These are really intense times. We are in a collective trauma pit. I am feeling protective of all of us. I am feeling protective of those of you who are reviewing your whole lives and questioning everything. This is not an elegant process. It’s messy, painful and confusing. It’s a time to return to the most basic kind of loving-kindness for yourself. When your head starts spinning, when your gut is wrenched, don’t hold everything in.
1. Place your hands on your heart, or somewhere on your body, and breathe. Really feel your breath.
2. Take your eyes away from a screen and look around you. Look at a something in nature or a piece of art you love, and breathe. Take it in.
3. Remember that for all of the confusion, all of the ugly things that may have happened, there are also acts of beauty, moments of profound connection, people loving each other. When I lived in India, the news always showed Muslim/ Hindu conflicts. My guru would tell me countless stories of Muslims and Hindus working side by side caring for each other’s children, friends and neighbors.
4. It’s ok to turn away from information for self-preservation.
5. To do your work in the world without destroying yourself, your inner platform of okayness has to be robust.
Revealing your own story and personal life is not the only way to show solidarity. Buying entire paradigms of thought is also not compulsory. You can believe survivors and feel strange about everything that is happening. You can be a champion of women, and recognize the collective cancer that we have and all of our parts in it.
If you are compelled to reveal a story, I recommend sharing it first with a trusted friend, therapist, or even writing it in your journal. Sit with it. Then if you still want to share publicly, go ahead. Just know that it is very vulnerable because you don’t know who will see it and read it, and that can register as something else that is out of your control that pings your original trauma. Remember here: we are trying to heal. To do that, we have to do it together.
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