios con mucha gente cuando todo el mundo esta bebiendo y mucho menos salir hasta las tantas. La verdad es que nunca he sido ese tipo de persona, pero como todos mis amigos lo eran pues decidía beber y el tiempo pasaba más rápido. Muchas veces me sentía mal por querer irme temprano o simplemente no tenía pon. Ahora que no estoy bebiendo estoy haciendo solamente lo que de verdad quiero hacer. La semana pasada janguié low key hasta la media noche y después me fui a dormir. No me dio nada de FOMO. Es más, sentí que hasta disfruté más porque tuve muchas conversaciones genuinas que no creo que las hubiese tenido si bebía para entretenerme en lo que me iba. Creo que el key está siempre en que hagas lo que quieras que te haga sentir cómodo. Personalmente recurría a beber muchas veces por social anxiety porque no sabía como manejar revoluses de personas en barras o whatever and guess what? NO ONE HAS TO DO THAT TO HAVE A SOCIAL LIFE 😲 ANYWAY tldr: no hace falta beber to have fun pero sí la vas a pasar mal si sales pensando en que la vas a pasar mal porque no estas bebiendo. Piensa en lo bueno siempre y si te sientes incómodo o cansado o te quieres ir porque sí, lárgate palca. En un post pasado mencioné que siempre es bueno salir con alguien que sepa que estas parando o cortando la bebida. Si sientes que esto te va a ayudar DO IT!! Happy weekend mi gente y que la pasen de show!
I'm currently reading #thebodykeepsscore
’Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma’ by #besselvanderkolk
to research how trauma effects us and its relationship to anxiety, panic attacks and addiction. 📚📚📚
Claim your day. Write down 3 goals and accomplish them today. The process is One Day At A Time. ❤❤