S E L F L O V E. Prioritising yourself is not the same as lacking concern for others. That is egotism. •
“Real self-love is of service to others. But if self-love is opportunistic, greedy, inconsiderate and self-seeking, it is a false representation of real love.”
Whereas self love is about honouring your own needs, egotism is about crying out for love. Unapologetic disregard, at the expense of others, is sabotage. Over-giving, and completely sacrificing your own needs, is also sabotage. We have all done shitty things by being overly selfish at times. We have also found ourselves drained by giving too much of ourselves at other times. The only way for self love to be open & expansive is through introspection. A refusal to confront our problems and behaviour—good and bad—is constrictive. Never analysing when we’ve crossed the line is dangerous; that is self harm. When was the last time you willingly laid on the ground to be a doormat? When was the last time you completely took advantage of someone else’s generosity?
The truth is that we are all selfish to a certain degree, so how do we draw the line between when to put our own needs aside and when to put ourselves first? In a selfie obsessed era, I would like to think that the key is in calibrating our gauge of weight and urgency. Is what is asked of you a huge sacrifice? Would putting their needs first completely sabotage your own plans? Is it vital to satisfy your needs immediately? How pressing are they?
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