Got some major news to share in the upcoming week. Ya! But, right now I want to talk about arriving.
I used to think that arriving meant a big house, the perfect husband, and a career right out of college. I thought it was being rich.
Yesterday, I was at lunch with a @bela_aleksandra
We had just connected recently. She has a heavy accent and fire red hair and paints wonderful art.
She explained the first time she saw me at a panel. She said when I announced that I was a fat, Black and Muslim in front of a room filled with mostly thin white woman, she cheered out loud. She said that every time I spoke, people’s faces would light up. They’d snap their fingers. Laugh. They weren’t somber like they were before. Because I was so awesome, she was afraid to speak to me, and the stories I told were so powerful that it overwhelmed her. But that my story is so prevalent that every body needs to hear it.
I nodded my head and smiled and nodded my head and smiled some more as she showered me. The next moment, I found myself in tears in a crowded restaurant. “You are saying such nice things.” I wiped my eyes with a dirty napkin, embarrassed. Realistically, sometimes I think I’m not doing enough.
I was taken aback by the genuine love. I hadn’t known how to process it. And, to hear how much I affect others and hear first hand what’s impactful.
The things Im praised for now was scolded when I was growing up and in adulthood. I was being raised to fit in line. I still struggle with say this because it’s acceptable and nice versus say that because it’s the truth. My truth.
For me, arriving means not wanting to be acceptable, but instead being phenomenal. Because I’m the woman that Baby Leah V needed growing up.
What’s arriving mean to you? Do you struggle to live in your truth?
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