The number one things that Uber/Lyft drivers want to talk to me about? A husband and children.
Many drivers drop me off at my apartment and remark, “Wow, your husband must have a great job!” Thats internalized heteronormativity. That’s male privilege. That’s discounting even the THOUGHT that maybe I’m doing this alone? That I support myself. That I don’t need a man, or any partner.
Living in my Widener bubble and in conversation with like-minded friends, these ideas seem so dated. But these confrontations are very real. “So you don’t have children? So you don’t want children? What must your parents think? Do you have a pet? Oh, if you have a pet you’re getting your needs fulfilled.” ⠀⠀
Just the other day, my parents’ longtime friend commented on a child-free article I posted, “You’ll want kids when you find the right man.” AGAIN!
Not all women want babies🤷🏻♀️. And even if we did, a man isn’t a necessity to have them🙄. PLEASE NOTE, it is entirely inappropriate to 1) assume that women want babies, want to hold your baby, and are excited about babies; and 2) ask a woman when she is going to have a baby or when she’s going to settle down.
Yes I have a cat and I absolutely adore her (don’t get me started on the #CatLady
trope), but my biggest ‘baby?’ My dreams. My drive. My ambition. And I’m not going to settle for anything less.