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A song. A smell. An outfit. A sound. Going to COSTCO!!! . . Dude!! I was in that freakin store yesterday... why when there is just two of us.. Anyways.. I found myself wanting to buy stuff my college kid (who is 2500 miles away) things she would like. Like a case of Udon or some mangos.. and I know I can’t really send all that stuff. 🙄. I guess it’s just the regular everyday stuff you miss when you have your birds leave the nest that get ya when you least expect it
College: Stress, anxiety, overwhelm, loneliness, etc. 😣 All college-age women deal with these emotions at some point. If you're struggling to find camaraderie at college, we have just the group for you, our 💻🙎‍♀️ Real Talk Virtual Group for College Girls🙎‍♀️💻. This online group brings together girls from various colleges who totally get what you're going through! It provides a secure environment, where you can learn strategies and skills to help you manage ANY challenges that you may face.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ SO many college girls believe they are going "through it" alone, but we're here to tell you, you're NOT alone, and our group is here for you. We are starting a new group in March! Hope to see you all soon... well, virtually (link in bio).⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #college #collegestress #collegeanxiety #teenagerstress #teenageranxiety #collegetransition #collegegirls #collegecommunity #collegeenvironment #collegeproblems #collegesupport #collegefreshman #freshmanincollege #student #friendships #teenagersuccess #therapy #tuesdaythoughts #tuesdayinspiration #mothersanddaughters #selfesteem #selflove #coach #counseling #psychology #conflictresolution #goalsetter #lifecoach #lifecoaching #willseyconnections
Drive into work this morning!! Not very fun #callgirl
OMG!! This is such a great offer!! I can’t say it enough how much I 💗 my essential oils. Sent them with G to college with her diffuser and she is the hit in the dorm. . . Hit me up with a DM or type “YES” below and I will add you to my exclusive group !!! New oils each day.. why not, right 🤷🏼‍♀️
OMG!! This is such a great offer!! I can’t say it enough how much I 💗 my essential oils. Sent them with G to college with her diffuser and she is the hit in the dorm. . . Hit me up with a DM or type “YES” below and I will add you to my exclusive group !!! New oils each day.. why not, right 🤷🏼‍♀️
semangat kalian para pejuang gelar i love you and i love myself too RASAH KAKEHAN SAMBAT SEMANGAT #puisi #poem #poetry #art #collegelife #college #anxiety #collegeanxiety #cheerup #poets #poems #instapoem #instapoet #instapuisi #selflove #sajak #instasajak
For over five years, I’ve had a calling in my heart. It was quiet at first, but over time, it got louder and louder. It was consistent, clear, and unrelenting. • Help girls with their depression and anxiety. • Who am I to do that? I thought. At the time, I was in graduate school, and I was still very much working through my own shit. I had finally learned how to say no to a therapist who didn’t deserve my time, who made me feel worse, and find someone who got me and asked the right questions. I had been on anti-depressants for less than a year, previously thinking getting on them would be a sign of giving up, and now realizing they made me my best self. I was working through the worst trauma of my life at the time, the emotional abuse of my father, in my thesis writing, and watching the wounds start to scar over and heal. • So, I tried to ignore it. I pushed it aside. I found the right combination of anti-depressants and stayed on them. I got in the best physical shape of my life. I graduated from my writing program. I went from not being able to leave the house to go to a movie to traveling to Iceland and London. I went through the next great trauma of my life. It hurt. It tried to bury me. But, I fought for my life. I workout out and talked to a therapist and worked my ass off to get a job I loved, and refused to believe that trauma had to stay my story. • And, then, last year, I listened to the whisper that had become a roar. I opened the doors to my website, and A Lotus Blossoms was born. • If you want a mentor who has been through it herself and come out the other side, I’m here. I promise you my commitment to your growth will be unrelenting. Because I know without a doubt that I am here to help you. I can’t turn that whisper off. • So, if you have a whisper that you’re more than the story you’re in right now, reach out. I’d love to work with you . . . . . . . #motivate #start #decisions #mentor #takeaction #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth
We’re a few weeks into the semester. Are you still killing it and staying on schedule? Or, are the wheels of the bus starting to fall off? • It’s easy to feel motivated during times of natural beginnings like the beginning of a new semester or the new year. What’s harder is staying consistent in the habits you want to create day in and day out. • Don’t kid yourself. Motivation doesn’t come for free. So, if you’re beating yourself up for sleeping in and missing class for the third time in a row or telling yourself you suck because you said you’d break up with that friend who really doesn’t treat you right and you didn’t -- let yourself off the hook. Well, at least a little bit. • When you’re depressed and anxious, motivation isn’t going to magically appear out of thin air. You’re going to have to fight for it. You’re going to have to start by doing something you don’t want to do, that you don’t have the energy to do. You’re going to have to DECIDE to be motivated. • Don’t make it bigger than it needs to be. Don’t make a million promises to yourself that you know you can’t keep. Pick some low hanging fruit. Read a chapter of your textbook. Workout to a YouTube video in your dorm room. Cook yourself a healthy dinner instead of getting fast food again. Tell yourself you’re going to do something that you want to do, and then do it. • It’s the decision FOLLOWED BY THE ACTION that’s going to motivate you, not the desire to feel motivated on it’s own. • So, what commitment to yourself are you going to keep? . . . . . . #motivate #actions #mindfulness #decisions #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
Mailed out packages yesterday. Major Mom fail as the weather got the best of me. It makes me feel better when I send packages... even if she doesn’t need anything.. or if it’s silly stuff
When you’re in college, you’ve got to figure out affordable ways to manage your depression and anxiety. I get it. You’re barely scraping by with your part time job and ramen noodles for dinner every night and every now and then you want to go to a concert or order takeout with your friends. Free is your favorite word. • So, what if you were missing out on something totally free that would soothe your anxiety and depression? Would you wanna know about it. Well, you probably are miss out. And, it’s not a total revolution or anything. • I’m talking about walking. Not walking from class to class or walking to catch the bus. Not walking with your headphones in and a podcast on, not walking on a treadmill at the gym for exercise while listening to Beyonce. • I’m talking about intentionally walking by yourself. With your own thoughts. Outside in nature. I know what you’re thinking. “This sounds so dumb.” “That won’t help me.” “It’s too easy.” “I’ve tried that.” • I feel you because I said all of those salty things, too, when a therapist in high school asked me if I had tried going for walks or coloring. I got salty because I had tried it...kind of...for awhile. And, if you have tried it too and given in a real shot, stick around for future posts, because we’re going to tackle a lot bigger shit than this (ie: medication, CBD, mindset, nutrition, environment, and more). But, if your inner mean girl is coming out and Salty Susan doesn’t actually know what she’s talking about, give me a minute. • Walking is underrated. Because when you walk by yourself, outside, in silence, you’re really practicing a moving meditation. I know, dude, you thought you couldn’t still and meditate, but it turns out you don’t have to. Just spend time moving your body, feeling the wind on your face, and listen to your thoughts as they flow. Let them be what they are. Try it every day for a week. Try it every day for 30 days. What do you have to lose? It’s FREE.
Rainy day seems like a good reason to sport the colors !!! #hoosiermama
When I think about all the changes in the past year, I have to ask myself... did you honor the all your past seasons. Did I just go thru the motions? Did I struggle where I shouldn’t? Was there stress when instead of joy? Has anyone else ever felt like this? Why don’t women talk about “the change” just negative stuff. Anyone else ever think like this?💗
Today.. she made it 🐦😊🙏🏼
Without exception - every major change in my life was accompanied by some level of fear. From jitters to full panic, and everything in between. . If I’d settled with the predictable and familiar, I wouldn’t have the life I have today. . If you’re waiting for the fear to go away BEFORE making a big move, you’ll never do it. . Feel the fear and do it anyway. #cognitivebehavioraltherapy
Me.. a nap and some journal time!!
🥑🥥🍳🥗🥚🍒🥨🍐🍋🍑🥐🍲 I didn’t always love kale and kombucha. I didn’t used to be so diligent about eating clean at least 80% of the time (not 100% of the time because I’m human and yes, I just ate a large fry from Sonic). I used to avoiding working out like it was my job. • And, you know where that got me? Feeling like shit. Overweight. Miserable about my body. No energy. Constant negative thoughts. Feeling tired and lethargic all the time. • It wasn’t working, so I changed it. It wasn’t easy, and I still struggle every day with certain aspects of choosing a healthy lifestyle. • But, you know what? Black bean burgers and a side of roasted vegetables and potatoes makes me feel full instead of sick to my stomach. It makes me feel good about myself because I know I’m treating my one body well. And, that affects my mind, too. Quitting soda and cutting back on sugar makes me feel more calm and less jittery. It eliminates a mid-afternoon crash and reduces my anxiety. • You may not like salads, either. But, would you like them better if they made you feel better? If there was a magic pill to make your anxiety and depression go away, I bet you’d be begging me for it. Well, here it is, babe. • What you’re putting in your body matters. If you eat like shit, expect to feel like shit—plain and simple. So, what are you making for breakfast tomorrow morning? (Hint:I have oatmeal with raisins, chia seeds, and cinnamon almost every day of my life.) . . . . . . #cleaneating #veggies #veggiestyle #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
I’m a nature freak. Not a surprise to those who’ve followed me for a while. As a psychotherapist interacting with people all day - time in nature is a special place where I go “inward”, reflect, work on myself. It sparks my creative juices, nature does, and I often come up with great ideas while hiking! . . Where do you unwind? Where or when are you your most creative? #naturetherapy
Who do you share your fears with❓ 💭 Not everyone deserves to hear your story. • Some of you are so scared of what your friends or family or boyfriend or girlfriend might think of you that you lock up all of your worries and doubts and sadness inside of yourself. You put on a happy face and figure out how to get by in the classroom and at parties so maybe no one even knows the real demons you face in a daily basis. I’ve been that girl in high school. • Some of you are all too eager to share with anyone who will listen what the voices inside your head are saying. You’re so scared of how you feel and want so desperately to find a solution that you overshare and give your heart away to anyone, even people who don’t deserve it. I’ve been that girl, too, during parts of college. • Either way, you’re not really striking a healthy balance, are you? You feel totally alone with your scary thoughts or you feel abandoned and unsupported by the people you’ve tried to let in who may not have really cared or known how to help you. • What if you could be the girl who knows how to open up to close friends, boyfriends and girlfriends who have proven themselves, parents, and professors? What if your fears didn’t spill out of you like word vomit but they didn’t choke you either? What if you felt safe to be who you are and say what you’re really thinking, knowing you’d be loved and supported in return? • Would you want to be that girl? . . . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
Your mental health strides aren’t going to look like strides at first. • They are going to be a yoga class at your campus gym. They are going to be dropping a class so your schedule is lighter this semester. They are going to be stopping yourself and choosing a thought when your inner mean girl won’t shut up. • They are going to come in fits and starts. Your mental health strides aren’t going to look like mine or hers. They are going to be what works for YOU. • And, they’re only going to come from trying out something different than what you’re doing now. From choosing to say, this isn’t working and I’m willing to be open to something else. • Your mental health strides are going to start with small moments. Then you take the moments that feel good and do them again. You’ll fight against the anxiety and depression gremlins and remind them there’s a better way to live. Day in and day out you’ll practice until the moments become actions and the actions become habits. • And, one day, the magic will reveal itself. The habits will become easier. You’ll start to notice the benefits. The good actions you take will seem more natural than staying up too late and overworking yourself and beating yourself up. • That’s the magic. That’s you in your stride. Not one big answer but a bunch of tiny moments stacked up next to each other over and over again of you saying yes to yourself and no to anxiety and depression . . . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
#1 lifestyle change to holistically address stress, anxiety, depression = eat real food. . . The human body was designed to eat foods placed on this planet for our consumption. . . Why did we have to mess it all up with highly processed foods, factory edible products (I refuse to call them “food”), and altered plant genetics? Why do we “feed” conventionally raised animals (for meat), products they weren’t intended to eat? . . Convenience? Cash? Politics? . . To emotionally function at your best. To cope with stress your best. To live your best life. Eat real food. 💥 #eatwholefoods
Lately I’ve been hearing from y’all that anxiety is a major motivation buzzkill. I can relate. When I was in college, I tried to do all the things. But, what I really wanted to be able to do was go to The Crystal Ballroom and dance and be carefree with my friends. Yes, you heard that right. I was a huge nerd in college (still am) and was in Ballroom Dancing Club. So, anyway… I made it to The Crystal Ballroom a few times, but my spot wasn’t on the dance floor—it was on my knees in the bathroom, with my face over a toilet bowl. It’s important for you to know I hadn’t had a drop of alcohol. And yet, my chicken tenders were coming up with rapid ease. Being around so many new people just made me so anxious! Flash forward to yesterday: I bought a ticket to @msrachelhollis RISE women’s conference in Dallas. The venue seats over 7,000. And, what do I feel? Sheer excitement. You can get here, too. What would YOU do if anxiety wasn’t a roadblock? Drop it in the comments. Then shoot me a DM if you want to talk about real steps it takes to get you there. . . . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
You’re not going to please everyone. There, I said it. So, why are you trying, babe? Your ego will have you believe that if you can’t please one person, whether it’s your best friend or the check out guy at the grocery store, you’re a failure. And, you believe this lie. Over and over ago, you let the ego brain take over and tell you you’re not good enough. You don’t deserve to be happy. See, everyone does think you’re a fuck up. Well, guess what? You’re not a failure. You are good enough. This has been my go to mantra for ages. Why? Because the little lie that’s always nagged me the most is that I’m not enough. And, I’m willing to bet if you have anxiety like me, that lie has haunted you, too. How do I know it’s a lie? Because our value isn’t determined by a stranger or even the people we love most. It isn’t even determined by us. It’s inherent. It’s there from the start. And, I’ll say it again every day until we both believe it. You are enough. I am enough. We are enough. Say it until you believe it. And then, say it again tomorrow when you forget. . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
MEDITATION: My number 1 holistic recommendation for anxiety and stress❗️ . . You don’t need a fancy pillow, a singing bowl or a man bun to meditate. No disrespect for any of the aforementioned. . . Simple meditation. The perfect stress antidote. . #meditateforstress
Be realistic about your social life. It's normal to have some days and nights to yourself, so don't force yourself to go out if you're not feeling it. #dailytonic
Do you need to talk to a therapist, but just can’t find the time to physically get there? Do you travel a lot for work? Drive kids around all day? Busy student schedule? . . That extra commute time to and from the therapist’s office can add to the time commitment. . . What if you could click a button on your phone or computer, right from your home, office, hotel room or dorm? . . . You can! . . I’m so excited to have fully launched tele-health, secure video therapy services to all CA residents! . . It’s super easy to book & pay. Telehealth services are covered by most insurance companies! . . BOOK NOW or contact me via my website - link in bio.
You’re not going to feel good every day. There, I said it. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s unrealistic to think you’ll never feel depressed or anxious again in your life. I’m not in the camp of people who think you can “get over” depression and anxiety. And, you know what? I don’t think that’s a bad thing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Our emotions give us clues into what’s going on deep inside our hearts and minds. They’re there for a reason—even the so called “bad” ones. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ There are people who will lead you to believe depression and anxiety are “bad” and you need to “get better” if you experience them. I call bullshit. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Because, there’s nothing wrong with you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ll say it again: There’s nothing wrong with you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You’re a human experiencing normal human emotions that are trying to tell you something. Whether it’s fear over an outcome (anxiety) or that you’re afraid you’ll never be good enough so why even try (depression) or something else, your emotions are trying to give you a roadmap. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Instead of trying to “fix” them or yourself, try getting curious about them instead. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
More and more students have been emailing me to get their Spring 2019 semesters on track. Winter break is almost over. ❄️ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ How have you been spending your break? I used to always get sick at the beginning of Winter Break from running myself ragged in the fall and cramming for my finals. Is that you, too? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What if you could feel REFRESHED at the end of Winter Break and ready to SLAY the Spring Semester instead of just looking forward to Spring Break? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So often I would have such high expectations of all the things I was going to do, friends I was going to see, and books I was going to read over Winter Break. But then I’d just end up feeling exhausted, binging on TV shows I had missed during the Fall semester, and laying around in sweats. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If there was a program to help you rest + recharge over Winter Break so you could come out on TOP during Sprinng semester, would you take it? . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
I love feeling inspired by my guests ❤ You put a lot of trust into your stylist to give you not just the hair that makes you feel good but an experience that makes you feel special and pampered. I love the look on a guest's face when they love their hair, the "ah-ha!" when they are getting style coaching and the excitement of taking home a new product to recreate their look. Follow @neelyoconnor for more inspiration. 🌟 ・・・ Self care isn’t all meditation and yoga. Today, self care for me looks like a hair appointment at a fancy salon in town. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For so long, I would avoid spending money on myself in any way. I would go to Great Clips to get my hair cut twice a year, always do my own nails, do at home workout videos I got from the library. I loved saving money and seeing my bank account happy as a result of my minimal purchases. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But, what I didn’t realize is that in the back of my mind I was also telling myself, “You’re not worthy.” I didn’t think I was worth getting my hair colored at a salon, or getting a manicure, or paying for a workout class at a gym. I didn’t value my own well being or taking care of myself enough to spend money on what I saw as “luxury” items. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I know this can be a slippery slope and some people are spending money and going into debt just to feel bougie or keep up with the Joneses (whoever they are). But, I was debt-free, had savings accounts to prove it, and hadn’t bought a new item of clothing or read a book that wasn’t from the library in years. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, I know I’m worth spending the money on. I know I’m worth taking the time for myself. I know I’m worth feeling spoiled and taken care of every now and then. I budget for it and enjoy it when it happens because it fills up my cup and gives me more to fill others up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What are you worth? . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
This is it. This is your lot. You’re going to have to work hard. You’re going to have to be a fighter. You’re going to have to work harder than those you see around you. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ No one gets happiness for free, but you have to fight for it. You have to be scrappy. You have to train. You have to be diligent. You can’t lose focus. You can’t take your eyes off of your opponent or he’ll knock you off your feet. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is life with depression and anxiety. This is what it feels like sometimes. But it’s worth the fight. It’s worth never giving up. And your rewards are going to be so much sweeter than those you see around you. Because you’ve been to the other side. You can appreciate the win even more because you know what it feels like to lose. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Every day, every minute you smile, you’ve won a hard fought battle. You earned that smile. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
Taking care of your mental health isn’t a one and done thing. In fact, it’s never “done.” It’s a daily process. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s daily practices that serve you. It’s reflecting on what no longer serves you and learning to let it go. It’s being willing to change your routine when something that helped in the past no longer helps. It’s being willing to try new things that you think are a little woo woo or that feel to rigid or that just aren’t practices you’re used to. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s building your toolbox continuously and finding what works for YOU. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One of the tools in my toolbox is personal training. Not just working out because I can zone out into negative thoughts while walking on a treadmill or doing something I’m comfortable with. It’s pushing myself beyond what I think my limits are 3x a week for an hour until my brain is forced to quiet down so it can focus on getting this move mastered. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What’s in your toolbox? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you’re looking for more tools or ideas to help you in your mental health journey, I got you. Click the link in the bio for The Mental Health Toolbox. It’s my best collection of tried and true practices and tools to help you with depression and anxiety. . . . . . #fitness #gym #trainhard #personaltraining #getfit #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
Self care isn’t all meditation and yoga. Today, self care for me looks like a hair appointment at a fancy salon in town. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For so long, I would avoid spending money on myself in any way. I would go to Great Clips to get my hair cut twice a year, always do my own nails, do at home workout videos I got from the library. I loved saving money and seeing my bank account happy as a result of my minimal purchases. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ But, what I didn’t realize is that in the back of my mind I was also telling myself, “You’re not worthy.” I didn’t think I was worth getting my hair colored at a salon, or getting a manicure, or paying for a workout class at a gym. I didn’t value my own well being or taking care of myself enough to spend money on what I saw as “luxury” items. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I know this can be a slippery slope and some people are spending money and going into debt just to feel bougie or keep up with the Joneses (whoever they are). But, I was debt-free, had savings accounts to prove it, and hadn’t bought a new item of clothing or read a book that wasn’t from the library in years. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Today, I know I’m worth spending the money on. I know I’m worth taking the time for myself. I know I’m worth feeling spoiled and taken care of every now and then. I budget for it and enjoy it when it happens because it fills up my cup and gives me more to fill others up. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ What are you worth? . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
I LOVE the energy of a new year. I’ve been feeling all kinds of new and shiny this week. Are you? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ To be honest, I get this way at the start of every new month, at the beginning of each Monday, the beginning of new semesters at the college where I work, and on my birthday. My energy is deeply rooted in rituals, whether they are natural occurrences like the fresh start feeling of “new beginnings” or created at my own hands like honoring moving into a new house by cleansing the whole thing in sage before we move our belongings in (we did that with our current home). ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The truth is, you can choose to make any day, even any moment, a fresh new start if you want to. It just takes a little pause, some reflection, and like most things that matter, a whole lot of intentionality. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you choose to get intentional and live in the present moment, you become a source of great power. The thoughts you think can stir up feelings and lead you to actions. Even the smallest actions done with intention can create great change. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Are you taking advantage of this new year? Are you capitalizing on this universal fresh start? Let me know. DM me if you’re looking for guidance on how to do this. I’ll love to talk to you about it more. . . . . . #planning #newyear #newyearsday #newyearseve #intention #intentional #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
What hinders my happiness?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Have you ever stopped to ask yourself this? If you haven't, maybe you haven't realized that your happiness is your choice. It's an inside job. So, if you feel depressed, you have some control over whether or not you can get out of that state and how quickly or slowly you get out of that state.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is something that took me a long time to learn and even longer to step fully into the power of. But, once you do, you realize all it takes is for you to pause and ask--What is hindering my happiness?--to start crafting your life in a way that makes you happier and reduces depressed periods. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ One of the things I realized was hindering my own happiness is physical clutter. I know, yesterday we talked about mental clutter, and now we're talking about physical clutter. It's the new year, so bear with me. Clutter is always on my mind this time of year!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ After many years of decluttering and many minimalism videos later, Landen and I have decided to embark on a "No Spend" Year for 2019. This isn't about not spending any money, but rather about spending money more intentionally by planning out our purchases far in advance. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ This is just one thing I am doing to take ACTION to work on my desired state of being. I can't control the way I'm wired inside my brain. But, I can control what ACTIONS I take. And, those actions affect me big time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ So, what is currently hindering your happiness? I wanna know!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
We’ve all heard the saying that a tidy space equals a tidy mind, right? Well, what if there’s MENTAL CLUTTER just hanging around regardless of your space? What if your go-to is having mental clutter? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Um, that sounds gross. No, thanks! I know, right? But, those of us with depression or anxiety tend to have TONS of mental clutter hanging around. Why? Because we’re not living in the present moment. Hang on if you’re confused; let me explain what I mean. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you’re depressed, you’re fixated on the PAST. That means you’re constantly ruminating on what was, what could of been, what you should have done differently, what you feel guilty about, etc. Not present focused, right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When you’re anxious, your eyes are on the FUTURE. That means you’ve got tons of questions raging at all times. What will the party on Friday be like? Who will be there? Will I pass my anthropology test? What if my parents aren’t proud of me? Does my boyfriend like that girl better than me? This isn’t present focused either. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s okay to think about the past and the future. But, we get tripped up when we spend the MAJORITY of our time there isn’t of spending it in the present. When we’re in the present, we aren’t fixated on something outside of ourselves--something we can’t control. We’re just doing our own thing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ When we get into that sweet spot, the mental clutter melts away. We are free to just be us. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Easier said than done, I know. If you’re interested in learning more about how to clear up the mental clutter, comment below or shoot me a DM. I’d love to work with you. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression
Answer this question honestly. Do you consider yourself a people pleaser? If you’re like me, you wanted to answer no, but the honest answer is a resounding yes. But, Neely, I just love my friends and family and strangers and want to see the best for everyone. Okay, girl, I’m gonna have to call bullshit. Because that’s a really good excuse disguised as martyrdom. Are you Mother Teresa? No? I didn’t think so. I’m not either! The truth is, we want people to like us. Right? Isn’t that what you really want? For people to like you, appreciate you, and therefore, to feel VALUED and WORTHY? We all want that! But, the truth is. No one else can give you that. Only you can make yourself feel valuable and worthy. And, guess what? You already ARE valuable and worthy. You’re valuable and worthy inherently. So, stop giving that power away to other people by trying to do and be everything they need. Being a good friend is wonderful. Being a good girlfriend is wonderful. Being a good daughter or sister is wonderful. But—you don’t have to take actions based on how you want people to respond. You don’t have to take actions out of obligation or guilt. What you do have to do if you really want to get a handle on your depression and anxiety is take care of yourself FIRST. So, are you a people pleaser, babe? . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
According to @time , Mental health is the #1 reason students take formal leave from a university. Today, we are seeing a record number of college students seeking treatment for depression and anxiety and universities are not able to keep with the demand of mental health services their students need. Problems emerge near the middle of the semester, when the honeymoon period of the new semester has worn off. As the work load intensifies around midterms, the waiting time at university’s counseling centers lengthens and the students who are emotionally struggling often times do not return after Thanksgiving or winter break. - It is my passion to help college students work through these challenging times and see their strengths. Many of the conversations in my office revolve around the stress of their GPA. It appears their is a growing correlation between one’s GPA and self worth. Talk about added pressure! College students are mentally consumed in their classes and many parts of their self care are neglected. - This pressure creates a strong inner critic voice. As the course work grows, I work with my clients on creating a healthy lifestyle. This includes: positive self talk, healthy brain food, exercise, and support from peers. The college experience is more than the GPA, it is about learning yourself and how to manage daily moving pieces.
Calling all college girls with depression and anxiety. Where you at? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Before she read “The Mental Health Toolbox” (my resource for you to build up daily mental health practices and your go-to in a pinch), Elena was feeling anxious about whether or not her major was the right fit for her, what she was going to do after college, how to manage a social life and maintain her academics. There is a lot to handle in college! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I get it because I’ve worked with college girls for over 3 years. And, I hear the same struggles over and over. The transition for freshman from high school to college and from Mom and Dad’s house to a dorm room can be overwhelming. Depression may come in to play like it never has before. For my Juniors and Seniors, the anxiety of adult life is all to real. Sometimes it’s easier just to avoid it--but then that only makes it worse.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ You don’t have to fall into these traps. You don’t have to give up on your happiness. You don’t have to feel hopeless, and you don’t have to avoid your feelings just so you can function. That’s why I wrote this book FOR YOU. It’s broken up into little chunks so you can easily read it between classes or before soccer practice. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ve already helped girls just like you with anxiety and depression. And, now I want to help you to. Click the link in the bio to get instant access to “The Mental Health Toolbox” and start feeling better today. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #meditate #meditation #treemeditation #groundingmeditation #yoga #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness
Negative thoughts 🙅🏽‍♀️🧠💭⁣ ⁣ They suck! Some of us are better and some are worse at controlling them! Keeping a balance plays a HUGE role in your anxiety. 🔁⁣ ⁣ My “what if” thoughts tend to be negative and frequent.⁣ ⬇️ ⁣ What if I can’t handle it...?😔 What if it’s too hard...?⁣😫 ⁣ When the negative thoughts are on a role I encourage 3 things.⁣ ⁣ 1️⃣ Take effort to do one nice thing! Buy a coffee for the next person in line or tell someone their looking nice!!! ☕️⁣ ⁣ 2️⃣ Take a moment to recognize something you can do to make yourself positive in the moment. (For me I text someone and send sweet message.)📱⁣ ⁣ 3️⃣ Think about 10 of your favorite things! ⁣ 1. My dogs 🐶🐶⁣ 2. My mom 👑⁣ 3. My amazing best friends👩‍❤️‍💋‍👩⁣ 4. Hiking👟⁣ 5. Camping ⛺️⁣ 6. Photography 📸⁣ 7. Tarantino movies🎥⁣ 8. My hometown 🏠⁣ 9. Gardening 🥦🥑🥬⁣ 10. Good sushi!!! 🍣 #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealth #anxietyawareness #anxietydisorderawareness #collegeanxiety #anxietyhelp #anxietyalliance #anxietysupport
Want to know what people are saying about "The Mental Health Toolbox"?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Kelli says: "'The Mental Health Toolbox' is a great collections of tried and true methods for dealing with depression and anxiety. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Not only is it educational, but it's also entertaining. You can really get a sense of Neely's personality through her writing, as well as her undeniable passion for helping others."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ "The Mental Health Toolbox" is my all-in-one resource to master your anxiety and depression. It takes the guess work out of what to do day-to-day to manage your emotions + self-doubt and helps you level up to your highest self. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sound like something you need? "The Mental Health Toolbox" is available now on my website. Link in bio.⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Want a sneak peek first? Click the link in my bio to get 4 FREE mental health tips straight from the book and get yourself on the waitlist for upcoming resources. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
Did you know I LOVE being a podcast guest? I’ve been too intimidated to start my own. But, being interviewed by boss babes about my work with college girls who are depressed and anxious is my JAMMMM. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Self-help and personal growth podcasts are my fave. Two of my favorites are the RISE podcast by Rachel Hollis and The Girl Kind Podcast by Stephanie Dawn Elizabeth. What’s your go-to podcast?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ My friend Nika Moeini is slaying the game with short-form interviews of young entrepreneurs on her podcast, The Young & Ambitious Podcast. She interviewed me a few months back about my own personal journey with depression and anxiety, some of my best tools for improving your mental health while you’re in college, and judging yourself. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ If you don’t have a mental health PRACTICE, listen in on this 15 minute podcast episode to hear what mine is. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Is this something you need more support around? Comment below or DM me if you want to talk more about how you can build your own mental health practice in college. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ .⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ . ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #podcast #selfcare #judgement #mentalhealthpractice #youngandambitious #rise #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
For years I’ve been obsessed with watching Morning Routines on YouTube. I love seeing what other people are doing to start their day. Do you ever watch those YouTuber Morning Routines? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ The trouble I have with them is that they’re always by people who work from home. There’s nothing wrong with working from home. But, we don’t all have the same leisure to have a 3 hour morning routine. Am I right? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ For the last few months, I’ve been trying out different activities in my own morning routine to see what’s the best fit for me. I’ve tried morning pages, journaling, writing to my intuition, planning, reading for leisure, reading for personal development, stretching. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’d love to help you figure out a morning routine that fits YOUR schedule and YOUR real life. Do you have a morning routine right now? If not, do you want one? What’s been your biggest challenge in establishing a morning routine? . . . . . #morningroutine #morningalignment #morningpages #morning #journaling #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor
I’ve had a lot of different gratitude practices over the years. Currently, mine looks like writing down 10 things I’m grateful for each day that happened that day. I’ve heard that if you write these down at the end of the day, you learn to look for things to be grateful for throughout your day. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I’ll be honest: I don’t remember my practice every day. It’s not written down in a beautiful journal with a pretty marker every day. Sometimes it is. Other times I type it out while I’m on my lunch break or text it to my best friend or type it in the Notes app on my iPhone. Sometimes I forget to come up with 10 things and I only come up with 4. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ It’s a practice. It’s not about “shoulding” yourself into doing it. It’s about realizing that when you look for good, when you focus on the good, when you call out the good--you SEE more of the good and you CALL IN more of the good. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Sometimes it’s hard to see what there is to be grateful for on your own. Sometimes you’re in a funk and it feels like there’s nothing to be grateful for. Shoot me a DM if you’re struggling to find gratitude in your day. I’d love to help you work on flexing your gratitude muscle. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Do you have a gratitude practice? What does it look like?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #gratitude #grateful #gratitudejournal #gratitudepractice #thankfulthursday #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegestudent #freshmanyear #sophomoreyear #junioryear #senioryear #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #anxiousaf #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #depressedaf #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression
•In no way does one form of anxiety symptoms have more validity than the others. 🧠🙏🏼⁣ ⁣ •When I’m anxious I feel this pressure around my chest, my heart races, and my body constantly tenses up. Sometimes I experience shivering and statue like tenseness with severe situations. ⁣ ⁣ •While all of the symptoms of anxiety are terrible for our wellbeing, my worst symptom is having total loss of thirst or appetite. ⁣ ⁣ •That being said there are so many different ways we experience our anxiety! ⁣ ⁣ •Please be kind to others and know their experience of mental health is just as important as yours! ⁣ #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthalliance #anxietyattack #anxietydisorder #anxietydisorders #anxietyawarness #erasethestigma #collegeanxiety
Did you know ages 18-25 are the most tumultuous time in a persons life? However these large life problems can be unbearable with anxiety disorders. This time period involves.. ***** 1. A rapidly changing environment.-Moving from secondary school into the workforce or college 2. Financial insecurity- The leaving of secondary school for young Americans can follow with stressful payments such as apartment payments, students loans, and other important payments 3. Instability- Between these ages students are in a rapidly changing environment. Not yet considered adults but given adult responsibilities. 4. A pressure for identity- A tertiary institution such as college or trade schools involves deep digging to find the perfect career. Finding something that challenges you yet you can handle. Something that society and members of your community accept or pressure you to feel is worthy #mentalhealth #mentalhealthalliace #anxietydisorders #anxietydisorderawareness #collegementalhealth #collegeanxietyanddepreasion #collegeanxiety
#issamood Okay, but actually. Eventually, the long nights and the caffeine catch up - and before you know it, you’re out of touch with reality. Or atleast, that’s how it is for me🤷🏼‍♀️ Being a hard worker is ..hard.. #shocker You set expectations, you work for them, then sometimes..you fail. You land right on your butt, and all you have to show for your attempt is your exhausted, burnt out, bed-headed-self.. When I hit this point, I’m a wreck. Everything seems bigger than it is, everyone seems harsher than they are, and I seem less capable than I am🙁 I feel out of touch with reality, like I’m melting away- bit by bit... That’s why I write, why I create, why I dance, why I WORK...and why I just have such an endless list of pick-me-ups in general. Essentially, I have a tool box.. When I start melting, I go into my tool box and piece myself back together 🛠 It’s what most successful people do- and what every single person SHOULD do. It’s okay to have rough days and feel out of it...but spend your focus on the come-back✨ In case you’re someone that needs this reminder: You are loved. You are working towards something bigger. You are capable. You got this..🖤 •••• #authenticpost #realpost #depressionsupport #anxietysupport #seasonaldepression #collegedepression #comebacks #focusonthegood #depressionblog #realblog #realblogger #letsgetreal #satisfyingvideo #artisticblogger #collegeanxiety #testanxiety #instagram_florida #focusonyourgoals #failureisnotfinal #failureleadstosuccess #successfulwomen #successfulmindset #moodedits #moodiness #college_diaries #calmingvideos #meltingface
Meanwhile, it was bedtime in another house on that street with the monster-in-the-bedroom the-bedroom infestation problem was rampant. This time, the child wasn't just worried about those monsters....Cartoon by Barbara Smaller, whose work has appeared in The New Yorker hundreds of times since 1996. Her cartoons have also been included in several anthologies....#barbarasmaller #thenewyorkermagazine #thenewyorkercartoons #thenewyorkercartoonists #tny #tnycartoons #tnycartoonists #monsters #monsterinfestation #monsterunderthebed #collegeanxiety #pests #infestation #biggerfishtofry #worryearlyandoften #anticipatoryanxiety #gettingaheadofyourself #startingearly #startingyoung #premature #worriedabouteverything #anxietyaboutthefuture #bedtime
I was talking with one of my college students last week about the side affects of changing medications. I know from firsthand experience trying new medications during graduate school that changing meds is hard at any time—but during college, forget it! Here are my quick tips for how to make it work: 1. Plan to make the changes over a break—preferably winter or summer break because you’ll have more time. Thanksgiving break or spring break can work in a pinch. 2. Set yourself up for success by taking some time off of work and talking with professors BEFORE you make any changes. You can also check in with your school’s resources like Student Case Management or the Counseling Center. 3. Have order up food menus, crackers, and ginger ale on hand. It’s very common to get tired or sometimes physically sick to your stomach (especially if you’re on SSRI’s which work in the gut) when you’re changing medication. Be prepared to take it easy. Have you ever changed medications or just started taking meds for the first time? Let me know below if you want a full blog on all my tips for how to get through changing medications in college (because I have a lot more)!
You’re allowed to unplug. Sometimes it feels like we’ve signed a contract to be constantly “on,” constantly connected. But, the truth is, we’ve made the decision to be so connected because of the time period and social conditioning. Do your friends expect you to respond to texts immediately? To like their Instagram pics within an hour? To comment on Facebook posts? Probably. But, did you ever agree to that? It’s your job to set your own limitations with social media. It’s your job to set boundaries within your relationships. You are in total control, but that’s easy to forgot. We go with the rhythm of everyone else, with the social contract, and we’re surprised when we feel so stressed out, maxed out, and overwhelmed. We’ve made it hard for ourselves to enjoy spending time offline and alone. Because we’ve become so accustomed to being connected that we don’t even know how to disconnect anymore. If you’re feeling too connected, too “on,” just remember that it’s 100% within your power to shit down and turn “off” for as long as you like.
I don’t know about you, but I thrive off of plans. I do my best not to overbook myself, but when I get intentional about scheduling out my weeks and months in advance, I find I am more motivated, excited, and calmer. Do those seem like contradictions? It’s weird because planning has helped me with both my depression and anxiety but I’m different ways. With my depression, having events to look forward to like my yoga classes on Saturday’s and traveling to Mexico over Halloween and then to NYC in November to visit my best friend keeps me feeling excited about life and allows me to see a light at the end of the tunnel when I’m feeling down. On the flip side, my anxiety is always tripping out about the future. So, having a schedule to turn to when I’m spinning out that tells me exactly what I need to be doing and when helps ground me and allows me to put myself back in the present moment. I don’t need to worry about the future because I already laid the ground work for success. Are you a planner? Has it helped you with anxiety or depression?
I was talking with one of my college students today who suffers from clinical depression. We were talking about just how hard it is to get motivated to do anything, even the smallest things, when you’re in one of the down cycles. If you’ve been experiencing depression for awhile (whether you’ve been diagnosed or not), you know it comes and goes, ebbs and flows like the ocean. Whatever you want to call them, the “down cycles” are tough. There are parts of life that the average person (read: not suffering from a mental illness or trauma) takes for granted. Some of these are “habits” for the average person, like brushing your teeth, doing the dishes, making the bed. Habits like these are a given to the average person. They’re not for the mentally ill. Then imagine what it’s like for a person with depression (or maybe you know all too well what it’s like), to motivate yourself to get up and go to class or work on a group project at school or make a phone call to make a counseling appointment. It can feel IMPOSSIBLE. It can feel INSURMOUNTABLE. It can feel like you’re PARALYZED. I get it. I’ve been there. You’re not the only one. I honestly still struggle to make phone calls to this day—and yet, I do it EVERY DAY. So, I know you can do it to. Is this something you struggle with, too? Let me know.
Your depression and anxiety do not make you wrong. They do not make you bad. They do not mean your not worthy or enough. You are okay. You are worthy. You are enough. Your mental illness does not get to define you. Your mental illness is not an excuse to give up. It’s not an excuse to bow down to the sadness or nerves. It’s not an excuse to suffer. Your depression and anxiety are a part of you. They are a challenge. They mean you have to fight like hell for yourself. You have to fight like hell for your own happiness because no one else will do it for you. Don’t get caught in the trap of naming yourself “not worthy” and deciding that means you don’t have to try. It’s your job to rise up and help yourself. You have the power. I can give you the tools. Let’s do this. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
Being unapologetic about my mental health is the best thing I ever did for myself. When I was in college, I remember being terrified to tell my professors about my depression. But, how else could I explain missing classes? I excelled at my studies and was passionate about learning, but I was dead in the eyes in class. So, I told. In graduate school, I was embarrassed to tell my professor I had missed a workshop for class because it was going to be in a new location and my anxiety wouldn’t let me go into a physical space I hadn’t already experienced. But, my fear won and I missed class. So, I told. At work, I was nervous to talk frankly with a student about her anxiety during an appointment my supervisor was shadowing because I thought she might find it inappropriate. But, connecting with my student and letting her know she wasn’t alone in that moment was more important. So, I told. I told and I’m still here. I told and I got through college with A’s. I told and my professor understood why I missed workshop. I told and my boss was proud of the way I worked with my student. I told and I survived. But, I didn’t just survive. I am able to thrive because of my anxiety and depression. Not in spite of it. Because it’s part of what makes me who I am. And, the more I lean into it, the more I use those powers for good. . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
I don’t know about you, but I make up stories all the time. Not like a mystery novel or gossip—just plain old making shit up about myself or my experiences bat flat out isn’t true. I’ll tell myself I’m not trying hard enough or doing a good enough job or that I don’t deserve to reach my goals. I’ll tell myself an experience has to be hard when it doesn’t or that I’m ugly or fat or that I might as well give up. Stuff that would crush me if someone I love said it to me. Stuff that I would never imagine saying to someone I love or even a stranger. And, the worst part? I accept it. I call it “true.” I make up a story and then I stick to it. Because I believe it. Because I’ve created a habit of failing myself. Because it’s easier to believe the lie that’s awful and comfortable than it is to try to do something different. That’s not going to change. It’s always going to be easier to believe those shitty stories. But, you know what? It’s your choice whether you believe them or not. What will you choose next time? . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
Not every day can feel this good, so our college interns created a program just for students:
“As college students, we often see the effects of untreated mental health issues, so we decided that it was time to get more involved. We sought out The Youth Mental Health Project in order to learn more about youth mental health and to learn ways in which we could make an impact within our communities. After spending this summer working with The Youth Mental Health Project team, we created a pledge as a way to encourage others to spread awareness and have open conversations about youth mental health.” We hope you too will see how important this cause is and will take the pledge and support youth mental health.
MEGAN NUZZO AND RENÉE REINER, COLLEGE INTERNS 2018 👉🏻click the link in our profile 📸credit DANNY G on Unsplash
Do you tend to beat yourself up when you don’t meet all of your goals or do you tend to forgive yourself? I beat myself up, hard. It’s one of my worst traits. It’s really common for people with anxiety to be perfectionists and have unrealistic goals, and I’m not exception. I have higher expectations for myself than anyone else does. And, when I don’t meet them? Whew, all bets are off. I feel angry, frustrated, sad, disappointed—all directed at myself. Not a very nice way to treat myself, is it? The funny thing is I bet you’re thinking, Don’t be so hard on yourself! I bet you did your best! You were trying and that’s all that matters! The truth is, that’s what we tend to say to our friends, but we rarely use this language to talk to ourselves. Why? Isn’t it just as true for us? I did my best this weekend. I was sick and I listened to my body and rested. When I wanted to eat junk food, I made myself healthy food instead to boost my immune system. I didn’t have the energy to do hardcore workouts, but I kept trying and walked my dog Saturday and Sunday. I’m allowed grace. I’m allowed to give grace to MYSELF. You’re allowed to give yourself grace, too. . . . . . #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
“Growing up, I had such big dreams. All those seem so distant now, I don’t see anything materialising in my favour. Reality is completely different from what I’d visualised.” . . . For any average student, the last year of college is filled with nervous breakdowns & full of bouts of anxiety & uncertainty. The feelings of stark uncertainty & doubts are thoroughly overwhelming for a person undergoing them. We asked a bunch of 20 year olds from different colleges about their worst anxiety in life presently. 🎈Check the LINK IN BIO for full read! 🎈 . . follow @thewokeme for more! . . #gemmacorrell #worrierpose #worrier #teenagerposts #teenageanxiety #anxietymemes #anxietytextposts #awarenesspost #ambitionz #existentialcrisis #existentialism #trending #explorepage #explorepageready #20yearsold #anxietyblog #collegestudents #collegestudentproblems #collegeanxiety #20somethings #anxietyistheworst #shareyourstory #whatdoiwant #childhooddreams #teenagerposts #mentalillness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthblogpost #mentalhealthsupport #age20
“You have to start becoming responsible for your existence and not mess it up.” . . For any average student, the last year of college is filled with nervous breakdowns & full of bouts of anxiety & uncertainty. The feelings of stark uncertainty & doubts are thoroughly overwhelming for a person undergoing them. We asked a bunch of 20 year olds from different colleges about their worst anxiety in life presently. 🎈Check the LINK IN BIO for full read! 🎈 . . follow @thewokeme for more! . . #gemmacorrell #worrierpose #worrier #teenagerposts #teenageanxiety #anxietymemes #anxietytextposts #awarenesspost #linkinbio #existentialcrisis #existentialism #trending #explorepage #explorepageready #20yearsold #anxietyblog #collegestudents #collegestudentproblems #collegeanxiety #studentanxiety #anxietyistheworst #shareyourstory #whatdoiwant #clueless #teenagerposts #mentalillness #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthmatters #mentalhealthblogpost #mentalhealthsupport #age20
This is what mental health disorders look like. You can’t see them. You may never know someone in your life is struggling. Mental illnesses are INVISIBLE illnesses. But, that doesn’t make them any less REAL. It does mean that we need to practice love and compassion on a daily basis. It does mean that we need to give second chances. It does mean that we need to give the benefit of the doubt. It does mean we need to put ourselves in someone else’s shoes. It does mean we need to withhold judgement until we have more information. I am far from perfect and am working on these things myself. I am too often quick to judge. It’s one of my habits that I’m least proud of. I’m reminding myself to be intentional as much as I’m reminding you. Be kind to everyone because you don’t know what invisible hardships they are fighting. When I broke my ankle and was on crutches, I encountered help, compassion, accommodations, understanding, and flexibility. These are what I need on a daily basis and yet, because mental health disorders aren’t seen as real, I am not afforded these things. My broken ankle was temporary. My mental health fight is DAILY. Lead with compassion. Lead with kindness. Don’t presume to understand something you haven’t experienced. If you want to know more, just ask. . . . . . #worldmentalhealthday #depression #depressed #anxiety #anxious #bipolar #bipolardisorder #manicdepressive #manicdepression #stigma #stopthestigma #college #collegedepression #collegeanxiety #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealth #mentalhealthwarrior #mentalhealthadvocate #mentalhealthawareness #mentalhealthsurvivor #stopdepression #enddepression #stopanxiety #bpd #panicattacks
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