Medical Minute Breakdown: Absolute Thinking is the second trick of anxiety and depression. We commonly do this by saying we are a “bad” person/mom/dad/etc or we “are” something negative like a failure or dumb. For example, believing you’re a failure because you performed poorly in one situation. People cannot be all bad, all good, all smart, or all dumb, so on and so on. We are simply too complex (Rnic, Dozois, Martin, 2016). Here is an example. "I lost the game. I am a failure." ☝️
Let's analyze this. What percentage of losses make someone a failure? Is it 30%...50%...70%? What about someone who invented dozens of inventions and lost money on every single one, except the last one. The last one made them a millionaire. 💰 Are they a failure? They "failed" almost every time, after all! Absolutely not!
Failure is not defined by one event. It is not even necessarily defined by several events.
While you may have performed poorly in certain situations, you are a living breathing individual who is complex on my levels. You’ve done well on others and there are many factors that contributed to your decisions or actions. 💎
As long as you haven't given up on yourself, you cannot be a failure. The game is simply not over! 💎
There is not a single person in this world who does not have to work on themselves daily.
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21/365 Photographs in 2019 • Martin Luther King, Jr. Day • MLK inspired masses of people in his lifetime and continues to inspire us to this day. Across the globe, activists look to King for inspiration and courage. Modern movements for racial equality and justice, such as the Black Lives Matter movement, are extensions of the work that he started. He inspires us to stand up for what we believe in, to help others, and to work hard to better ourselves and each other. "One day this nation will rise up, live out the true meaning of its creed...that all men are created equal." The man — Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. Next theme: Celebration of Life Day!!
Join me in my 365 Photo A Day Challenge! I’ll post a photo, and give you a heads up for the following day’s theme! The person who posts close to 365 photos, wins a lifestyle or portraiture shoot in 2020 (a $550 value)! But each photo has to be yours captured exactly on the day of the theme. Winner will be announced on 1/01/2020!
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3. Snap & post a pic of the day’s theme!
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We’ve all been there- men and women- the rebounds- the trying to get over someone- by distraction - by numbing ourselves - by doing things trying to forget that person we wanted to love so badly— And it’s okay to do it- no judgment- sometimes you just need it — sometimes you just want it- want to mask what you’re feeling or maybe you just want to break it wide open and take advantage - you want to control the game because you got played or you loved too hard and now you feel foolish- so you want to take it out on someone- maybe you felt betrayed or maybe you’re just sad- or don’t give a fuck— but my dear- I hope one day you love yourself ENOUGH to not do this- that you see your worth and value yourself- your body- your spirit - that you don’t lend yourself to the ones that don’t matter just to pacify just to overcome just to get by... heal yourself — love yourself— discover yourself so you can get through. #love #lostlove #rebounds #distractions #truths #betweenthesheets #theonethatgotaway #next #thistooshallpass #heal #rise #worthit #selflove #youareenough #unmasked #letgo
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Feeling ‘alone’ and ‘lonely’ is our choice.
Just like anything else, we can choose to feel one way or we can choose to feel another. If we want others to fall in love with themselves we better get busy making sure we are doing the same. And to do that we have to spend time alone, and be excited about it.
If you are feeling alone, Ionely, and uncomfortable, stay there longer and ask why. The answer will be easier to hear if there are no other voices filling in the blanks.
No one to impress, serve, or entertain. Just you learning to love you and all of the things you see around you. If you do it already, try it for longer than you have before. Step into a new level of self discovery. That’s where the magic awaits.
𝔇𝔞𝔯𝔨𝔫𝔢𝔰𝔰 𝔠𝔞𝔫𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔡𝔯𝔦𝔳𝔢 𝔬𝔲𝔱 𝔡𝔞𝔯𝔨𝔫𝔢𝔰𝔰. 𝔒𝔫𝔩𝔶 𝔩𝔦𝔤𝔥𝔱 𝔠𝔞𝔫 𝔡𝔬 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱. ℌ𝔞𝔱𝔢 𝔠𝔞𝔫𝔫𝔬𝔱 𝔡𝔯𝔦𝔳𝔢 𝔬𝔲𝔱 𝔥𝔞𝔱𝔢. 𝔒𝔫𝔩𝔶 𝔩𝔬𝔳𝔢 𝔠𝔞𝔫 𝔡𝔬 𝔱𝔥𝔞𝔱. ~ 𝔐𝔏𝔎 𝔍𝔯. 💜🔮🙏🏼🌎💜 📷@samir_janjua @samirjanjuaphoto
I’ve been rather quite on providing a little music for you guys, so here’s a lil snippet for you🙏🏻🌹
Let me know your thoughts in the comments, and for the best comment I’ll send an extended snippet to your DM💯
You have to have faith in life in order to change. In order to change you have to have faith.
I would not be where I am today if I didn’t have faith. Faith in the process, faith in God’s plan, faith in myself to stay strong to tread forward and push through my struggles, failures and self-doubt! -
But just like you, I wish I could see the whole staircase. What my life is going to be like. What my future looks like. When I will get where I am wanting to go. How long will it take . . . and the list goes on and on.
But quite frankly my friend, nobody can answer that question. That is the beauty of life. It is all one huge mysterious journey. But . . . we are in control. We have the ability to design our own life. We have the capability of creating our own mindset, our happiness, and our future. But it takes faith.
You will get nowhere without a little faith to take that first step. It will be scary, It will challenge you. It will be hard. But that first step is the key. After that first step there is nowhere to go but forward! Yes you will “fail” you will “struggle” but in reality those moments of hardships are not really failure. They are tests, learning experiences and milestones. They are the key to getting you to where you want to go and who you want to become. You just have to build yourself up, jump over them and move forward . . . and eventually you will have the life you have always dreamed of. A world full of possibilities and experiences of your own creation!
You have to have faith to take that first step. That first step into the “unknown.”
So what are you waiting for? What is holding you back? Do you have Faith?
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"Comeback" by Ana Scotch •
Is it obvious that I watched The Hobbit right before I wrote this?🤔
Tip for living this day in age. Not too long ago, the internet did not exist. People went to school, and went to work to succeed. In todays day in age, people do not see the significance of social media in business and exactly what you can do with it. You have access to every single piece of information the world has to offer. Simply get good at what you like, make something out of it, gather a following and make your platform mean something through work. Then, you’re free of the rat race. This day in age, you can work from 9-5, come home, take a break, then work on your craft and what you want to do from 7-2am. That is a blessing. Save your money and reinvest your money back into social media. Through social media you can create something for yourself entirely new, and money will come along with it, IF, you are good, and never stop seeking improvement. People will see that value. You do not get paid in this world by time, but by value of your work. You want this to be your life? You cant quit after 4 months, 6 months, 3 years, people underestimate long term progress, and overestimate short term progress. Why throw yourself in debt and go to college if you can build from the ground up? Im not saying don’t go to college, but don’t go for your parents or anybody you want to prove yourself to! Don’t go if you’re going to be thrown in debt unless you have a plan to get out! And if your path requires it, of course you would go. But we live in a completely different world from 15+ years ago. Take advantage of whats right in front of you. If you’re good, theres no stopping you. If this path is for anybody else, reach out to me 🚀🚀
Mornings with these girls are pretty wild lately!! They rush around with excitement for the new day & often beat me to the bathroom! They can’t wait to brush their teeth first thing! It’s the sweetest to see them side-by-side helping one another get toothpaste on their brushes & then brushing together. They’re inseparable & though it was the hardest thing I’ve ever done having them so close, I’m so happy about it now! My girls are 19 months apart & share a lot of clothes already. What’s the age gap between your kids?
Another beautiful moonrise 🥰
As a coach, a big part of my skills and practice have come from working through family trauma. My family of origin, as many others, did not have the access or freedom to get support in a way that we do today in 2019. For many the stigma is real and they still can't get support, and they act out in trying to pull in their loved ones to be their fix.
How many of you were raised to parent your parents? To put aside your own needs to make others feel better about where they are in their own lives? This damaging pattern is unconsciously downloaded into many as they grow, manifesting into adults who don't know their own light for the constant driving and reaching for the lights others have extended out to them, forever just out of their reach.
Take your power back. No matter what happened to you, to them, no matter how much you do care, yes you can care, it is NOT YOUR JOB TO HOLD CONSTANT VIGIL TO THEIR PAIN. The cost is way too high. Health, ability to connect meaningfully in relationships, career stagnation, addiction. These are all outcomes of you not being able to follow your own gorgeous inner light in you.
Your only job is managing the business of your energy and emotions. From there, the rest falls into place. They'll panic, the ones who count on you being there for them to eat their pain, they'll hate on you hard. But you are worth it. Say it with me now, NOT MY JOB.
It is not your job. You can do it. You can break these energetic strains that have a choke hold on you. The crazy thing? When you get your bearings, you'll have more capacity to give and to love.
Why? It will be unrestricted. Your selfishness to care for YOU first, allows you to be more selfless, when and where you want to be. "They" may never see that, but I will, and others who practice self love, knowledge and care, they'll know, and we're rooting for you.
It's just not your job.