This was a very exciting week for The MindReset! In collaboration with #HowardUniversity
, TMR member @jingwunders
gave an inspiring and insightful talk to pharmacy student on the current state of mental health in the United States, as well as the many coping mechanisms available to combat stress, depression, and other mental health conditions.
To healthcare professionals, students, and those who give back to their communities, remember that you are not alone in your endeavors. Helping improve mental health outcomes, and combating the stigma, can be deeply fulfilling but deeply draining at the same time. Never forget about your own mental health and wellness. If you feel down and out, never hesitate to reach out to others for help and support!
Our style of attachment affects everything from our partner selection to how well our relationships progress and how they end. That is why recognising our attachment pattern can help us understand our strengths and vulnerabilities in a relationship. An attachment pattern is established in early childhood attachments and continues to function as a working model for relationships in adulthood. #wegotyou #theselfspace
The weekend is here and its a good chance to rest up, have some fun and chill. Make sure you’re doing things that make you happy and taking time out to look after yourself.
Have a great weekend🌈
I apologize for such bad posting this week. I caught the stomach bug/flu cold thing that’s been going around the area. I haven’t been this sick in, well, I’m not sure how long.
This bug has made me reevaluate my gratitude for my health. To truly appreciate that I’m rarely this snot-monster. That most days I’m healthy, energized, and motivated. •
This bug also forced me to put my self-care into action. Sure. I could have pushed through, but that would have dragged out the recovery time and I know I would be like this for a month instead of a few (long and miserable) days.
Before I got sick, Greg and I were talking about our culture and the obsession with taking shots and I had said “Yea, I’m too old to take shots of alcohol I don’t even really like. Heck. I’m too old to just drink drinks I don’t really like.” And I think the same goes here. I’m too old to drag out a sickness. We all work and stress too much. When we get sick, we still march into our offices and sit in our contaminated cubes. We wear our sicknesses as a badge. •
I’m done playing this game. If it’s a small cold, yea, I’m sure I’ll try to push through. But real sickness? I’ll take a few sick days full of sleep, self-care, and mind, body, and soul nourishment
#mimentality #keeprecovering #keepfighting #keepliving #mentalhealthblog
Just finished doing my nails ~ love a fresh nail day😍 .
So yesterday’s exposure therapy update : for some reason the part of the website where the pictures are wasn’t working so instead we looked at the section where there was videos, there were a few cartoon ones etc they were easy to manage. Not sure how I’m going to manage the “scary” R E A L life ones!! Has anyone ever worked through exposure therapy? Have they found it made any —difference—??
Recovery is such a long road to go, everyone with mental health problems and even the other people on this planet will or had experience the process of recovery. I think it's a journey to myself it's a circle who leads direct into me and meanwhile I try to change everything around me. So often I notice that this doesn't work out, so I know that I have to change and work on my thoughts and understand my own feelings. But it's so frustrating wanting something so bad and can't reach it and you push yourself, lift yourself up over and over again,let yourself bloom and wither in the next day. You really have to trust yourself but how do you trust yourself when your not even sure who you are. There is so much going on and I'm a little bit confused about life right know and what it's supposed to be for me. But those bad days never have the power to bring me on my knees for a long time. I often think I'm weak but there's no weakness when you're able to stand up after every fall!
#thoughts #strength #recovery #mentalillness #mentalhealth #depression #anxiety #liftingtext #mentalhealthblog #mindpositivity #brave #againstanxiety #myself #bloom #nevergiveup #altgirl #uplifting #botanic #flower #art #therapy
We use our senses to help process all aspects of our lives. We use sight to see our options, smell to guide us, touch to feel our way, sound to warn us, and if need be taste to solve the mystery. Perception, it’s all in the way we use these senses to interpret the information that’s coming in. The problem with it is we tend to forget to use it in positive ways when referring to ourselves. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
What is your reality? Is it your wishful thinking of what you want it to be like, or who you want to be. Carl Rogers, a humanistic psychologist, said that people are inherently good, but become destructive when poor-self concept or external constraints override the valuing process. I have had some pretty limiting beliefs of myself over the years. I became who ever I thought I could become to have others like me. My reality wasn’t mine, it was theirs, and the reality was I forgot that my perception of me is the only thing that matters.
“There are things known and there are thing unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” ~Aldous Huxley
#perception #positive #negative #reality #yourreality #carlrogers #limitingbeliefs #self #likeme #myreality #imatter #known #unknown #doorsofperception #aldoushuxley #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthblogger #mentalhealth #mentalillness #memtalhealthawareness #nami #stigma #stigmafree #breakthestigma #breakthesilence #ptsd #anxiety #depression #mymentalhealth #healing
That business man who gets up, gets dressed, goes to work, socialises, smiles & gets things done like any other normal day may be depressed.
Your friend who stays in bed, closes the curtains, switches their phone off, sleeps for hours may be depressed.
A celebrity who parties all weekend, who is the loudest in the crowd, bubbly & outgoing may be depressed.
People can sometimes function when depressed & some may shut down when depressed... depression is completely different for everyone.
Depression makes you feel hopeless, alone, a burden, lethargic, useless, angry, 0 energy, a lack of joy for things you once enjoyed, anxious... it’s so much more than just ‘sadness’ & it can be so easily disguised. Depression can effect anyone at anytime, whether you have been through something or not. Always be kind because you never know who needs your kindness, who needs to know someone is there if they need to talk & someone not to judge.
#mentalhealth #mentalillness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalillnessawareness #blog #blogger #mentalhealthblog #myjourney #influencer #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthcommunity #ptsd #anxiety #depression #stopthestigma #breakthesilence #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #bpd #invisibleillness #mentalhealthrecovery
“It’s Spring 2013 and I am standing in the biscuit aisle of our local Tesco with my two sons. I’m 48, exhausted and sobbing. I haven’t slept soundly for ages and I feel permanently anxious. I’m a working Mum, flying solo with my boys and both my parents are going through chemotherapy....”
New story on the website (link in bio) as the inspirational @healthyhappy50
describes the life changing impact of a huge rowing challenge. Thank you so much for sharing 💕
Next year my baby starts kindergarten. On the blog I’ve talked a little bit about it! I’m naturally so emotional, after all she is my first to go to big school. Here’s an excerpt: “It was only yesterday you were two pink lines and the size of a poppy seed. A little life growing inside my womb, soon to be welcomed earthside and start your journey in this world. I knew when I met you that a piece of my heart had left my body and that it was yours to keep forever. I had 9 months to prepare myself for your entrance, and Ive had 5 years to prepare for this next chapter in our lives. I didnt realise it would come so soon, but here it is... Kindergarten. “
Link in bio for the full blog post. 💖
Someone asked me the other day whether I see comparison as helpful or as a hindrance to my journey.
My immediate answer was that comparison is bad, a driver of negativity and thoughts of not being good enough.
Firstly, we are constantly curating our external selves, only sharing the best bits in public and on social media. So we’re comparing ourselves to each other’s best bits - not a true representation of our lives.
We are also all at different stages in our journeys, so we end up comparing our beginnings to someone else’s middle or end. Which is not a fair comparison. How could comparing my 2 month old insta account, with 29 followers, to someone else’s 5 year old account, with 50k followers, possibly be fair or helpful?
I'm speaking as someone who does this constantly. But also as someone who is constantly reminding myself that I shouldn’t.
The only person you should compare yourself to, and try to be better than, is who you were yesterday.
So instead of comparing myself to others, I try to compare myself against, and hold myself to, the values I think are important and the purpose I have set for myself.
BUT I do think comparison can be an important source of encouragement when used correctly.
For example, in an @f45stratford
class I will compare myself to others to make sure I’m pushing hard enough and enjoying the session. What I won’t be doing is comparing my abs (or lack thereof) to their (abundant) abs, because that’s not helpful and it’s not going to make me feel good.
But of course I’m human and when I’m having a bad day I still find myself scrolling Instagram wishing I was as pretty or had as many followers as someone else. I just try to be mindful of my behaviour and stop when I catch myself doing it by confiscating my phone to a drawer for the rest of the evening.
So my #tipoftheday
is this. Be mindful of how you use comparison in your life, and if you find it has a negative impact, try your hardest not to do it (easier said than done I know). As with any bad habits, it takes time and hella effort to break it. I’ll try to write more on breaking bad habits in a future post.
#comparison #comparisonisthethiefofjoy #inspirationalquotes
New blog post up! *
It's difficult to acknowledge that you can use some counseling sessions.
In my Mexican/Mexican-American culture, there is a stigma around mental health in general, but specifically around attending counseling. I have been a strong believer in counseling since my first sessions in fall of 2008. Since then, I have gone periods with and without counseling, depending on different life situations, but I have always been grateful to attend sessions when I needed them most.
I hope these tips will be of use to you! .
#slaytheordinaryday #anxiety #cbt #tips #mentalhealthblog #newblogpost #blogger #lifestyleblog #counseling #rgv
some thoughts of this last few weeks..
“You feel like you’re simultaneously breaking out and having a breakthrough.”
I won a retail competition at work and got to ride on shift as my prize, so I picked taking tonight’s Alanis Morissette theme ride. I have been sharing my story and my struggles recently with someone else who was in the class, and having her there kept me grounded in using the class as a form of healing. (She’ll know who she is as soon as she reads this 😉)
During the second to last song, “Havoc,” @ryjlewis
talked about how we always want the fanfare in life to come first. We want to be celebrated and celebrate ourselves, but there is so much fear and anger. But once we can break through that, that’s when the fanfare comes. I felt like he was talking right to me.
I’ve spent a lot of the past few weeks angry. I’ve been angry at the universe, at my bipolar disorder, at people in my life. I’ve been scared every day of the possibility of losing my shit, of failing, of being lonely. Today I got off the bike, went right to the woman I had felt connected to the whole class, and I told her that I could go home tonight and not be mad.
That was a breakthrough. But it was also breaking out of the pain I had been inflicting on myself. Is everything going to be fixed? Absolutely not. But do I feel rejuvenated, so I feel like I can press restart and try again? Absolutely.
I came home, and I wasn’t mad. I checked everything off my to do list. I’m taking a mental health day tomorrow. I’m taking care of me. And that all started tonight, with a serious sweat sesh on the bike where I got to be gritty and authentic. I got to be me, all while getting to hear music that I’ve been using as a coping tool.
The point is, I chose to do something for me. I could’ve picked a gift card that I could’ve used to buy gas as a prize for the contest. But I picked this because I knew I needed to let go. I needed to hear the lyrics about hiding behind false confidence. Because that’s what I’ve been doing. Weekend, here I come. This is my time to celebrate life and to celebrate me. The fanfare is on its way.
Happy Thursday everyone! 💙 As I go through withdrawals, now that my favorite local coffee shop, Chocolate Pi has closed to relocate, I have a blog posted today about the best new trend in coffee: glitter lattes! 😱✨ And yes, they taste as awesome as they look! Check it out!
Link in bio >>
Surround yourself with people who do nothing but lift you up. People who support you and are there for you everyday. People who love you unconditionally and who you love unconditionally in return. Any body who causes you heart ache or a headache really isn’t worth the mental drain. Take control of your life. It really has taken me a long time to realise this but I am glad I get it now. 💖
Regardless of where we are in life we always have the opportunity to pause and reflect on the strength of our spirit and how we express ourselves outwardly.
I know for me, when life throws some curve balls, it’s easy for me to slip with my relationship with God (I stop investing as much time into Him, my prayers are weak, and I begin to take matters into my own hands) which is something I am currently working on. When this happens, I tend to grow anxious, depressed, distant from my loved ones, I snap, I get angry, slip back into old behaviors and beat myself up... nothing good comes from having a weak spirit! Keep that prayer life up!
⬇️ Reflect on your spirit (things I regularly ask myself)
▫️How are you treating others? What about yourself?
▫️Are you angry or bitter about anything? What part of it is yours to take on and which is not?
▫️Do you feel like a victim or a victor over your experiences/ circumstances?
▫️What can you be doing differently to better your relationship with God and / or serving others?
So my nutritionist taught me this cool little “trick” to do at restaurants and I absolutely love doing it every time I go out now! It especially is good for breakfast because how are you supposed to get all the food groups in when you’re a pancake/waffle lover like me!?
So I have done this little “trick” many times before and so what I did at Metro Diner the other day was that I ordered a waffle (carbs) with fruit on top (fruit) and then my dad ordered a plate with bacon, hash browns, eggs, and an English muffin (protein and more carbs) that I put jelly on after the picture lol. Then, to make it a complete meal while also getting something that I love, we split them (and took a little home for my mom because it was a lot) :) I have also heard that you can order whatever and then get an appetizer pancake for the table! That way, you can still indulge in things you love while still having a well balanced meal :)
Nobody else could prove it to me or convince me. It was my job to convince myself.
There is a way to solve this, there is a resolution. … That’s the truth you have to remind yourself during the healing journey
4. Social Anxiety (Part II): Managing anxiety.
It's worth noting that there are some positives to anxiety. I think every emotion that we experience has its place and purpose. Anger, for instance, is a good motivator and useful in certain situations. Anxiety, in the same way, can be leveraged to your advantage. The key, for me, is being able to recognize extremes. Some days, irrational thoughts and messy moods trigger the anxiety in social settings even if it is a perfectly welcoming environment. Recognition prompts response, though, and I've gotten a lot better at recognizing these emotions. I'm able to then deal with the anxiety I experience. This often looks like me affirming myself, breathing slowly and deeply, talking to another person I feel safe with (if the situation permits it), or simply being anxious and getting it out of my system (this happens more often than I'd like to admit haha).
One of the ways I manage anxiety is by being prepared, especially with work. I do my research. I journal. I religiously update my planner. I love organization - be that organization of thoughts or tasks, it makes daily functioning easier.
Music has also been monumental in managing anxiety. It was my escape four years ago, when I was struggling a lot with anxiety. I loved (& still do) exploring new music and playing the guitar. There were days when I'd ditch school, stay in, and learn to play the guitar (still a work in progress). My ever-growing interest in music is undoubtedly one of the best byproducts of the anxiety I experienced.
Prayer also helps me tremendously. Taking the time to learn and build on my spiritual beliefs has brought incredible tranquility in my life. Prayer is like spiritual cleansing for me. I love the reminder that while there is a world within us, there is also one around us and they aren't always in perfect harmony but that's okay.
✨Journal entry n.27✨- The quote "And yet here you are, living, despite it all" came to mind whilst I was drawing and designing this. Oh and the song "alive" by Pearl jam 🤙😂 I was inspired by the feeling of the fact that I'm turning 20 in a couple of months, I'm very grateful to have made it this far. There was once a time in my life where I couldn't see myself making it through my teenage years, my mental health had gotten so severe. So even though I'm still struggling (especially after losing my mother) with my mental health, I feel like making it to my 20s is a big deal! I was talking to my father about this and we both got very teary-eyed. There were so many times he thought he could lose me, but here I am still fighting. And here YOU are still fighting. Each and every one of you are nothing less than warriors. 💚As always lots of love, borderline_journey💚 #borderlinejourney #bpd #bpdcommunity #warrior #stillalive #mentalhealthblog #mentalhealthjourney #mentalhealthart #mentalhealthcommunity #borderlinepersonalitydisorder #mentalhealthawareness #keeptalkingmh #fightingborderline
I posted this on my story a few months, but it is still my fav go-to meal! I probably have it for dinner 2-3 times a week🤷🏼♀️ it's tasty, quick, easy and most importantly vegan!😋
1. Chop up your veggies. Today I used red peppers, mushrooms and onions. Usually I like to add more and also enjoy green beens, edamame and avocado but this was all I had on hand.
2. Put quinoa or rice in a rice cooker.
3. Sautée the veggies together over medium heat and add minced garlic.
4. Cook Gardein chicken strips as directed by the package. It should only take less than 10 mins. You can also use tofu.
5. Once your base of quinoa or rice is done mix in whatever sauce or spices you prefer. I use a Thai sweet chilli sauce. Then add in all your veggies and protein and voila!
I can make this meal in less than 30 minutes most of the time, including all the prep work. Eating vegan does not need to be complicated or take hours to make your food! And this meal is soooooo good😋😋😋