Today was definitely not my day, to say the least.
I’m not one to be all ~*stay positive!!*~ when it comes to bad days, and have learned to sit with my feelings to let them pass. It’s one thing to try to see the good in things - it’s another to blindly try to be happy when you have ish to work through.
If you struggled today, I’m not gonna tell you to have a nice day. I’m gonna tell you that you don’t ever have to experience this day again, and that’s completely fine. Cry, scream into a pillow if you have to. Do what you need to healthily express your emotions and get through the wave. We’ve got this.
There will be people who judge you. There will be people who hurt you. There will be people who do not like you. There will be people who do not understand your past. There will be people who do not approve of your journey in recovery. & that is fine because NONE of those people will be a part of your life.✨ •outfit details on the blog•
Strong words in this climbing book I'm reading. Wife doesn't entirely agree with that last bit 👊
Share a victory with us!! 👏🏼🎉🙌🏻 This past weekend was probably the hardest weekend I’ve had so far struggling cognitive dissonance. BUT I made it and am feeling much better emotionally so THATS MY VICTORY!! Phew! Tell us a victory for you below. 💕
Yeah I can relate! I don’t want to say I’m never going back to my old way of life before recovery, but I’m going to do everything I can every day to make sure I don’t! #amirite
Guys! For my #100dayssober
I decided to buy myself a gift and when @cinkaliciousdef
posted this to her story I HAD to have it. It's so beautiful! I absolutely love it. I'll be purchasing some rings from her soon as well! Thank you so much for the necklace! I am so in love with it!
Gah, how true is this?!? Reminder to not let your thoughts, habits, patterns or feelings get in the way of what you truly want and DESERVE!!
“Don’t be so loyal to your suffering that your healing doesn’t stand a chance.” Are you at peace with who you might become if your story changes? 📖
A lot of us say that we want to heal, better ourselves, etc., but don’t want to put in the work nor let go of our narrative. It has worked for many of us to justify patterns, that it’s “just the way we are.” It has become our identity, our safety blanket.
put it best when she said, “Consider for a moment that what you call your ‘personality’ is actually just a composite of habits & behavioral patterns you developed to cope with trauma. Now ask yourself, who am I outside of my pain? Who would I be if I stopped living life as a product of my story?” Just for today, I pray that you’re willing to look past the unknown when it comes to shedding behavior rooted in trauma. The cycle is difficult to break, yes, but not impossible. 🤞🏼
We like to keep champagne in the fridge for special occasions. You know..like a Tuesday!
I am trying to remain focused on #odaat
, but as our Mexico vacation approaches I'm getting more anxious about where I am in my #sobriety
and going to an all inclusive.
There are thoughts like:
☀️ maybe we just drink on vacations
😎 we can just see how it goes
⛱️ how can we not drink on vacation?
And then there are the competing thoughts of
🚫 I have come so far why give up then
🌊 It will prove so much to myself if I can do it sober
🏖️ You don't need alcohol to enjoy Mexico.
My husband is supportive of whatever I decide. I'm thinking of not deciding anything and going #onedayatatime
but also I think feeling prepared to guard my sobriety might be better.
It's less than 2 weeks away, so wish me luck. I'd love to be able to come back and say I was at 37 days.
I took this photo a couple of years ago, enjoying every minute of being hangover-free in such beautiful surrounds. But that weekend didn't all go smoothly. ⠀
We arrived on Thursday night for a networking event. I've never liked networking events, not even when I was drinking. But I was excited about this one. As finalists for a biz award, I couldn't wait to meet the other biz owners and share the story and message of Sexy Sobriety. ⠀
When I look back now, I can see the danger signs. Despite my excitement, I was also exhausted from a hectic week, hungry, and wearing painful heels. The only alcohol-free options were Coke or plain water. 😝 When it came time to give my speech, I got flustered and messed it up. Afterwards, during chit-chat, I awkwardly gave the shortest answers possible, shifting the conversation straight back to the other person. ⠀
Just the perfect storm of a difficult night, really. Not the end of the world, by any means, but walking back to our hotel room, I couldn't help but feel deflated. I felt sad that it was sometimes hard. In that moment... honestly? I felt triggered. ⠀
Back in our room, we discovered a complimentary bottle of chilled champagne had been placed in our room. And I could only shake my head and laugh. ⠀
"That's it!" I declared to Dom, heading for the mini bar. I pushed past the ridiculously huge bottles of booze, and reached way in the back for the vegan chocolates. I slipped into a bath robe, made us both a cup of tea, and jumped onto the bed, enjoying a heap of those peppermint chocolates in a row. Soooo much better. ⠀
The next morning, of course, I felt human again. That night, as I did my make-up for the gala dinner, I was so grateful to be feeling nerves and excitement, rather than numbing myself. ⠀
At that event, there was delicious food, sparkling mineral water with fresh lime (my favourite!), and a ton of inspiration from the guest speakers. And I didn't miss alcohol even one tiny bit.⠀
Sometimes events will be hard. But the next event just might exceed your expectations. ⠀
Bad days are just bad days. Hold on for the good ones, hon. They're coming, and you'll be SO glad you waited for them. ❤️ ⠀
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Wowweeeeee 👏🏻😍 we cannot wait to see all you shiny beautiful people this weekend 🙌🏻
LETS GET THIS PARTY STARTED 🎉🎉🎉💃🏻🌟💕 #sellout #morningloryville
Transformation Tuesday ✨
in an earlier post I touched on holidays. The picture on the left was taken 4 years ago in Greece where I had a bet with my old boss that I could lose 9lbs in 2 weeks to get to under 9stone, and I did it. I walked 4 miles to and from work everyday, I ate processed chicken and lettuce and no dinner and went to bed at 9pm. I thought that was normal and I was really proud of myself. Then I go on holiday and drink every night and eat everything because now I can - and guess what? I put it all back on plus more. Then I’m miserable again.
Picture on the right is recently in Paris where I swap binge drinking for day trips to see things I’m really interested in. I don’t drink to get drunk anymore, il drink to have a nice glass or red wine or an espresso martini in Oscar Wilde’s bedroom. I weight more but I’m eating healthy and I have a much better, healthy relationship with my body. I love to go on day trips hangover free and retain information!
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Beer for men, wine for women. Countless gifs of women chugging wine to deal with stress shared all over Facebook. Shirts at Target with wine jokes that greet you the moment you walk in. I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of it. Let me explain for those who are new.
I grew up on a vineyard since middle school, I know people enjoy wine and have no problem with them savoring it. It has its place in our culture, and my anger isn't directed towards PEOPLE who drink at all. My anger is directed towards gendered marketing. 📺🎙📰 Marketing that tells women they NEED wine to feel sexy, to connect with friends, to relieve stress, to have fun, to numb feelings, etc.
After Dry January, isn't it weird that Valentine's Day and #NationalDrinkWineDay
immediately throw wine marketing in your face? To some, it’s barely noticeable. But there’s a reason alcohol abuse among women has STAGGERINGLY increased these past two decades by over 80%. 📈
It’s normalized and laughable, which makes women who may have a problem not only ashamed to admit it, but also feel justified because everywhere they go, they see, “hey girl...drink that wine...you deserve it.” 🤷🏻♀️ Drinking isn’t black and white, sober or drunk. You can exist somewhere in the middle and STILL be critical of how alcohol is marketed towards women. You can still enjoy your rosé while remaining aware of how substance abuse is encouraged in modern media. All we ask is that you look closer behind the message and what lies below. 🧠
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My post 10km run this morning, and post long weekend, post!
This post would not have happened 2 years ago, I would have been on the couch today, have had a carb ladened gooey dinner and in bed ( it’s 730pm here). .
You see, long weekends were wine fuelled, hangover filled, and 2 years ago full of self loathing, anxiety of the coming week as nothing got done even though I had an extra day. .
Today is a different story. I didn’t even realize it was a long weekend until yesterday, I have worked out, gotten 3 runs in, found the brightest wall ever, read, gotten together with 2 different friends, planned a trip, got groceries, gotten some work done, had my parents in town, my house is tidyish, I’ve eaten healthyish I am content & feel amazing. There’s no hangover, guilt or anxiety tonight. .these are just a few of my benefits of not drinking 😄
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❤️ #anxiety #healthierme #odaat #nohangover #hangoverfree #winefree #fitandsober #sobermomma #fitfebruary #teetotaler #mondayrunday #vancity #ageisjustanumber #changeyourlifestyle #wino #quitdrinking #quitsmoking #halfmarathontraining #fitover45 #sweaty
that doesn't get much more real and raw than this. First photo outside of a sheriff's car vs. second photo inside of a sheriff's car at one point during the night. This post was one of those where I closed my eyes, held my breath, and hit that "share" button with no turning back. While I am beyond proud of the woman I am today and embrace every part of my story, there are just some photos that bring back a tsunami of emotions. This being one of those. This is exactly what active addiction looks like on me. This is a photo that to this day makes me sick to my stomach every time I look at it. This is a photo that accurately depicts where my addiction is capable of taking me. This is a photo that reminds me exactly what alcohol does to me. This is a photo that I will never be proud of but I will also never be ashamed of it. This is a photo that can hopefully serve as some inspiration and hope to someone who is struggling to know that recovery is possible and you are worth it!!!🖤🖤 •outfit details on blog, click the link in my bio. The purple outfit details not the mugshot outfit details😉•
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So. Freaking. Excited. .
100 days feels like forever. Even tho I have been here before. I feel so super accomplished. And cant wait to surpass 6 months. But, all I have is today, and today I wont drink. .
Oh, and my new hair. I really love it and I feel more me than I have in a while. Idk if I'll ever go blonde again but I'm loving the purple. .
Several people close to me have expressed their dislike and I've let it be known that I dont need that kind of negativity in my life. It's really disheartening when complete strangers are more kind to you. Oh well. I'm not going to let it change my mind. I love it. And that's what matters.
I’ve always been a health conscious person, but honestly - when it came to alcohol, I just closed my eyes and stuck my fingers in my ears.
Today’s blog is all about some of the strange and ridiculous stuff you end up doing when you’re a health nut by day and a boozer by night.
Once you’ve had a read (link is in my profile) let me know if this stuff resonates with you too! I’ve got a sneaky feeling I won’t be alone with this... 😉