I WISH MY CHILD HAS NEVER BEEN BORN
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This phrase is one of the most often searched phrases that google suggests when you type “I wish my child/kid/son/daughter...” - see in gallery.
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The first time I realized I didn’t want to have kids I was 16 years old. I remember my classmates discussing at what age they would like to have children and I thought to myself that I didn’t want any.
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The first time I said it out loud I was about 18. The most common reaction I had from people was, “you’ll grow up and change your mind” or “you’ll want children when you meet the right person”.
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Almost ten years since my realization I still haven’t changed my mind.
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Don’t get me wrong, I admire people who decide to become parents. Being a parent is a toughest job on the planet.
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What we shouldn’t do is put pressure on people who don’t want to be parents, especially women. The phrase “your biological clock is ticking” should be erased from face of the earth.
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I just don’t like kids, how hard is it for the society to accept? When someone says they hate cats, you don’t start convincing them they should get one anyway, right? You don’t tell people they’ll change their mind one day about having cats. Why do we do this when talking about children?
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Kids are not the women’s only contribution to the world. Let’s stop putting motherhood over womanhood so google searches like these stop existing. ⠀
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#childfree #childfreebychoice #childfreelife #parentingishard #bodyautonomy #herbodyherchoice #herchoice #feminismisforeverybody #feministmovement #feminismisforeverybody
4 hours ago
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I'll choose freedom everyday and freedom looks differently on everyone! Live a life that makes you happy and don't be afraid to share your perspective freely! 😍
#changingthenorm
8 hours ago
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I'm not sure if 2 AM is the best time for this post but here it goes anyway..
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Hey! My name is Jamie and I'm 32, married, and have two fur babies.😍
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I've spent most of my life being what I thought I needed to be to get the "approval" of others, but only in certain areas of my life. (More to come on this later)
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So as a girl with a degree in Finance, a masters in Business, countless expired certifications from past career attempts from Real Estate, to working in IT, to being a certified personal trainer... one thing kept me up at night.👩🎓
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What am I passionate about? What am I looking for and what have I been running from?🤷♀️
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Tonight, like almost anytime I participate in any kind of social event; I was asked the question, " what do you do?"🤦♀️
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However, something was different this time. I had an answer that was a conversation ender. It didn't lead to 50 questions that I didn't want or feel comfortable answering.
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Instead, I said, "Well, I've always been extremely passionate about sharing the truth with others about the choice of whether or not to have kids. I want to share my mostly boring but somewhat relatable life."😜
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Because of my "education" people "expect" that I'll spit out some elaborate title and scope of work. Instead, tonight there were no comebacks and no further questions.👩💼👩💻
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So with this truth, that is my purpose here. I look forward to continuing to share laughs, relatable stories, advice, and just day to day in this wonderful life.
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Thank each and every one of you for the support and engagement. This page is where I feel most happy on "social media." .
Sorry for rambling... I guess I should attempt to sleep now! Stay tuned, maybe, I'll throw out a TBT to my "planned elopement" with NO guests.... over 6 years ago which was best decision of my life, besides not having kids 😎
8 hours ago
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Why do I love my job? Easy. My job encourages me to level up every day to become a better version of myself..but the best part is, it doesn’t stop there..my job is to pay that forward by mentoring other women to do the same. I have the opportunity to inspire & encourage [two of my gifts] women DAILY to find their worth, find their purpose, and find themselves. The connections I have made with the coaches on my team & the women in my Virtual Gym has forever changed my life & filled my heart. To know that I’ve made a positive impact in someone else, to know that I’ve inspired someone to take that next step with their health, with their fitness, with their business..that’s what fills me up 💗 grateful for every woman who has allowed me to be a part of their journey over the years. EXCITED to link arms & grow together toward a brighter, more positive & fulfilling future with you 👯♀️✨
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📸:
@kbrooketucker .
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#allblackerrythang #allblackuniform #childfreelife #childfreebychoice #nokidsjustcats #littleblackdress #celiaclife #glutenfreelifestyles #djwifelife #theofficefans
13 hours ago
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#nationalloveyourpetday These goofy fur babies have helped me through so much! ♥️ I hope they know how much they are loved!!♥️🐶🐶🐱♥️
21 hours ago
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This perfectly describes my
#childfree life. Choose your own beautiful life!
23 hours ago
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Me as a baby is all the baby we need 🤣 New ep tomorrow!!! ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️
24 hours ago
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💃🏼I’m not much of a dancer, but I’m willing to learn, especially if I get to cha cha through life with
@captaintuzzy ♥️💃🏼
1 day ago
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When you sleep super strategically and didn’t do your workout first thing this morning because you’ve got the goal of earning a MILLION dollars 💵 by the time you’re 36.
Most would say, I should have done my workout already, but I make my OWN rules.
Preserved
@mekerbeautique slay and up building this empire!
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I’m about to hop on a call with a MILLIONAIRE in my company that wrote a book that is causing a serious INCREASE in my VIBE + WHO I PARTNER with in MY business.
And in case you wonder, I’m 34.
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#LEADERofmylife
1 day ago
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Back again.... another doctors appointment to do with pushing to get sterilised. Fingers crossed this isnt gonna be a long process. (2nd appoinment).
1 day ago
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I will never apologize for MY life choices. And it’s not selfish to do what’s right for you. 🤗
1 day ago
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Right now I can’t think of anything better than my beautiful happy girl in Mexico❤️! I love you and like you
@nataliemariemeyer
Am I dreaming?
1 day ago
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Are you going to be the first to get your eyes on my world first program? 😊 I need some amazing peeps who are either Childfree (and maybe not being fully supported in their decision) OR are undecided about wanting to have kids.
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You’d need to have some time to go through the program in next 4 weeks so we can launch it in April. Please DM me your email so I can forward you the deets 😘 P.S it’s for gals and guys
1 day ago
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No I didn’t order myself a custom print of myself and my dogs... you must have me mistaken with someone else. 🤷🏼♀️
2 days ago
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Joy and fulfillment exist beyond the borders of parenthood, religion, domestic partnership, gender identity, job description.....💥Last summer, I spent many hours floating around Shuswap Lake on a plastic lounger. My ambitious brain calmed down, my muscles relaxed and I enjoyed being a tiny speck in the Universe. 💕
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#childfree
#childless
#speak
#solitude
#support
#truth
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I knew from a young age that I didn’t want to pass on my genetics to someone else. Good, bad or otherwise.💥My gift to my ancestors is to do bold things and live well and hopefully inspire others by sharing my stories. 💐Children feel the burdens of their parents and have to figure out who they are and where they belong. They have enough to deal with, without the added pressure of changing the world.💥You can make that positive impact without having to raise kids. .
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#childfreebychoice
#speak
#nokids
#childfree
#childless
2 days ago
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Two ✌🏾 things:
1. You can now rock this shirt! I released it today because it’s the 18th. Link in bio.
2. I’m looking for a few friends to LEVEL UP with me.
Drop your fave foodie 🍆🥬emoji if this sounds like you:
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Passionate about eating well?
Passionate about sharing that with other people?
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I have a MAJOR opportunity and looking for some passionate babes to LEVEL UP with. I’ll have more details tomorrow, but I’m soo excited.
BTW—I only got what I went to
#wholepaycheck for PLUS a bag of chips. 🤣🤦🏾♀️🤟🏾
3 days ago
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I don’t gain energy from people. I enjoy my interactions and then recharge at home, alone. My road trips are a spiritual experience, a way to reflect and gain inspiration. Also, alone. 💐 .
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#childfreelifestyle
#nokids
#solitude
3 days ago
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That infuriating line made by people who have no idea who you are and what kind of life you desire for yourself. 🤪 Double standard alert-when someone says they want kids one day, everyone is supportive. 🌟Saying you don’t want kids just makes people get defensive. 🤷🏽♀️
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#childfreehumor
#childfreebychoice
#nokids
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☀️Happy Monday!!☀️ Don’t mind me, I’m just over here waiting for my hair to grow (what was I thinking cutting it so short!?!) and waiting for spring 🌸🌼🌻
3 days ago
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I have never had the desire to have children. Call me selfish, call me whatever you like. I love my life, the dinners, the traveling, the quite mornings, not feeling bad about ordering the expensive wine, the last minute plans I can make I love every minute of it. Thank you
@theonejake for proving me a
#childfreelife - I love you.
#dinks #doubleincomenokids
4 days ago
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It only occurred to me recently to be so open about my
#childfree lifestyle choice. Yes, it’s no one’s business, but I don’t like seeing people pressured into a life they don’t want or understand. 🌻I live in a country where I have the right and freedom to choose and I still get bullied and talked down to on occasion. This just fuels my desire to speak up in bolder ways. 😜
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#childfree
#nokids
#speakup
4 days ago
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I spent the final 4 years of my 20s getting into a better financial position. I didn’t shop, I gave up my car for awhile, I had roommates. It sucked, but I saved a lot of money for my 30s. And then life gave me some more money and my 30s have been awesome AF! This doesn’t mean I can slack off, gotta keep building for my childfree future. 💕 I don’t get involved with anyone who has kids or wants kids or is thinking about having kids one day. Even if I adore that person. It’s happened to me several times, meeting someone I admire and respect but they want kids and I say upfront that I don’t. Saves a lot of time and heartache in the long run. 💐 .
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#childfree
#childfreelife
#nokids
#womenempowerment
#lifechoices
4 days ago
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This little spaz is all wound up today...time for some indoor fun after playing outside in the snow! 🐾🐶❄️
4 days ago
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I guess I’ve referred to “my room” and “my husband’s room” and this is causing concern? 🧐 To clear things up: We aren’t divorcing, everything’s fine- we just bought a big house and aren’t ever having children, so we have our own rooms where we keep our wardrobes and things, as well as a joint bedroom where we sleep (+ guest bedrooms and whatever). So no, there’s no drama- we’re just living that sweet
#childfree homeowner life 😊💖
#childfreelife #childfreeforlife #victorian #closetroom #vanityroom #nodrama #savethedramaforyourmama
4 days ago
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☀️Sunday Roll Call!
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Aside from a late V-Day dinner last night, I’ve had the LAZIEST weekend ever, and I’m so happy about it. I swear I’ve spent more time in bed than anywhere else. 😂😋
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For today’s Roll Call I wanted to try something different...when you tell me your Sunday plans, please also comment on where you’re from (as long as you’re okay with me sharing it)! I’ve gotten a ton of messages from you all about wanting to make more local CF friends, so I’m going to try my very best to start this project and see if I can help! 👯♀️
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I’ll start - for those who don’t know, I’m from Portland, Maine! Here’s a photo from summer because the snow is depressing me. 😭 It’s an awesome small city and we’ve been winning so many awards lately for our food and craft beer!
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I can’t wait to see how you’re spending your CF Sunday and help some of you connect — and yes, of COURSE I’m still in bed while I write this. Don’t people who want kids realize you’re giving up your right to sleep in?! 😂
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#sunday #sundayfunday #childfree #childfreebychoice #childfreelife #childfreelifestyle #childfreezone #childfreeforlife #drunkaunt #auntlife #womeninspiringwomen #womenempowerment #explore #travel #childfreeandlovingit
4 days ago
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« Day 153 »
MOOD.
Sorry not sorry—my inner childfree AF unicorn 🦄 pooped on my eyelids today.
I unplugged from social media for a good bit, decided not to answer any messages, and read a great book.
I hope your day was full of sparkling from the INSIDE OUT.
ILYSM,
Yo 💕🦄✨
#LEADERofmylife
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