Note 📝 to self•
GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY
Ever sit down and wonder why the past keeps on repeating itself? 🙈📝 Most people - including myself - resist the things we need the most. 💁🏼♀️💯 Let’s face it, pain sucks. 🙅🏼♀️😫 We tend to gravitate toward comfort. 🚶🏻♀️ We settle.🤤
Pain isn’t something that we generally invite into our lives. 🙅🏻 But, what if, every time pain came knocking on our door, we invited it in and welcomed it? 🙋🏻⚡️🌈 Pain = growth, ALWAYS👸🏻
I’ve learned in my life (and still need to constantly remind myself lol) that by continuing to avoid things ✋🏻we also avoid growth and simply create the blockages in our lives that are the very things we wish to move past.🚧🚧 Instead of asking “why me?” 🤷🏻♀️ we must realize that these blockages, hurdles, and problems are simply catalysts and MUST exist to get us to push through to the next level.💯👣👣
Look at it as a gift. 😇
If you’re reading 🦄this today and this message resonates with you, push through. 👊🏻 Embrace being uncomfortable 🙏🏻 Walk through the fire. 🔥🔥 You can run. 🏃🏻♀️🏃🏻♀️ But, you can't hide. 👁🤦🏻♀️ #theobstacleistheway
Seasonal depression.... SUCKS 💁🏼♀️Symptoms include fatigue, depression, hopelessness, and social withdrawal.
And honestly is a BITCH to live with
Do you Struggle with this? What have you found that helps you? 👈🏻Me feeling all the symptoms.. not wanting to do anything but sleep, and sleep, and sleep more. But knowing I have a huge list of things waiting for me on my to do list... laundry, dishes, my kids needing my attention, and me needing to feed them. But not having any energy to do anything but sleep. 👉🏻Me after forcing myself to get up... (a few hours later after me laying in my own funk....)
I got my 30minute workout in, took a shower, did my hair and makeup, took some vitamin D, and my superfood shake that has all of my daily vitamins, and that tastes like a frosty from Wendy’s🙌😍❤️ 💕I try and schedule my life and plan exciting fun things during winter so that I can’t just crawl under the covers and hide until spring. Which I battle with almost every day. Sometimes it feels like I’m swimming upstream or trying to get thru a brick wall.. but I keep moving forward. Because I know if I just start moving I will feel a lot better. And the energy level I feel will increase. Being part of my virtual community really helps, knowing I’m not the only one that feels this way, and being able to connect with other woman who also struggle this time of year. We all help eachother and life is so much better together.
I refuse to be bullied by SAD and hope you do the same!! #seasonaldepression #seasonalaffectivedisorder #mooddisorder #conqueryourmind #winterblues #struggleisreal
For all you sober curious friends!
Many times... a night out with friends, birthday parties, bachelorette parties, weddings, holidays, wine tasting excursions, etc. would include consuming at least 3-4 drinks across the span of the evening for me.
I remember during my annual check-ups when my doctor would ask how much I drink in a week, I definitely wouldn’t tell her the full story. I knew it wasn’t healthy to be drinking the amount I was, but I also knew a majority of my friends and the people I knew were also consuming a similar amount, so I didn’t think of myself as abnormal.
Now, as I’ve taken this journey of sobriety, my eyes are being opened to all the major health risks and to the fact that many of my previous drinking days were considered HIGH RISK.
3 or more drinks in one day is considered high risk drinking for women. And more than 7 in one week.
High-risk drinking means a higher chance of cancer and other health ailments.
Fortunately, the human body is amazing and can regenerate cells and has the inner wisdom to heal itself. So, I’m hoping my body will heal itself of the damage that I may have already caused.
If at any point you are considering cutting back on your drinking or stopping altogether, know that it’s never too late to let your body start healing itself. 💗✨🙌
#soberissexy #sobriety #wellness #sobertribe #sobersisters #alcoholfree #soberlife #livingsober #soberinstyle #dry #women #mentalhealth #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #soberchallenge #thehappynow #tellbetterstories #womensupportingwomen #findyourcommunity #drytribe #sherecovers #thesoberlife #hangoverfree #sobriety #mentalhealth #thesoberlife #recovery
👭Hi beautiful girls! Whatcha doin tonight? 💁🏼♀️Wanna come hang out with some amazing ladies tonight 7pm central time and learn a little about what exactly coaching is!?? 👭We ALL started this for different reasons, and have decided we wanted to take it a step further! If you’ve EVER thought about pursuing coaching, whether it be as a hobby, or a side hustle! Or a little part time job for some extra cash, or making it your full-time career, hop on and hear what we have to say! 💕Everyone’s invited! Plus, we’re awkward and would love to see some familiar faces 🤪 Hahaha! Hope to see you tonight! *link to join in the comments*
So I’m a DoorDash delivery girl!! And a online📲💻 virtual health and wellness coach!! I couldn’t be happier!!!! 💁🏼♀️Would you want to work for a place that sent you on trips all over the world 🌎?!! Allowed you to show up as the best version of yourself?? Rewarded you to share your story with others??? 💁🏼♀️Do you ever think about wanting to make a change in careers?? That you are made for more??? Or maybe your feeling stuck at a job/career you hate.. or maybe it sucks the energy right out of you, or maybe it has a negative atmosphere and you feel trapped, or maybe you just want to work from home and have freedom to create your own schedule, choose the people/friends you work with?? Have more time for your family, or are sick of commuting/traffic! Or just want a community of powerful woman!!! PLEASE know you have OPTIONS!!!!!! 💁🏼♀️I felt that way and now I’m free AF!! Im still making around the same amount as I was, but now I create my own schedule, make as much money as I want to work, have a hustle that I am so passionate about!!! I also work for door dash and grubhub until I make enough money to coach full-time..... which I know will happen soon!! please know you have so many wonderful opportunities!!! 👭💕Let me know if you can relate to me at all?? Even a little bit!! ⤵️⤵️⤵️⤵️⤵️⤵️👭💕
The Seattle snow storms have inspired me to slow down and start reading through my ever-growing collection of books on sobriety I’ve picked up over the past few months. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I’ve finished Nothing Good Can Come From This from @kristicccoulter
and Lit by Mary Karr. I’m halfway through Drink by Ann Dowsett Johnston. And I still need to read Blackout by Sarah Hepola and Drinking A Love Story from Carline Knapp. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Did I miss one of your favorites? Send me a DM or leave a comment below with your recommendations—looking ahead at the forecast this week, I’ll probably have time to finish them all!
When you celebrate a sober sister’s 90 days of sobriety you go to @maisonbab
near Covent Garden, London for dinner and a delicious alcohol free drink 🍸. I chose this fresh and crisp house rhubarb cordial and soda 🍹.Sober Sunday cheers to you all! ✨✨P.S. Start planning your Valentine af drink now whether or not you have a Valentine in your life. Your number 1 Valentine is you! 💕Self care and self love are essential to sobriety. So start planning! 😊
📆📒ℚ𝕦𝕖𝕤𝕥𝕚𝕠𝕟 𝕗𝕠𝕣 𝕪𝕠𝕦!! 𝕎𝕙𝕒𝕥 𝕥𝕚𝕡𝕤 𝕠𝕣 𝕥𝕣𝕚𝕔𝕜𝕤 𝕙𝕒𝕧𝕖 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕝𝕖𝕒𝕣𝕟𝕖𝕕 𝕥𝕠 𝕙𝕖𝕝𝕡 𝕪𝕠𝕦 𝕤𝕔𝕙𝕖𝕕𝕦𝕝𝕖 𝕠𝕦𝕥 𝕪𝕠𝕦𝕣 𝕝𝕚𝕗𝕖!! ℍ𝕖𝕝𝕡 𝕒 𝕤𝕚𝕤𝕥𝕒 𝕠𝕦𝕥!!📝🗓 I did a thing....
I quit my day job.. almost 4 weeks ago. I said FUCK🖕🏻 you to my manager, (well behind his back) I didn’t agree with his management style, (dictatorship)I was told deal with it, or find a new job... well I had enough.🖕🏻I worked there for 6 years, 30 hours a week... I felt under appreciated, and was tired of the draining atmosphere.
So BYE 👋🏻 .
I’m working on mastering a new morning routine. I no longer need to work for somebody else’s dreams! I get to work on my dream!BUT The story I’ve made myself believe for years is, “I cant make my own schedule and stick with it.” and “I can’t work from home, I would just sleep all day and watch Netflix!”
But that isn’t a FACT. It’s a SELF LIMITING BULLSHIT LIE!!! It’s just what I’ve told myself so often and for so long that it feeeeels like fact. But if I’ve learned anything, it’s that WE are the authors of our story. And get to rewrite it any time we choose.
So, I’m working on making my mornings earlier and more magic-filled. Starting with writing down ten HUGE dreams I am GOING to make happen.
I already know the universe has my back. All I have to do is show up and handle my shit!! ... TOMORROW MORNING it’s GAMEON!!
I have thought about how to approach this for a while, so here goes...... I used to share pictures of my drinks and pictures of me drinking. ALL. THE. TIME. I have all those posts archived now. Not deleted, because there are times I need to go back and see what life was like "back then". I'll call that period "Mary Rose BIKB (Before I Knew Better)" I see a lot of photos in my feed of friends and acquaintances with a beautiful dinner, and a big glass of wine. Or a group of smiling friends and family, with a spray of bottles and cans spread out before them, and while it doesn't trigger me to desire a drink, it breaks my heart a bit for the folks who ARE struggling with those cravings who scroll by a little faster to avoid the trigger of seeing people (seemingly) engaging in "normal" drinking behavior. They might even feel like they could have "just one" and see how it goes. They could be struggling to spend one more day, one more hour, one more minute, sober and uncomfortable.
Let me be clear: I'm not asking anyone not to drink. But I do beseech my friends and acquaintances to remember that you may know someone who is struggling to keep their head above water when it comes to their own drinking. Even if you can't tell, even if you don't know, they are out there and they need your support. Pics of booze don't prove anything to anyone about how much fun you're having, and they don't make anyone's feed prettier. But pictures of your food are always welcome 😉
PS this goes for stories too!
#soberally #soberissexy #findingmyvoice #sober #sobermom #sobercoach #soberfriend #soberisntboring #supportyoursoberfriends #showmeyourfood #notyourbooze #pleaseandthankyou #publicserviceannouncement
"Now, you might think that quitting alcohol will make you want it even more, come February. But preliminary research, which hasn’t been published in a peer-reviewed journal, shows that's not the case. Instead, it supports Dry January's perks: Eighty percent of study participants who took part in Dry January 2018 felt more in control of their drinking afterward, 76 percent learned more about when and why they drink, and 71 percent realized they don’t need a drink to enjoy themselves.
Researchers also learned that eight months later, the study participants’ drinking days fell on average from 4.3 to 3.3 per week, and their frequency of being drunk dropped from 3.4 per month to 2.1 per month on average.
And fewer drinks over the course of the year is likely a good thing, from a disease-prevention standpoint. “Alcohol increases the risk of several cancers, including colon and breast cancer, per the American Cancer Society. And even just one drink a day can increase your breast cancer risk,” says Ansel. “People forget that alcohol is a known carcinogen,” adds Palumbo. One study published in May 2018 in the journal BMJ Open found that abstaining from alcohol for one month improved markers associated with cancer.”
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Thank you @everydayhealth
for sharing this inspiring #DryJanuary
data! Yes you’ll sleep better. Yes you’ll lose weight. And yes, you might even find a better version of yourself and realize you can no longer find a good reason to drink again.
(a beautiful alcohol free option I can’t wait to try)
And then sometimes it can be this simple. Here’s to @annehathaway
for her courage + grace in sharing her decision to stop drinking, and the levity + joy she brought to her announcement! 🙌🏻🙌🏿🙌🏼🙌🏾
Every time we step out of our routine, we set out on a voyage of discovery.
As we wrap up our #DryJanuary
, we have the opportunity to look around, eyes wide with curiosity and ask “could there be a better version of my life on the other side of alcohol?” It’s the answers we get in return—through new experiences, new places, new friendships, new rhythms, and new people—that inspire and change us. #abetterversionco
Who is coming to @gatherseattle
event on Saturday?! 🙌🏼 I’m honored to be moderating the morning panel focused on living intentionally in the new year.
For me, intentional living meant re-examining my relationship with alcohol, and making the choice to live entirely alcohol-free. It meant becoming more aware of how ubiquitous alcohol is in our society, and how hugely it's linked to our notions of celebration, sophistication, and well being. And most importantly, it meant personally finding new ways to relax, reward, escape, and exhale in a world that continuously tells us to drink.
With the company of five powerful women, we’ll be chatting about how we can be more thoughtful with our approach to business, lifestyle, and health decisions in the new year. I hope you’ll join us!
Seattle! I’m beyond honored to share that in less than a week, on January 26th, I’ll be leading a lifestyle + wellness panel at the @gatherseattle
"A Day to Gather” event. Together with @running_with_forks
, and @raven.hamilton
we’ll be having a thoughtful conversation on our ever-evolving definitions of health and wellness—inspiring us all to take a second look at how we approach our business, lifestyle, and health decisions in the new year.
A Day to Gather is an all day empowering event, hosted by Gather Seattle, that celebrates ideas, people, brands, and businesses who are shaping the city and community. We’re gathering to talk on design, entrepreneurship, leadership, community, and much more. Together we’ll gather to connect and inspire the creative pursuits that will impact the vibrancy of the city for years to come.
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General admission tickets have sold out, but you can still join us! Panel Only tickets can be purchased via the @gatherseattlepage.
I hope to see you there! #abetterversionco
January 19, 2019
It has taken me a solid year to forgive myself and forgive my past . Times have not been easy thinking about how I was dying on the inside and on the outside I was going through the motions so no one would no . I have Story after story after story of just how sick I was . Times that I was so drunk and still functioned as though nothing was wrong .
Thank You God for giving me that second cross and for showing me daily just what you did on that cross for me . You planted the tree that you would eventually give your life on for me .. No One and I mean NO ONE is to far lost to have his love !! Walking , breathing Living testimony is what I am !! Thank You, Father, for the work of Christ on the cross. Help me to continue to study to understand and accept what it means for me daily and to be a messenger of that forgiveness to those I meet along the way !
#verseoftheday #verseaday2019 #secondchance #livingproof #lovinglife #soberlife #soberliving #sobermom #soberdaughter #sobersister #soberfriend
Counting down to the weekend! Saturdays in our house are reserved for home Alanon meetings, the weekend edition, and exploring new breakfast spots in the neighborhood.
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Who else fell in love with early weekend mornings after saying goodbye to hangovers and #SundayScaries
Tonight’s the night y’all! Created by the lovely @marnieraeC
, the second week in January has been named National Cocktail Week and recognizes a growing number who choose to abstain from drinking alcohol. This week supports and celebrates their decision and encourages friends and family to do the same.
Tonight —in collaborating with Chris Marshall of ATX's @sansbar
—Marnie Rae is hosting a BIG celebration in honor of zero ABV alcohol-free drinks. Over 100 people (including myself) decided that’s more than enough reason to dress up on a school night. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
If you’ll be there tonight, please say hello below in the comments! 🙋🏼♀️ We can’t wait to raise a glass to you.
Over 100 days ago I stopped drinking to support someone close to me in their recovery. I ordered stacks of books and memoirs to pair with the pamphlets handed out at Alanon and AA meetings. I read article after article on the current data and research on addiction, women, and alcohol. And then I found the real time conversation happening over on @tellbetterstoriesmedia.
Erin perfectly put into words (and real life examples) the suspicion I was starting to develop that the world tells women to drink. She directly challenged brands selling products with messages of alcohol as lifestyle. And she opened my eyes to finding a better version of the stories we tell around alcohol.
There are people in your life who are examining their relationship to alcohol, the sober-curious, the ones trying to get and stay sober, and the ones living in long term sobriety and recovery. For a day, challenge yourself to see the world through the eyes of someone close to you starting their journey to recovery. What you find in your social feeds, your local grocery store, and out on the streets with your new perspective may surprise and alarm you. #ABetterVersionCo #tellbetterstories
Hi, I’m Samantha, and over 100 days ago I made the decision to stop drinking. There was no rock bottom, no embarrassing incident, no “I’m never drinking again” morning hangover. No, the exact moment I decided to stop drinking was walking out of an intervention class at my local recovery treatment center. It was the exact moment I realized denial was no longer available to me, and that the disease of alcoholism was something to take very seriously.
I decided to stop drinking to support a loved one’s recovery. What I didn’t realized was how quickly it would change my perspective of just about everything around me.
I opened my eyes to the near constant advertising and lifestyle media encouraging women to drink to feel empowered, connected, beautiful, and healthy. I started noticing the shirts and mugs and memes and a-frame signs that encourage alcohol as self care following people in recovery every single day. I saw my favorite brands and businesses encouraging wine in the shower, or beer after yoga, or happy hour to forget a difficult day at the office. How had I never noticed this before?
A Better Version Collective is a space to continue discovering and sharing what I had been completely blind to before. A place for resources + research, support + celebration. A space to find a better version of the stories we share about alcohol. A space to find a better version of ourselves. Thank you for joining me. #ABetterVersionCo
via the @gatherseattlepage.
I hope to see you there!
Nothing becomes familiar in the dark. So be a flame.
Be a flame, if only to evidence times metronome, reacting to invisible tides, leaning to the whims of any breeze of gravity.
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Be a flame even if, and maybe especially, if there are none.
Be a flame even if only to paint gold the faces of those who are closest. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Alight, our chests rise and fall the same. Be a flame or at least its student.
Learn the smoke: dissipate from the crown of your head, fold your visible light and float upward.🔥 #ABetterVersionCo
A few years ago, I had never heard of “Dry January” - my friend @summerjoyatx
invited me to participate with her. The first year, I declined.
I knew I wanted to change my relationship with alcohol, but I was just getting established in a new city...I couldn’t fathom how I’d integrate myself without alcohol.
A full year later, my heart had spoken, “You are meant to do something big, and this lifestyle can’t be part of it.”
It was with reluctance, skepticism and a huge sigh of relief that I decided to take part in Dry January back in 2017. It was a gateway into the new, more conscious lifestyle my soul was yearning for.
I’m grateful for friends like Summer who stuck it out with me while others around me fell off the wagon & back into old habits (this is us later that year: my first international + booze free vacay > more over on my blog, btw).
Whether your full-on living the #drylife
, are feeling #sobercurious
or are just testing the waters with #dryjanuary
- tag a friend who is supporting you on your journey.
If you’re looking for some more resources to support your dry journey, head on over to the link in my bio & find the button for “FREE STUFF”.
#sober #lifestyle #sobervacation #sobertravel #mocktails #Idontdrink #alcoholfree #nohangover #stopdrinking #quitdrinking #sobernotboring #soberglow #soberfriend #community #friendship #support #soberjanuary #soberchallenge
I used to find my drunk stories highly entertaining. As a natural storyteller and comedian I got a lot of laughs off of stories about my drunken escapades. Humor was my way of deflecting how troubling my drinking was. Duh.
I fell down in a bar 15 fucking years ago, and as a result of the fall I have deeply injured my shoulder. I thought it was my big boobs, and I thought it was my posture, and both of those things likely contributed to my pain over the years, but when my brain recently made the connection to that fall I felt physically sick to my stomach.
Bottom line: Alcohol is not a joke. Alcohol is not a punchline. When I see posts from that include alcohol or joke about alcohol I keep my opinions to myself, but it's not funny to me anymore. I don't "like" them on social media (or post a sad face). I don't comment about how un-funny that shit is to me. If anything I give silent gratitude that it didn't take a car accident, a DUI, an alcohol related illness or injury, or an intervention for me to decide to cut ties with a highly toxic, highly addictive substance.
Not everyone gets the same choice, and not everyone has the same support system in place that will help them if they did decide that enough is enough. I thank the universe for helping me to get here, to this very moment, to share a part of my life I'm proud of.
Am I an expert on sobriety? Nope. I can only speak to my own experience, and help connect people to resources that helped me.
Do I expect everyone to quit drinking? Also no. That is an extremely personal choice that only that person can choose for themselves. But I am going to cheer like a fucking lunatic for anyone that wants to try another way to live.
Fact: Fun doesn't die when you quit drinking. Comedy doesn't dry up when you do. If anything I feel like the wit I had before has multiplied because I'm not the butt of my own jokes. I write all my own punchlines now, not booze. And I'm funny AF.
#funnyAF #sober #comedy #laughter #jokes #punchline #thedrylife #neverbetter #findingmyself #51weekssober #sobermom #soberwife #soberfriend #soberlife
College reunion ft. cheerfully sober me.
Once upon a time when I was young and drunk maybe 22 or 23 living on Hippie Hill in Boone there was this chick hanging out and when she learned I am Sagittarius she gave me this incredulous look and said something like, "What are you doing? Why are you drunk like this? Don't you realize your power? Don't you know we need you to be clear?" ○
It was at once insulting and empowering and I never forgot it and I don't know who she was or if I ever saw her again. ○
But she planted a seed and what I heard was, "Wake up goddess! Quit dulling your power! Live up to who you're truly meant to be." ○
#sober #soberjourney #addict #alcoholic #saggitarius #recovery #soberparent #soberfriend