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We all want a supportive and loving relationship with our family. . . Pretending that we have one is hurting ourselves. . . I’ve always known the ways my dad’s side of the family was dysfunctional. Every relative has their own issues and their own back story as to why they are the way they are. Many are, or have been, alcoholics. My dad still drinks. He’s also a cheater. I am estranged from him. . . It’s easy to blame “daddy issues” because it’s a cultural norm to the point of being a relentless punchline. . . It’s less common to hold our mothers responsible for the damage they’ve done to us. . . My mom painted a picture for me that, as a point of reference, my dad’s side of the family is dysfunctional so that meant her side was normal. . . When they got divorced, her victim story became my victim story. We had been abandoned. She used that word over and over. . . She was the single mom. She brought us back to Canada, our home. She got screwed in the marriage and then the divorce. Nothing was her fault. . . Including the emotional abuse I endured as a teenager as her scapegoat. . . Including our broken relationship as adults, and her ongoing disrespect, lack of support, and general disregard for my experience. Including my continuing role as the scapegoat. . . It was never a secret... what my dad did. But, because my mother’s victim story was so engrained, she made herself untouchable. . . I KNEW, I’ve always known, the way she treats me is UNACCEPTABLE. I’ve fought against it long and hard. But years of her gaslighting me left me rendered silent in this ongoing abuse. Becoming exhausted by resisting and fighting her left me complacent. . . “I can’t make you happy no matter what I do,” is a lazy excuse for not doing her own work and refusing to look at her part in the issues that exist between us. It is gaslighting. . . I will not be worn down and whittled away any longer. . . My experience matters and it is not my job to parent her.
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• 🏔H O P E for your R E C O V E R Y🏔 • A good rule of thumb when it comes to self-care (whether you're dealing with addiction or not) is to never let yourself get too Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired, or Scared. If you feeling strong levels of these, you're more susceptible to acting out behaviors. • HALT(S) and do the next right thing! • #MentalHealth #Counseling #Therapy #Hope #Recovery #Addiction #AddictionRecovery #SelfCare #MarriageTherapy #CouplesCounseling #MarriageCounseling #PremaritalCounseling #PremaritalTherapy #RelationshipGoals #Boundaries #Selfcare #SelfCompassion #Emotion #Feelings #Relationship #YouAreWorthIt #YouMatter #YouAreLoved #Brentwood #Nashville #Franklin #BrentwoodTN #NashvilleTN #FranklinTN
Experimenting with color, texture, the absence of texture, and the absence of boundaries. That last one is most out of my comfort zone. All in all a very helpful exercise 😀. I’d love to hear if this piece evokes any feelings in you! 😊 The last few days I’ve been up for most of the night painting and the lack of sleep is starting to catch up with me 😂😴 . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . #flaming_abstracts #paletteknife #womeninart #femaleartist #dcart #intuitiveart #uniquegifts #modernart #contemporaryart #abstractart #abstractpainting #orangeart #colortheory #purpleart #intuitivepainting #experimentalart #creativeprocess #bostonart #emergingartist #abstractexpressionism #giftinspo #londonart #dcartist #allthecolors #interiordesign #colorcompanion #artsbeautifulx #acreativedc #colorfulart #boundaries
Free as a bird 🕊🌈 #LivingOurBestLives 📸: @julieannecarter
Seems counterintuitive, right? It’s time to release what others may think of you. If you’re showing up with integrity, firm boundaries, and an open heart — you’re doing the best you can. Let others opinions of you just float away...😊 ••• Repost: @moreloveletters
There’s a part of us that’s still waiting, after all this time, for our parents to love us... actually love us unconditionally. . . It’s the unconscious waiting. . . It’s the “should I tell them? I’m not sure their reaction will be good... but maybe I should give them a chance.” And again we are let down by their lack of support, criticism, or worse. . . It’s wondering if they’ll ever call because they’re genuinely interested in our existence. We keep picking up the phone to be emotionally dumped on and used as a form of entertainment. . . It’s the part of us that compartmentalizes the inappropriate behaviours by saying things like: dad has issues with this or mom is weird about that. It’s entertaining broken relationships with alcoholics, narcissists, codependents, and abusers. We rationalize that we know what their issues are and can stay in contact because we have set boundaries. . . Boundaries that are constantly being stretched, bent, and broken. . . There’s a part of us waiting for them to “wake up.” Hoping they will finally heal. Hoping they’ll, one day, be able to be present and vulnerable. There’s a child in us that believes we deserve love but is still waiting for it. She has learned to settle for the small moments.... for the scraps.... of what should have been unconditional, relentless love and support. . . I asked myself, what are the repercussions of this unconscious waiting? . . Instantly the answer revealed itself: it keeps us children. It keeps us VICTIMS. . . It keeps us frozen in time, unable to move on to a more expansive experience. We cannot move on when we are still waiting. . . And when the waiting is never rewarded, it reinforces subconscious beliefs that support our victim story. The same victim story that lead us into emotional abuse with ex partners. . . If we want to really, truly move beyond our victim narrative and start to live from a place of power... we must accept reality and stop this waiting.
I had planned a dinner with my dad and brother, and little did I know, my brother invited my tribe. Let’s just make a long story short. I’m gullible. I fell for an amazing surprise. Hehe. This tribe. These humans. Wow. They have helped facilitate and hold so much space for my growth. I have learned so much! Looking back at myself this past year, I used to apologize. A lot, and it was usually because people didn’t like me being me. It has taken me 29 years to accept myself, and I’m still working on it, but man, do I love me! I am me. I do not change who I am depending on whom I’m around, and now I’ve realized those that ever tried to make me feel bad or different for being me, they were just scared to show the world them “self” This tribe, and everyone who I’ve met through this tribe, has drastically changed the way I see myself and this world. They have helped me learn so much! Thanks @wake_tribe for helping me find my worth, my value, teaching me how to set my boundaries, to never play small to enable others playing small, and thank you for not only creating a safe space, but also teaching me the importance of secure attachments with myself, and for keeping me so grounded when I just want to fly away! @joinjilly_ @myerszack @ohsoulsimple @chris_obrien @itsaubrieee @reeebabyy Thank you to everyone! I send gratitude to everyone that I’ve shared a moment with this year, I cherish and love these moments and I am so grateful for the lessons of each one! #oneness #selflove #boundaries #birthday #29 #lookingyounger #feelingyounger #love #Lovebased #plantbased #purium #kangen #puriumpowered #bestfriends #followingmydreams #lovingme so I can #lovetheworld #savinghumanity #onecellatatime #waketribe #tribe #tribevibe #family #bestfriends #surprise #smiles
Keep those fresh #Friday #goodvibes protected from unfortunate little #energyvampires at work... Each Shanti Knot #grounding and #aromatherapy bracelet comes with a specific #mantra , ... and the one for #narcissisticabuse is particularly effective at helping you maintain strong #boundaries around people who want to steal you #magic .... Put one hand on your #heart and one hand on your #solarplexus and repeat this mantra 10 times ... Your vibrations will be SO high when you’re done, that you will be immune to #narcissism venom all #weekend long .... #shantisaks #shamanism and #style for the #empath ... . . . #bohostyle #meditation #handmade #madeinamerica #hematite #groundingenergy #reiki #healing #yoga #fitness #emfprotection #inspiration
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The secret to raising great children: What they see is what you get, and they see everything. So, it all begins with you. Are you kind, conscientious, disciplined, self-loving, respectful, compassionate, consistent, responsible, and honest? Do you tell the truth, follow through, take responsibility for your actions, clean up your messes, respect others, and value yourself? Could I look at your life and know what your highest priorities are? Are you financially responsible, health conscious, able to delay gratification, and set boundaries? The people who spend the most time with a child are altering their blue-print. Don’t let it be accidental. Make it intentional by becoming your best self. #mom #mother #singlemom #parentingwisdom #winwin #modelbehavior #loveloves #delaygratification #discipline #followthrough #consistency #forgive #boundaries #honesty #womensempowerment #integrity #compassion #takeresponsibility #kids #children #daughters #sons #life #health #bestself #formativeyears #cynthiaoccelli #beautifullife #itsnoteasy
This is a teaser clip from the 6th episode of the Inner Integration Podcast: Leaving the Narcissist. In this episode, we’ll explore the process of leaving the narcissist or other manipulator. . First, you’ll get some practical steps to take for the extraction process and then tips to keep yourself out of trouble after you leave. . Then you’ll hear the best clips from my YouTube videos on to leave the narcissist or not to leave, divorcing the narcissist and ending the abuse cycle, what happens when you leave the narcissist before the discard, and what to do if you run into the narcissist. . If you are wanting to leave but you don’t know how yet, tune in to get a helpful perspective shift so you can start to open the path forward. . You can find the Inner Integration Podcast on iTunes and Stitcher (for Android). You can also now also find us on the Mental Health News Radio Network as well as BINGEtv where you’ll be able to tune in from 50 smart TV networks! If you have a smartTV (or AppleTV or Roku), you can search in the apps for BINGE. You’ll find us in the Mental Health genre
That my friends, is what I call boundaries. This is YOUR story. Edit it as you please 📝 . . . . . #yourstory #edit #sorrynotsorry #enlightened #pottymouth #buildalifeyoulove #doyou #meditation #boundaries #noregrets #trusttheprocess #trustyourself #intuition
Repost By @lifeepurposecheerleader : Lightworkers— let’s talk about the B word—- #boundaries 💫✋🏽 Yes being a lightworker means being kind, full of light and unconditional love but it doesn’t mean choosing to be a DOORMAT and others emotional dumping ground! If it isn’t feeling good on the reg (your needs aren’t being met-feeling drained or disrespected, the only one giving), you get to draw some boundaries, yo! Because when you don’t- you turn your back on unconditional love for yourself and compromise your own emotional and spiritual health. I think as lightworkers sometimes we don’t see that by not drawing boundaries we are giving up our own needs, desires, and joy to please another, is not choosing light, kindness and love—- its choosing abuse to ourselves! And look- I get it - I’ve so been there! I thought I I was doing the “right” thing by choosing kindness, love and light... by people pleasing 🤦🏽‍♀️💫🤔🙏But in reality it was a lose lose for both. Sometimes healthy boundaries means when it doesn’t feel good we choose to just send all that love & light you have from afar. 💫💫💫 Let this be your loving reminder to make the b word your favorite word so everyone wins! #inspire #friyay #quotes #inspirarional #friday #fridayquotes #lightworkers #lightworker #kind #kindness #love #bekind #spiritual #lifepurposecheerleader #lifecoach #teamliveyourpurpose
Totally me. Cross me, and you will not be graced with my presence ever again 🌹🌼🌷💐#kindhearted #fulloflove #boundaries #dontfuckwithme
How about those boundaries?!!! Say it with me...I AM ALLOWED TO SAY NO, I AM ALLOWED TO PROTECT MY SPACE, I AM ALLOWED TO DO WHATS BEST FOR ME!!! Catch the full video on my IG TV channel!!! #focusfridays #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #boundaries #boundariesarehealthy #selfcare #selflove #positivevibes #blackgirlswhoblog #melaninmentalhealth #motivationalquotes #motivationalspeaker #fridaymood #fridayquotes
Do you. Those who mind it and have something nasty to say about how you do you, don’t matter and those who matter to you and truly support you won’t mind how you do you and will make sure you know it. Cuz that’s what #true friends and family do. That’s how you know who your people are. When they start coming for you, making you feel #lesser than or just showing you how they really feel by no action at all sometimes, that’s when you know they are the ones that don’t matter...help them realize just how much their opinion of you is none of your business. #ijs #beaware #watchclosely #youmatter #opinionsarejustopinions #mindset #relationships #notice #buildingrelationships #community #feelwell #alwaysachoice #thefeelwellcoach #boundaries #thatmindfullife
#thankyou , @rootsofresistance ! #boundaries are exceedinly #important and we appreciate the #experiences you’ve shared on your profile. Our #community will not be pillaged by the entitled. Thank you for resisting ✨💜
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And for the kill...😆 have some self respect! LOVE THY SELF FIRST!!! The rest will come in due time... Blessings! #selflove #selfrespect #havesomedignity #havesomepride #healthypride #boundaries
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The letters behind my name mean...what that means for you... . . First things first. The letters stand for licensed clinical social work. I have a master of science in social work. I'm also a certified health and wellness coach. . . So those initials are LCSW and CHWC. I have some other letters but really, these are the ones that I use most of the time so now, what does that means for you? . . It boils down to meaning that I'm not exactly a fly by night kind of gal. I have huge respect for lots of leaders who may or may not have those letters but my skills give me a unique perspective and mix of skills. To help you (because guess what? I paid off my student loans decades ago!) :-) . . . Go where you want to go! . . Doesn't that sound just great? Join me! . . Connecting with me is easy. Click the link above in profile for more info. 👌 . . #lcurtiscoaching #masterclass #liveyourtruthspeakyourtruth #gratitude #gettingitdone #livinglighterandbrighter #boundaries #clarity #liveyourlife #livingyourlifeoutloud #lightupyourlife #coaching #lifecoach
‼️STOP SCROLLING!‼️⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ·⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ Remember BRB? (That means be right back, in case you didn't grow up in the AIM days). Well, we never use that acronym anymore because we never leave. We all live here now. And y'all? It's unhealthy.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ♡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I have yet to work with a single client who hasn't claimed they feel overwhelmed. And when I ask them what they're doing to manage their mental load, I hear crickets. Because we're so busy trying to keep up with everyone else that WE DON'T LEAVE ANY TIME TO TAKE CARE OF OURSELVES.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ♡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I've introduced something in my life called #BRBSocialSabbath . I give myself ONE DAY. One day off the socials. I chose Sunday so I could start my week with a clear head. Thinking my own thoughts. Connecting with my own goals. But really, you can choose any day that works for you.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ♡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ I'm inviting you to do the same. Love yourself well and set this simple boundary to TAKE CARE OF YOUR MENTAL STATE. While I love each of you dearly, I know all those beautiful pictures and funny stories will still be there when I return. So tell me, are you in?⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ ♡⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀ #creativeentrepreneur #bloggervibes #creativebusiness #bizowner #christianbusiness #jesuslove #productivityhacks #blogbossbabe #dothething #boundaries #happybusiness #dothework #selfpublished #christianlife #professionalcreative #goodstart #womenoffaith #moxie #motivations #selfemployed #inspiringothers #inspirationdaily #thatsdarling #livethelittlethings #smallbusiness #businessowner #dailydoseofwhimsey #cravingchange #joyfulbydesign
Friends, take your time returning to yourself. 😌 I like to use the analogy of any other injury or ailment, in which these processes shouldn’t be rushed. ✨❤️😌 Be patient with yourselves. Be gentle on yourselves. And know that when you make healing a priority, the rest will come. #frequency #spirituality #float #knowledge #peace #lawofattraction #organized #organization #5d #focused #greatness #growth #dedication #energy #abundance #abrahamhicks #boundaries #higherSelf #flow #eckarttolle #rumi #guru #osho #synchronicity #selflove #trusttheprocess #energy #thealchemist #healing #thesecret
You hear that ladies? Your self respect is more important than him thinking you’re “chill”. The way you allow yourself to be treated in the dating stage is the way you can expect to be treated in the relationship. Set your boundaries now so you can both be sure you found the right match!
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Morning Luvs ~ . So, I know you think its way cool that you have this special gift where you can see the best in people. And it is... if you’re a teacher, coach, mentor, or role model for people who are looking to become all that they can be. . However, when it comes to the “real world”, the one with a mixture of all sorts of people, including predators who will target you, this gift often works against you. . The solution... . Believe people when they show you who they are!!! . Stop making excuses for why they are disrespectful, neglectful, self-absorbed, or otherwise let you down on the regular - and see them for what they are... . Someone who is NEVER going to treat you right (narcissist or not). . Its up to you, and only you, how you allow people to treat you. And if its not up to par... no matter how much you “like them”, you have to give them the BOOT. ~ ✌🏽➕🖤 . And if you need help, click the link in my bio
Dude I feel like this year has been the year of toxic clearing. Relationships, boundaries, all of it. And although needed it’s still hard and painful and makes me want to run away! You feel me? #goodbyetoxicity #boundaries
🦄Friday 8/17🦄 . lt’s Friday & time for your Salty & Sweet messages! . Patience is the name of the game ... still (go ahead & insert Jeopardy music here). I know you’re over this whole retrograde BS. But we’ve got just a couple more days of Mercury RX (going direct on the 19th) & Mars going back online the 27th, and their fellow backwards friends following suit thereafter. . My friend @carriestiers explained it perfectly the other day on @bestlifecafe. She said, “It’s like coming home to a dark house. One by one you begin turning on light switches. It’s the same with the planets turning direct”. Because let’s face it, the universe doesn’t use Alexa to turn everything off & on with one command. . Adjust your boundaries to help maximize your patience level. You’ve made it this far, keep it up! 💓, Cynthia . . Want to book a reading with me? Check out my link in bio or go to my website, angelrootsandboots.com, to book your session! . 📸&🎴by #rainbowloveappdeluxe #rebeldeck & #affirmators . . #itsfriday #saltyaf #tgif #havepatience #jeopardymusic #thinkdontreact #yourealmostthere #boundaries #selfcompasion #youarestrongerthanyouknow #sassyandsmartassy #fridayvibes #spiritualfunnies #solarplexus #crownchakra #thirdeye #angelrootsandboots #intuitive #oracle #leoseason #retrogradeseason
You have the power to keep toxic people out of your life. #emotionalabuse #youmatter #boundaries
I’ve always thought of discipline as an ugly, forceful, violent word. . I’m learning it doesn’t have to be. There exists a kind and loving patience that allows you to set boundaries on yourself - no, I will not watch another Netflix show; it doesn’t make me feel truly good - and in relation to others - that sounds like a worthwhile project, but I just can’t take it on right now. . Discipline is what gets you up in the morning and keeps you focused on a task when your monkey brain runs rampant. Discipline is what gets you on the meditation cushion, the yoga mat, and into the gym. Yet discipline also teaches you to say no, to curl up on the couch. . But discipline only works when it’s fair, loving, and gentle. Dogs -see what I did there, brought it back to Caesar- respond well to clear, consistent boundaries and relatively stable routines, but only when these are set and enforced calmly or lovingly. Humans are the same. . 📷from when the #Okanagan and #BC weren’t covered in smoke. . #love #growth #boundaries #selfcare #discipline #thingsmydogtaughtme #lessonsfromadog #dogslife #disciplineisfreedom #meditation #yoga #kindness #lovingkindness #compassion #walkawayfromthetv #fridaymood #fridaythoughts #thinkingoutloud #dogstyle
Laura and her son Henry are forced to drive her estranged, pot-dealing, carefree father Jack across country after being kicked out of a nursing home.⠀ //BOUNDARIES opens Sat 18 Aug at 6:30 pm.⠀ .⠀ .⠀ .⠀ #boundaries #cinema #stcatharines #film #family #theartslivehere #movie #roadtrip
Are you an #introvert or #extrovert or maybe you are one with tendencies of the other. I'm an introvert with extrovert tendencies. Discover which one applies to you. It helps when getting to know yourself 😉 #boundaries #love #respect #reserved #special #close #nodrama #notafraidofmyowncompany #observant #peoplewatcher
👁☯️👁FOLLOW @boundariesarebeautiful 👈👈👈🦋🦋🦋 IMAGE SHARED VIA @the_truth_hunters ⭕️ ➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖➖ 🎁 SINCE EMBARKING ON MY OWN HEALING JOURNEY IN 2011, I HAVE LEARNED THAT MAKING SELF LOVE & SELF CARE OUR NUMBER 1 PRIORITY IS THE QUICKEST ROUTE TO THE UNDERSTANDING OF PEACE & LOVE & UNITY WITH ALL OF LIFE. THE GREATEST SECRET HIDDEN FROM PLAIN SIGHT. 🎁 IT HAS TAKEN ME YEARS TO UNWIND FROM CULTURAL GUILT / SHAME AROUND NURTURING THE SELF. THIS SICK BELIEF KEPT ME HIDDEN & SMALL & IN TOXIC RELATIONSHIPS MY ENTIRE LIFE. WE MUST ALL CONFRONT THE IMPLANTATION THAT SELF CARE IS “SELFISH”. 🎁 YOU ARE THE ONE YOU HAVE BEEN LOOKING FOR. ONLY YOU MAY DISCOVER YOUR LIGHT INSIDE. AND ONLY YOU MAY SHINE IN THE WAY YOU CHOOSE TO. NO OTHER HUMAN, ANIMAL, HOME, JOB, CAR CAN REVEAL YOUR TRUE NATURE TO THE WORLD. GO INSIDE & FIND YOU. ARE YOU WILLING? 💠 💠 💠 CLICK THE LINK IN MY BIO TO ACCESS FREE SELF CARE RESOURCES: THERE ARE INFINITE WAYS TO SHOW YOURSELF LOVE! http://boundariesarebeautiful.com/selfcareissacred ➕➕➕ 🔴EXPLORE MY YOUTUBE HEALING CHANNEL:: https://www.youtube.com/c/TessaRidleySUITESTPEE 💠 💠 💠 #selfcareissacred #boundaries #scorpiomoon #ascension #instinct
How do you actually make the boundary? The actual setting of the boundaries is a three step process: The third step is: Defending the boundary
You can expect to have your boundary tested on a regular basis. Some people will be checking to see if it’s still there, and some people will simply have forgotten that you placed it. Either way, you’re going to need to be firm any time it’s tested. — This is especially true with a new boundary. Those around you will not be used to this new change and will push you out of habit. Most people that push your boundaries are not thinking of you, but of their own needs and wants. Usually a gentle reminder of the boundary is enough, but if you find yourself dealing with a taker, you will probably need to be more clear and firm. — When you’re defending your boundaries remember that the only behavior you have control of is your own. While it would be wonderful if that guy at the office would just stop telling racist jokes altogether, you don’t have control over that. Decide what YOU can do when he starts telling one. BEWARE leaky boundaries. If sometimes you let it slide and sometimes you stand firm, your boundaries are going to be tested more than if you’re clear on the limit. #boundaries #courageous #selfconfidence #personaldevelopment #supermom
My boys playing ! Pepper is very TOLERANT of olive ! We don’t have to agree with everyone’s choices but we should give them compassion, life is hard for everyone ! #fitlife #fitness #fitnessmotivation #fitspiration #weightlossjourney #wellness #healthylifestyle #therapy #compassion #tolerance #beauty #inspiration #motivation #boundaries
Some days I am more wolf than woman and I am still learning how to stop apologizing for my wild. ~Nikita Gill _________________________________ #fire #truth #boundaries #sorrynotsorry #kindnessnotweakness #fireinmysoul #speakyourtruth #wildwoman #wildwomanrising #goddessrising #divinefeminine #ascension #creation #destruction #shiva #kali #jaima #burnbabyburn #heartopener #nikitagill @nikita_gill
LIFE BONDing Permission to.... Series Healthy things grow. What holds us back from growing? Our mindsets, fears, hurts, limitations. We cannot grow if we’re content with settling for less. We cannot grow without embracing change. We cannot grow if we’re still caught up in a “pack mentality.” We cannot grow if we’re limiting ourselves. We cannot grow if we aren’t willing to make concrete decisions. We cannot grow if we’re afraid to admit what we truly want to ask for. We cannot grow if we’re living in the past. We cannot grow if we’re not willing to do the work. We cannot grow if we’re not lifelong learners. We cannot grow if we fold over the smallest set back. We cannot grow if we’re wanting growth to be handed to us. But we can grow if we’re willing and ready!!! Let’s grow! Is it time for you to grow? If so, you’re allowed. #letsgrow #befree #boundaries #believe #trust #emotionalavailability #dream #lifebonds #forgiveness #freedom #renewal #chooselife #befree #letgo #redeeminglove #love #peace #permission #allowyourself #created #youbeyou #grow #personalfreedom #embrace #strengths #dreampursuit #comfortzone #identity #selfworth
#morningmessage #boundaries People are selfish and tend to take advantage. Don’t let them take advantage of you. #justsayno #rules #breakingbadhabits #personalresponsibility #takeresponsibility #takeastand
YEP this is definitely me.. and this is definitely what I portray for my girls.. 👌💪#ifyoucantsayanythingnicedontsayanythingatall #standupforyourself #bambi #thumper #sonice #fearce
Dear beauties, Thank you for all of your love these last 10 years in this amazing industry I get to call home! At this time I am not currently taking new clients until 2019. I feel so blessed to be at this stage in my career but also so sorry for any inconvenience. Also, during this busy time, I’m taking approximately 48 hours to respond to inquires, thank you for your patience! I’m almost positive that I have covered all of my bases and that I have responded to everyone! IF I haven’t, please contact me now! Thank you for your support and understanding during this time! LOVE, Corrina
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