As you have probably noticed, I love to share posts that have great quotes or are just posts that stop me in my tracks and demand I read and reread. And reflect. And learn. This is one such post. And one of many beautifully written by one of my favourite instagrammers and bloggers. Please visit and you will see what I mean. Thank you @lifeindetox
Move in faith, not in fear.
I took this photo a couple of years ago, enjoying every minute of being hangover-free in such beautiful surrounds. But that weekend didn't all go smoothly. ⠀
We arrived on Thursday night for a networking event. I've never liked networking events, not even when I was drinking. But I was excited about this one. As finalists for a biz award, I couldn't wait to meet the other biz owners and share the story and message of Sexy Sobriety. ⠀
When I look back now, I can see the danger signs. Despite my excitement, I was also exhausted from a hectic week, hungry, and wearing painful heels. The only alcohol-free options were Coke or plain water. 😝 When it came time to give my speech, I got flustered and messed it up. Afterwards, during chit-chat, I awkwardly gave the shortest answers possible, shifting the conversation straight back to the other person. ⠀
Just the perfect storm of a difficult night, really. Not the end of the world, by any means, but walking back to our hotel room, I couldn't help but feel deflated. I felt sad that it was sometimes hard. In that moment... honestly? I felt triggered. ⠀
Back in our room, we discovered a complimentary bottle of chilled champagne had been placed in our room. And I could only shake my head and laugh. ⠀
"That's it!" I declared to Dom, heading for the mini bar. I pushed past the ridiculously huge bottles of booze, and reached way in the back for the vegan chocolates. I slipped into a bath robe, made us both a cup of tea, and jumped onto the bed, enjoying a heap of those peppermint chocolates in a row. Soooo much better. ⠀
The next morning, of course, I felt human again. That night, as I did my make-up for the gala dinner, I was so grateful to be feeling nerves and excitement, rather than numbing myself. ⠀
At that event, there was delicious food, sparkling mineral water with fresh lime (my favourite!), and a ton of inspiration from the guest speakers. And I didn't miss alcohol even one tiny bit.⠀
Sometimes events will be hard. But the next event just might exceed your expectations. ⠀
Bad days are just bad days. Hold on for the good ones, hon. They're coming, and you'll be SO glad you waited for them. ❤️ ⠀
This morning I went for a long walk. And the colour that kept my attention was white. Snowdrops, frost, street signs, road signs, trainers, baby caps, cars, vans, paint. Once I noted the snowdrops, I saw white everywhere. So I reckoned this was my colour for today. And I’m taken by the idea of new beginnings. Because for me that is how it is. Fast walks first thing. My new thing. And if last night is anything to go by, it’s working. No nightmares in the night to make me feel incredibly anxious without knowing why. So maybe brisk early morning exercise is the answer? No looking at phones after 7 pm until now, nearly 10 am. Oh and no coffee yesterday. Would hate to forgo coffee permanently but will do anything to rid myself of unexplained, unspecific feelings of anxiety. Feeling calm and ‘normal’ as I sip camomile tea. Meditation after. So grateful to have this time to myself to take care of myself properly. Hope everyone is feeling good. What is your colour for today? Which one springs to mind? What is it telling you? My white is making me feel hopeful and complete. Grounded, surrounded in snowdrops, natures’s new beginnings.
. Blimey and wow. Mind blown. Almost too much for this time on a Tuesday.
Today is 50 days sober for me. Time is flying - next goal is 💯
“So even if the hot loneliness is there, and for 1.6 seconds we sit with that restlessness when yesterday we couldn't sit for even one, that's the journey of the warrior.” – Pema Chödrön
Oh how I know the journey of the warrior.. And I bet you know the journey of the warrior.. I’m guessing as part of the human experience we all know a bit of the journey of the warrior - because life is hard and beautiful all at the same time.. And that kind of stuff is not meant for the weak. And God doesn’t make the journey back to source easy – I truly believe my battle with “the drink” is my cross to bear to find my way home... It truly is my “journey of the warrior” to find my divine.. #sober #soberlife #livethislife #recovery #teetotaler #wedorecover #sobercommunity #soberlove #alcoholfree #afaf #lovewarrior #sobersisters #glennondoyle #day25
SOBER | BEAUTY | BIRTHDAY
We’re so excited to help this Sober Beauty, Sandra, celebrate 5 YEARS OF SOBRIETY!!! 💖
Here she shares her words.....
“February 17, 2014
was the first day in a long time I didn’t pick up a drink of alcohol.
I thought alcoholics were the people on the streets that pushed carts around with all of their personal belongings or people in jail who had too many DUIs. I thought they were people older than 50. I thought they were people who had a “real” problem.
I didn’t know that at 24 years old I could be living in a hell I created for myself. Desperately wishing every day that I just wouldn’t wake up tomorrow. Promising myself that I wouldn’t drink every morning and by the end of the evening I would be drunk.
I thought the solution was to end my life. I knew how and every ounce of my being wanted to that day.
Instead, I made it to a place where they told me I didn’t have to drink no matter what. One day at a time.
We call it a birthday because it’s like you are born again. Out of the misery and rubble I call my bottom I got to start over again. I just had to ask for help. God granted me the gift of desperation and the willingness to do whatever it took to stay sober.
My story isn’t unique and my story isn’t “that bad” but i know that without recovery I would not be alive today.
So I’m grateful, humbled and blessed to get to spend another 24 hours above ground sober.”
Let’s all send her some LOVE & CONGRATULATIONS!!! @sandycakesfit
#soberbeautybirthday #5yearssober #congratulations #onedayatatime #yourockgirl #happybirthday #soberbirthday
I can see myself sitting in a corner, babbling and rocking back and forth. There will be no more fun in drinking and for this I am certain.
I’ve been AF for a month! I’m so glad I took this step and am so excited for what the future holds. I know recovery is a process and no matter how much I want everything to be ‘super great right this very second’, that everything will unfold in time as it’s meant to. Here’s to recovery and having the courage to look at myself honestly so that I can do the work. It’s time. And a huge shout out to all of the #sobersisters
out there that inspire me every single day! 👊Y’all rock! #showingupformyself #recovery #healing #sobriety #sobermom #sober #soberlife #sobrietyforwomen
For the past six months I have wondered how things that I used to love will ever be the same without drinking. One of them especially is playing gigs with my band. I mean, part of the fun was getting ready with a glass of wine or two. And let’s be honest...”sipping” all the way to a show and for the 4 hour duration of the show. So this is a picture from our gig on Saturday night. If I am honest, I am still adjusting to my new normal when it comes to playing gigs. I am trying hard to find the true enjoyment of what it means which is the music and entertaining. What I do know is that I play better, I sound better, and my band members know it and they express it. And there IS simple joy in nailing the harmonies on 7 Bridges Road or belting Hit Me With Your Best Shot to perfection. Or not missing one key on Piano Man. So...I guess I’m sort of answering my own question huh?😂Acknowledging all of these things is making me realize how we perceive what brings joy now. And the best part? Although I was still crawling into bed at two in the morning, I woke up hangover free and ready to spend my 30th anniversary celebrating with my hubby! Last year at this time my perfect anniversary day would have been sleeping away my hangover. So there’s that! Anyway I guess after thinking through this as I write it, the moral of the story is all things CAN be even better in sobriety! I guess it’s up to us to make sure they are! Gives me hope and makes me grateful! Have a fantastic sober week Tribe!!!#sobriety #sober #sobersisters #soberissexy #band #sobergigs
. #findingjoysober #recovery #sobercourage #ihavegotthis #grateful #blessed #rockon
How can you have the momentum you need to get started?
Motivation is not this magic pill that's going to suddenly make you want to do the thing you didn't want to do.
You're never going to want to do the thing!
Motivation is NOT: Can I do something that makes me want to do it?
Motivation IS: Can I make myself do the thing that I don't want to do, because I understand how important it is to become the person I want to be.
What's the leverage that you need to force yourself to get yourself to the place you want to get to? “Because the world needs your spark. The world needs your energy. ... We need your ideas. We need your love and care. We need your passion. ... We need you to stop apologizing for who you are and become who you were meant to be.” #RachelHollis
Drop a 👊🏻 if you’re gonna get that workout in even when you’d rather stay cuddled up in sweats.
My last drink was red wine from a paper cup on May 23, 2016 in my hotel room in Disney World, “the happiest place on earth.” It was my first, last, and only wedding anniversary.
I now believe that THIS, my everyday life, is the happiest place on earth. ⠀⠀⠀
Thank-you to all of YOU who have helped me along the way. 💛 📸@kelsaaayl
This week on the podcast, Tammi and Sondra are happy to welcome Jodi White. Jodi is a licensed therapist who through working on her own issues around codependency and alcohol, found that she was a love addict. She now specializes in helping others struggling with love addiction, substance abuse and trauma through her private practice is Austin, Texas. They also talk about her time living on both coasts, her relationship with Guru Singh and the piles of journals she found cleaning out an old storage space in New York and how they are helping her unpack her love addiction, which has led to a blog series on the subject called Journals of a Love Addict: Stories from the Bottom Shelf. To catch up on the series and learn more about Jodi, you can find her at http://www.jodiwhitelpc.com/ and on Instagram @jodiwhitelpc.
#theunruffledpod #sobersisters #sobercreative #recoveringoutloud #alcoholfree #wearetheluckiest #midlifesolution #womenpodcasters #womenmakingsobrietylookgood #theunruffled #loveaddiction
On god I never in my life thought I'd be here!! This has been the longest iv ever stayed sober, I could never commit past 18months. Relapse after relapse and finally I took it fucking serious! Even on my worst days sober, and trust me I have those days, are million times better then the "best" days in active addiction! My fear of my past is what propelle's me forward, and I'll be damned if I ever go back!! #daybyday #soberaf #sobriety #iboozeilose #na #aa #drugfree #sobersisters #soberandproud #soberlife
Sunday strolls and muddy shoes (really need to invest in some walking boots). I'm looking forward to some time for a weekend walk in March as February has been a hectic month with lots of going away and visiting friends. But I just can't say no to plans with friends #fomo #yolo #yesman
This picture is from my bachelorette weekend a week ago. To sum it up, all I can really say is that it was the most magical weekend of my life. My amazing sisters worked so hard to plan the sober bachelorette weekend of my dreams! We stayed in a beautiful home tucked away in the hills of Ojai. We jacuzzied, did yoga, ate delicious food, laughed, cried, played games, and most importantly, no one had a sip of alcohol!! It was such an amazing feeling to have all of my closest friends (who a lot of them still drink) come together in one place and spend a weekend exactly how I wanted to spend my dream weekend. They were all commenting how amazing it was to not be drinking and how much fun they were having. I was nervous about this before. I thought it might be lame to some of them. But it was such a great feeling to realize that they were there for me no matter what we were doing. And we had such great conversations and memories that we will all remember! What a concept. I’m so glad I have gotten sober before this period in my life. Or else I would’ve been one of the girls having a crazy Vegas weekend she doesn’t remember for her bachelorette. The thought of that makes me shudder. I’m so relieved to be right where I am today. This sister of mine sure knows how to plan a sober weekend, if anyone ever needs some ideas 🥳
#sobersisters #sober #soberbachelorette #magicalweekend
Hope everyone is having an amazing weekend!!! Thank you to everyone that tuned into our @thetemper
HUMILITY: I want to help everyone and create beauty without regard for money. But I live in a body with practical needs, and I am willing to be fully self-supporting. If I’m not creating and selling something, I’m not adulting.
“Before enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.
After enlightenment: chop wood, carry water.”
- Zen saying
#idealist #spiritualbusiness #creativeentrepreneur
ICYMI we spoke with @zackgudzan
on the podcast about his journey into sobriety and his mission to help others. Give it a listen (link in bio) to hear: ~Zack's Story.
~From writing suicide letters to helping people in need. ~Answering his call through his faith and creating the Gospel Van.
~Sober Travels, looking at the pro's to seeing new cities Sober.
~A man's best friend.
~Finding new hobbies that bring you joy.
~Finding what helps you to feel better.
~Making new friends? Be a friend first!
#realalignedwomenpodcast #soberpodcast #sobercommunity
Anything you put your mind to, angel. ⠀
You've got this. 👊 X⠀
Recovery. I wish I had a before picture of this very spot. It was a jumble of clothes and books. Any jewellery I had was bundled in corners of drawers, scattered on shelves or in an old earring box. Unseen and unloved. I have some beautiful things but it's as if I don't allow them to be seen. I dismiss their importance. I undermine their value. I don't like to put them on display or allow them their own dedicated space to shine. Actually, I think its an apt metaphor for my attitude to myself.
Yesterday, I cleared this space. I dusted objects and untangled chains . Hopefully, thats another metaphor x
P.s thank you @finolamcloughlin
for some of the beautiful physical and metaphorical gifts
Yesterday sucked. And today I’m still feeling fragile.
Bring on #selfcaresunday
Long walk with Ralph 🐶
All the chocolate 🍫
Lashings of EFT 🌟
After I’ve finished lying in bed too long playing with filters. Because, priorities.
Happy Sunday, Muffins ♥️
I have @adrienelouise
to thank for this quote. It came in a recent email, alongside a gentle reminder to participate in her 11 minute wake up yoga. I am on it Adriene! Thank you! And my thanks also to Desmond Tutu, for being such an inspiration. Has anyone read The Book Of Joy ?
We're passionate about diminishing codependency. For me, it was at the top of my character defects list. If I slip, I'm certain to follow someone right out the door. I never want to lose myself like that again. One relapse was enough.
This photo kind of represents our relationship pretty well, at least the part where I always want to go and dream and experience the most that we can with all the risks included...
Me: Hey babe, I have another business plan. I have an idea, it’s a little crazy, but it’s good! Let’s go to Bali and stay at @villacellabella
for my birthday this year. Let’s walk down this icy path in 20 degree weather and hold hands and take pictures. Lets start a non-profit. Lets move into an RV and travel the US. Let’s take a chance.