Emotions. They get in the way for kids and adults. It won’t matter if your child goes to the best college or lands the perfect job, if they can’t regulate their emotions they won’t be able to function in this world well. Our kids want to do the right thing and are born with the innate desire to please us as a way to protect the connection they share with the one person who will ensure they are fed, clothed and loved. The last thing they WANT to do is jeopardize that relationship. But life happens, upsets occur and things become rocky. When they do, they are unable to think well and act irrationally because their prefrontal cortex (the reasoning center) is no longer engaged. They are disconnected. So what can we do? Try to become connected through play, Special Time and off loading feelings with empathy. Resisting fixing emotional complications and being a good listener. Not only does this move us through the upset but it teaches a child resiliency. How? By showing them what it looks like. By coming with love, confidence and calm when they are upset. Staying by their side and empathizing with the tumultuous feelings gives them the message that it is ok not to be ok, and tells them we know they can move through and regain sanity. On our end we show them we can make it past difficulties with ease, even when it’s not so easy. We model how we want them eventually to be as parents. If we can do these things it’s an insurance policy that our grandchildren will be heard and understood. Our kids WANT to do the right thing, but sometimes life’s upsets get in the way.
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I WANTED A PERMANENT LIFESTYLE CHANGE...
THERE'S NO BETTER WAY TO DO THIS THAN LEADING BY EXAMPLE 🖤
After my first month of working out at home & following my new nutrition plan... I made the seemingly small decision to start helping others work towards their own health & fitness goals. Little did I know how this would SHIFT my MINDSET & create this extra layer of accountability! THIS is one of the main reasons why I have been able to be consistent this past 2.5 years... in fact THIS is why I pushed myself to new measures and reached an entirely different level of health and fitness that I didn't think that I could EVER do! .
A light switched in me. I was working on myself every day... because THAT is what I stress to my challengers! Those small decisions to choose a healthy snack, listen to a podcast, workout, visualize, overcome those excuses.... ALL of it adds up over time! Having this amazing crew of people trusting myself with their journeys... pushed me that much harder to DO what I was SUGGESTING to them = progress & insane accountability my friends!
People often say to me that they don't know where I get the motivation... well when you have 5, 10, 20, or say 60 challengers alongside you.... YOU bet your BUTT I'm going to be showing up 🤜🤛
For the hour and a half underground cave tour (where we’re asked not to touch anything as the oils in our skin erode the beautiful geology of the cave walls), my kids were following the tour guide, soaking up every word, looking everywhere he pointed, and quietly asking questions.
At the end of the tour, the guide had the entire group (all adults other than my 3 kids) applaud for how “well behaved” our kids were. He went on and on about how their “good behavior” made the tour so enjoyable for everyone else and offered them a special sticker as a reward.
Then he went on and on to my husband and I: “The children are always so terrible! Well, I guess I should probably say the parents are terrible!”
His implication was that we more firmly discipline our children but they weren’t “good” out of a fear of punishment. Respect begets respect, connection begets cooperation, and freedom begets participation. My children know that if they have a need, we will honestly try to find a way to meet it. So they extend that to others (caves and tour guides).
Breastfeeding doesn’t always look this easy or beautiful. There are so many things that can get in the way sometimes.
It’s okay to ask for help. It doesn’t make you any less capable or natural at being a mother. Every new mum is just that. New. It’s a whole new world to navigate and I’m so lucky to be a part of this beautiful phase in mums’ lives 💛
Image from @ivycarnegie
Ha ha ha love goofing around with my munchkins... Life’s way too short to worry about what others think of you my darling girl. It’s ok to be different and wear glasses.
Plenty of people need to wear them.
It’s what’s on the inside that counts my dear 💕
I love empowering woman to stop caring about what others think of them, and sharing this with my own kids.
No matter what size you are, what colour your skin is, if you have challenges, what level you are at reading or financial status.. it all means nothing if your hear is not pure 💕
#itsoktobedifferent #healthcoach #mummaleadingbyexample #kindness #selfempowerment #justdoyou #mumlife #shiremumma #kidshealth #naturalparenting
When we expect sunny skies and it rains instead, we don't blame mother nature. We don't think there must be something wrong with her. We accept that sometimes our expectations are incorrect. That the weather prediction was wrong. We're flexible and change our plans. We put on a raincoat or stay warm by the fire.⠀
So, why can't our culture release the unrealistic expectations that have been set for our kids?⠀
So much of our frustration, resentment and feelings of failure come from believing our babies and children are capable of more than they actually are.⠀
Babies aren't designed to sleep through the night. Toddlers aren't designed to share. Children aren't designed to sit still for hours on end. Mothers and fathers aren't designed to be perfect.⠀
Time is wasted when we try to fit our children into boxes, percentiles and schedules. Happiness is lost when we chase an artificial fantasy because the gap between reality and expectations fuels depression, doubt and anxiety. We can't bend reality but we can narrow the gap by resetting our expectations.⠀
So, meet your child where they are. Silence the white noise of society filling your mind with "shoulds". Make space for the quiet whisper inside of you that knows exactly how to be in relationship with your child.⠀
Forget the false idea that surrender somehow equates to weakness, to giving in. It is the opposite. Stepping into the unknown by trusting in your ability that no matter what happens you'll be ok - that takes courage. That builds resiliance.⠀
And as parents, we’re only as strong as our willingness to surrender. To be the branch bending in the breeze rather than breaking as we shed preconceived ideals and accept that our children aren’t as described in a book; they’re infinitely more alive, interesting and real.⠀
Release your attachments to how things "ought" to be mama. Don't wait for permission. Don't seek approval. This is your journey to forge, your story to write, your family to raise and this community is here to support you.⠀
P.S beyond excited to listen to @drshefalitsabary
in person this weekend. I think there are still tickets at @meditatevancouver
Just going on another adventure into the woods.
These days, one of the areas of the house to which we pay more attention when decorating and expressing a style of our own is the bathroom. We can play with colors and textures, like this bathroom that we recently cleaned. #bathroomdecor
the three secrets of motherhood.
Would you like to learn how to make your own clothes? Like real clothes that you would actually wear? Comfy Jumpers, T-shirt’s, leggings etc.? I have had a lot of time to think in the last few days laying sick in bed feeling sorry for myself and I had a couple of ideas I would like your opinion on 😁 I am trying to think a little outside the box ;) .
1.) anyone local interested in a sewing class like that 👆🏼 ?
2.) anyone interested in buying fabric?
I am super thrilled with the quality from Europe I am using for my clothes and I could imagine that some sewers might want to make their own creations with these beautiful prints?
Please let me know your thoughts 😊❤️
Looks like she know how to match perfectly! 😍
Personally, I wish I was as happy as I appeared in this photo. Seemly if one were to look at the things people including myself on social media post, they would think that we all have perfect lives when that’s far from the truth. The grass is always greener on social media but I choose to be transparent and vulnerable to state my life is a chaotic mess right now. At this moment my only advice to anyone right now is to embrace where you are in order to make way for what’s in store and although it may not be glamours or ideal it’s your truth and that’s true tea. ❤️
| Nature Play | This is a major catalyst to the idea behind The Play Elements. As busy full time parents ourselves, we needed to give ourselves a gentle reminder that being in nature is essential for our physical and emotional wellbeing! So we made the rule of “seeing green everyday”. It doesn’t happen everyday but most days, we would end a busy day with a walk after dinner or just spending time in our garden. Here’s a beautiful exert from a book that I love: how to raise a wild child “...play is an innate drive. It is also the primary vehicle for youngsters to experience and explore their surroundings. Compared to kids confined indoors, children who regularly play in nature show heightened motor-control – including balance, coordination, and agility. They tend to engage more in imaginative and creative play, which in turn fosters language, abstract reasoning, and problem-solving skills, together with a sense of wonder.”
Because every child needs a woodland playmat
Waking up naturally is better than waking with an alarm - double tap if you agree ⏰ Had a bunch of classes today which involved a super early start and it made me realise a two things. 1. I LOVE lazy slow mornings and long breakfasts with my little boy and really missed it this morning ☹️ 2. I dislike having to set an alarm to get up in the morning. Necessary, yes, but still yock👎🏻 Note to self; avoid creating alarm setting work/activities ⏰. #downwithalarms #adrenelinespike #work
Somedays I get up and have my ish together, wear make up, and dress cute...and most other days, I don’t get a chance to shower or put on make up before school drop off, and my house looks like a bomb went off in it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
Today was the latter. I actually put my sweatpants back ON when I got home. That’s the beauty of being my own boss. I work when I want, take my lunch break when I want, nap when I want, and wear my pajamas when I want. Can I get an AMEN?
I love that my life isn’t dictated by any schedule but the one I create, which means I don’t have to sacrifice a moment with my kids.
So today, I put my sweatpants back on, sang silly songs with my middle daughter, laid my baby down to nap, and did a little work while quiet time happened. I’m done for the day. 💕
Now I have to go pick up my oldest from school, and it may happen in my sweatpants. 🤪
Tipo asked me to quit social media and stop taking photos this morning 🙈 (ouch) - so I did ❤
I wanted to take a cute picture of him with his big green smoothie this morning and he just looked at me and said "no pictures today mom, and no phone" 🙏 so instead we had a family day with Niek where we played outside, ate æbleskiver at @nicecreamcopenhagen
and used all evening at our local library before going home to eat his favorite dinner (rice and dahl) ☀
I've minimized my use of social media and started taking fewer pictures during the day for a couple of weeks now. So now, where it isn't second nature that mom snaps a picture during the day, Tipo is being more conscious and verbal about my use of this little addictive device 📱
This little kid is such a gift 😘❤ #bepresent
I have this quote written on a sticky note next to my homeschool planning materials. .
I use it as my daily reminder to DO WHAT I FEEL IS BEST FOR MY CHILDREN. 💯
As a parent, you gotta trust your gut and your own intution. .
Truth is, every now and then we ALL need that reminder to just trust our God-given intuition 🙌
Now here's the REAL Question: 👉👉What are you going to STOP doing in order to START following your own intution about your parenting decisions? .
Let's hold each other accountable by writing it down in the comments. 👇👇👇👇👇👇👇
Upon returning home last night my package was waiting on my door step.
To say I was beyond excited was an understatement.
I created the brand “wellbeing Mumma”
To help mums, dads, kids and families become healthier, happier versions of themselves on a physical or emotional levels.
I feel so incredibly blessed to have been able to help so many people already.. Kids are little people with big emotions.
They may be over tired, had a bad day at school, dealing with change or loss, have learning challenges...
This is a lot to deal with as a little munchkin. Essential oils help calm and smooth them & help them to cope with all the changes going on in their little bodies and this big world out there.
I love that our generation is creating a big movement for wellness & we can empower the next generation to get on top of their emotions and take care of their own needs. We can help our little comes to communicate what they are feeling, and let them know how to help themselves if they are feeling sad, tired or acing bodies after a long day.
Happy to chat if you have any questions about our new kids range or any questions or concerns you’d like to maybe help your little one with. .
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Winter weather have your skin and 👄 yelling for exfoliating and moisture?? Look no further than reveal.....your hands will thank you and that perfect pout will as well....oh and don’t forget the amazing impact this duo has on your face🙌 This is a staple in my weekly skincare to keep that glow all year long💜
You guys. I don't mean to repeat myself, but I am astounded and amazed at my daughter's talent. This is one of the things I love about unschooling. Because she was able to spend her days nurturing her own interests and gifts, instead of stressing about homework or grades or tests...instead of following a cirriculum that supposedly proved she was learning...she learned how to use resources available to her, and taught herself art techniques, and experiemented w different mediums and styles and subject matters. And now is able, as an adult, to spend her time and energy sharing her art with others, and able to research and make it happen for herself how to turn that into a business. Instead of frustratingly searching for a job that she can use her degree to make money with. If she CHOSE to do that I would be just as proud, of course. But the choice and the joy in what they do is the thing.❤️
#unschooling #selftaught #unschoolers #roadschooling #artistsofinstagram #beautiful #talent #amazing #proudmama #interestbasedlearning #naturalparenting #freerangekids #gifts #artistforhire #illustrationartists #art
Her job is to learn, my job is to let her. A few weeks ago when she thought the puddles at the park were the best thing since breast milk, lol. Ida has truly taught me to be adventurous and embrace less than ideal weather sometimes. Clothes can be washed and bodies can be bundled up.