Last night wrapped up Yom Kippur, a holy holiday in which we Jews are called to take a hard look at our lives, to ask forgiveness from friends and family and to work towards self-improvement going forward. It's not a small feat, especially given it's a fasting holiday 😝. Still, I look forward to it every year**. Of course, this kind of deep personal growth work is not the one (day) and done kind of work, and anyway, I'm a big believer in not letting things sit and wait. I do my very best (I'm not perfect) to work on my relationships in an ongoing way. Point being, I never totally connected to the making relationship amends part of the holiday, and if I'm completely honest, anytime I ever received a global ask for forgiveness--whether it was in person, over the phone, on Facebook, or the like --it always felt somewhat rote and hollow. So I typically spend the day going deep inside, facing and grappling with my biggest challenges.
This year, however, in the hours leading up to the start of the holiday, I received a call from a vintage friend, asking for forgiveness. This is a close, beloved long-time friend who knows my insides, who has seen the most beautiful and also the most messy parts of my life. Someone I love deeply. And someone with whom my relationship has been painfully strained for the better part of this last year. I share more about this profound, powerful, personal experience on my blog, follow the link in my bio ⬆️ to read more.
The upshot: forgiveness matters. And, it's a process.
**My enthusiasm for YK is in no small measure due to @labshul.
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