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My mind is just a little quieter, at the moment..
I guess a bit of a rollercoaster but not as severe right now..
Still unpredictable and impulsive..
Ended up in the hospital ED again the other night..
But all that does is traumatise me more..
I had gotten to the point of accepting a planned admission, just for 48 hours..
Then the next day, I freaked out at the thought of going into that appalling psyche unit..
So I phoned my case manager to say, I no longer wanted to go in..
This existence isn't acceptable, we need to be able to really live..
I try to help myself, so much but I get to a point where I feel, there's nothing else I can do..
Then, there's only one alternative my mind goes to and it gets stuck there..
I still think, that as much as they may try, many working in the mental health sector, just really don't get that and think..'we're selfish and just giving up'..
We really don't need that judgement..
It's already hard enough..
'Wishing you wellness'
#mentalhealth #bad #noguilt #onlyhuman #struggle #selfcare #important #mind #quietstorm #rollercoaster #unpredictable #impulsive #hospitals #trauma #psychiatric #unit #existence #unacceptable #living #selfhelp #giveup #notselfish #suicidalthoughts #judgment #hard #mentalillness #mentalillnessawareness #suicideprevention #endthestigma
Baseball Ready ⚾️ 🔥. First game of the season.
PSA: put yourself first.
I don't care if you think it's selfish. And if you somehow need someone's permission...here it is.
Healers, coaches, leaders: it's pretty common to see them put others first...I mean, of course I should put others above my self, riiight? Ya know, a servants heart and all. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Martyrdom won't heal yourself though.
I've tried that. Doesn't work.
(it looks like burnout, feels draining, and makes your own health worse).
But when you put yourself first and DGAF about whether it's selfish or not...it looks like filling your own cup--and lookie here: it OVERFLOWS to others.
I put myself first in order to be a better wife, a better friend, daughter, sister, and coach.
I see MY coach put HERSELF first...and I know she can serve me better this way.
I get to show up BIG for my clients because I first show up BIG for myself.
(that's self-love right there ☝)
How it looks: -NOT doing all.the.damn.things.right.now.
-Going for a run
-Sifting through my own shit pile of limiting beliefs
-Taking risks & staring down my fears
-Speaking my truth (even when it's unpopular)
-Living the amazing life I've designed for myself
-Holding healthy boundaries
-Being the CREATOR of my life, instead of having life happen TO me.
☕When your cup is full, you can more easily serve.
...and if it's *wild* to think about putting yourself first for once...
-come join the club 😜
(link in profile)
-April is going to be rowdy, people 💁 ...Wild Woman Healing the 4week program kicks off on the 1st! -8 women are joining me for this deep dive into healing the wild way...6 spots left!
Message me if you're ready.
#wildwomanhealing #putyourselffirst #mefirst #selfcareisnotselfish #notselfish #selfcaresis #selfempowerment #risesisterrise #showupforyourself #takeresponsibility #yourpower #gamechanger #autoimmunewarrior #selfhealers #foodforthought #mindfulness #mindsetmatters #mindfulnesspractice #goaldiggers #bossbabe #spiritualgangster #healingjourney #healingmindset #healyourbody #healthybodyhappymind #healingenergy #healyourlife #healthgut #gutconnection #bossbitch
Nothing great comes from a negative or lacking MINDSET. 🤯
——————————————————————————— Sometimes the grind and working hard isn’t enough. You need to be in the RIGHT mindset. 🧘🏻♀️ ———————————————————————————
There is something to be said from working from a place of happiness and revitalization. But you have to give yourself time to reboot. This relaxation time where you unplug will give you a clear mind to go into your next week. Don’t forget about yourself, specially when others rely on you. It isn’t selfish to take care of yourself. 🌻
#reboot #notselfish #selfcare
Life is busy. I get it. We all have so many different hats we wear. Mom,wife,sister,friend,therapist are just a few of mine. However it is so important and necessary to take care of yourself(mind,body, and soul)
I have learned that if I take the time to just focus on myself for one hour, no phones no distractions. Just me doing what I need to do to take care of me, I’m happier and in a better mood. Most the time it’s an #OTF
How do you focus on yourself?
#loveyourself #happiness #priority #notselfish #busylife
This goes in with my whole work and life balance. The joy in life is being enriched with friendships and family and being involved with our community. It is life giving and it produces joy and character.
Lately I have been contemplating the whole self focussed mentality -like people say it is ok to be selfish etc etc. I disagree. I liked reading this one from the Dalai Lama,
‘People inflict pain on others in their selfish pursuit of happiness and satisfaction. Yet true happiness comes from a sense of brotherhood and sisterhood. We need to cultivate a sense of universal responsibility for one another and the planet we share.’
And this is where I draw the difference between loving yourself and being kind to just being selfish. Selfishness sucks!
So life lesson here is this. Take the time to be well rested, take the time to reflect and care about your actions and words and the impact it has on others. Be in a good place which allows you to be more generous and kind to others -which is the opposite to selfishness.
Have a think xx
#kindness #love #selfless #joy
I’ve always had big dreams. I turned those into goals. And I made them come true... for myself. By myself. If this journey has taught me a lesson, it’s that it’s ok to do things for myself. To say out loud that I work damn hard and I deserve to give myself the life and yes, even the material things I’ve always dreamed of! This car is made for assholes... and I am one 😜 #mas #wls #notselfish #ivearrived #wlscommunity #hardworkpaysoffs #badbitch #shesfastaf
Where are my busy women at? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
You may be a mom, entrepreneur, freelancer, or you just can't seem to find anytime for yourself. I understand completely.
Once I became a baker, about 6 years ago now, I was so focused on being the best at what I was doing and I didn't focus any ounce of energy on myself. I wasn't eating breakfast or lunch, I would get only 4 hours of sleep each night, and I wouldn't shower for days. It took about 7 months of this before I started waking up late, rushing to work, falling asleep while standing, and also staring blankly into space for hours on end. Hello zombie?
The reason I wasn't willing to spend any energy on myself was because I thought it was a waste of my time. I felt guilty for putting myself first before helping my coworkers. I thought they would see me as selfish.
Can you relate? You work your tail off day in and day out to make sure everyone around you is set up, feeling amazing, free of drama, etc. but you are completely burnt out and can only hope for some downtime to nap and regain your strength for the next day? It's such an energy suck for your life.
How amazing would if feel to show up everyday as your full and energetic self? How amazing would your family and coworkers feel if you were glowing and loving and awake?
First, they would all probably wonder what drug you were on (ha!), but they would be energized with you!
Showing up for myself has been a huge struggle. I wanted to create something for YOU so that you can start implementing this right away and reap the benefits. My 1-week Morning Smoothie Guide is a way to get your morning started off in a way that is quick, easy, and doesn't break the bank.
The recipes are specifically created to nourish your body, fuel your energy reserves, and curb your cravings so that you can feel full and satisfied every morning.
To grab your guide, click on the link in my profile! ❤️
WE ARE ALL FINE-TUNING EACH OTHER’S NERVOUS SYSTEMS.
Any moment of deep relaxation, any choice that supports the balancing of your nervous system (ie learning to better self-regulate) is RADICAL ACTION that is so incredibly needed by our world.
Just think how different your decisions are when you feel grounded, stable, spacious inside. Not running on anxious energy, not based on fear or avoidance, not playing out unconscious patterns, driven by personal or collective trauma. Not habitual…
Clear and loving.
In touch with your basic goodness.
Putting attention and energy into calming the F down, is the opposite of selfish. We absolutely impact each other's nervous systems.
"Anytime anyone makes a shift [adressing trauma in the body], the shift affects everyone else – on a cellular level. " - Peter Levine
So go! Do more of whatever genuinely calms you. Cuddle a pet. Meditate lying down. Make love. Sing. Dance. See a bodyworker. Visit a place of worship. Book into a retreat.
I know it can be scary (/terrifying) to actually slow down, to meet what lies underneath the doing, the busyness, the anxiety. There’s plenty of support out there to hold you while you drop.
But we gotta go there, the world is waiting.
#biohackingthenervoussystem #traumarelease #traumainformed #peterlevine #dropdown #feelitall #equanimity #meditate #sing #dance #pray #twylatharp #bodywork #dearmour #selfcervix #gratitude #notselfish #theworldneedsus #gracefullyunbound
We’re officially halfway through the week! And to be honest it’s been a huge challenge as well as one of the funnest weeks in nursing school so far! Through it all though, I truly feel that it is the MOST important priority in this process to take care of myself so that I can take care of my husband, fur baby, family and friends 💁🏻♀️ I am ALWAYS going on and on about health and how you can improve it..but I also STAND BY everything I post to social media! They say in the nursing field especially, though it is so true in many different careers as well, that we are the *last priority when it comes to care..SO! My challenge to YOU is to our your self FIRST! Day by day, form that new habit of self love and care! It’s is of the utmost importance 💗 I guarantee you that I’m 3 weeks you won’t even know how you survived without allowing yourself some *You time* 🤯 What did YOU do to take care of YOU today?? How will YOU continue to care for YOU in the future! #necessary #notselfish #fitstudent #loveyourself #mindbodysoul #youvegotyoubabe #imhereforYOU #nursingstudent
If you’re not creating the kind of life that YOU want, then who are you living it for? You only get one life to live. Make the most of it that you possibly can 💕
من نمی دانم
و همین درد مرا سخت می آزارد
که چرا انسان،این دانا،این پیغمبر
در تکاپوهایش: چیزی از معجزه آن سو تر
ره نبرده ست به اعجاز محبت
چه دلیلی دارد؟
که هنوز،مهربانی را نشناخته است؟
و نمیداند در یک لبخند
چه شگفتی هایی پنهان است!
من برآنم که درین دنیا
خوب بودن،به خدا،سهل ترین کارست
و نمی دانم که چرا انسان، تا این حد،
با خوبی بیگانه است.
و همین درد مرا سخت می آزارد!
#bekind #loveyourself #notselfish #smile #behuman
❤Happy international day of happiness
** What makes you happy? Everyone has that go to thing to turn that frown upside down!
Make sure you take time out for yourself.
Whether it's a nice hot soak in a bath, a sweet treat, or just some quiet time!
You cant give to others from an empty cup!
Do more of what makes your happy so you can share your happiness with others!
Today is the first time in in about 5days I've felt happy like really happy! Why?
Because I recognised that I needed to spend more time on my health, wellness & mindset! I put myself first. Something I've always been told is selfish! I've learnt it's called self-care!
For me exercise has proven to be much more successful than anything you could ever prescribe for depression or anxiety.
The sense of accomplishment you get, the stronger you feel physically and mentally, along with the endorphins (or as a special lil man says the "dolphins are coming" @lauren_fit_and_well
) whether its 5, 10 or 20mins. Just to get your body moving does wonders for your mind!
Have a great and happy day!!💚💜❤
Seriously had an absolute blast at the OKC Road Show. Even if I spilled a whole cup of water on myself just as Josh Posh-McKell was introducing himself to Alex and I 🤣🤦♀️ that's what I get for talking with my hands. If you get a chance do a road show I highly suggest it. The training was awesome the conversations were amazing the hand massages were incredible. The gifts were superb, BUT the icing on the cake for me was my non consultant friend that joined me said she had a blast and actually learned something! And did I mention she won one of the drawings and rcvd a So Soapy bundle just for entering the drawing which was possible because she said yes to going and hanging out with me. #poshlife #mylife #letmeshowyou #metime #notselfish #OKCroadshow
Boys having a good time on their spring break
🙅🏻♀️ NOT selfish⠀
It’s a necessity. ⠀
It’s Spring Break and let me tell ya how much I wanted to sleep in with the kiddos this morning...⠀
Morning routine still happened well because...⠀
SANITY. 🤷🏻♀️ ⠀
Also because I’m worth it, I matter, my health is a priority and anxiety really sucks so I give that a place to go...my mats.⠀
In case you needed this reminder today 👇🏼⠀
💕You’re worth it. 💕You matter. It’s up to you what you make a priority. ✌🏼😘⠀
Setting boundaries is a way of caring for myself. It doesn’t make me mean, selfish, or uncaring. 💕
Can you look in the mirror and truly smile 😀 at the person looking back at you? Do you love that person? You should! When you love 💕 yourself, others are going to love you as well and want to be around you! You see, taking time for me is very important! I don’t get so frustrated when my day requires me to be doing for others then. I have given to myself so now I have more to give to others! .
#givetoothers #timeforme #loveyourself #lovethepersoninthemirror #notselfish #smile #takingcareofme
Ironically I think self-care is one of the least selfish acts you can do. -
At first the opposite may seem to be true. To carve out solitude time to focus on caring for yourself...to invest (financially and otherwise) in ways that help you reach your goals...to ultimately experience results that have a natural gratification at a very personal level. All of these could easily project intense self-centeredness.
But here’s the thing: unless you’re truly a narcissist, the end game of self-care comes with a huge SO THAT. While self care indeed leads to a better state of personal being, it also ultimately is SO THAT…
...I can be as healthy and present as possible for my family and other loved ones. -
...I have the stamina, drive, and perspective to care for, be present with, and serve others...whether they are known to me or strangers. -
...I have the best emotional, physical, and spiritual health to lead, love, and serve my congregation well (or whatever your vocational setting is).
...in all of the above, my life may truly be a living sacrifice and act of worship to God as I seek to love Him and my neighbor the best I can. -
So my encouragement to you is to continue or (re)start to prioritize self-care. On all fronts: physical, spiritual, emotional, relational, etc. It’s one of the most important actions you can do...not just for yourself, but especially for those around you. .
#selfcare #notselfish #priorities #physicalhealth #spiritualhealth #emotionalhealth #relationalhealth #sothat #starttoday #takeaction #flourish #fullyalive #abundantliving #healthychoices #healthydad #healthyfamily #healthymarriage #healthyrelationships #healthyjob #fitdadfitness #behealthy #healthandvitality #faithandvitality #healthylifestyle #fitness #nutrition #discipline #loseweight #forGodandmyfamily #mondaymotivation