In desperate need of a spa day. 🙏🏽 for the robes @aguasdeibiza.
What are your favorite spas to visit when its time to unwind ??? #FamilyFLY
Prasadam Baby and Amma make coffee every morning. Apparently he has learned to press buttons! And, what's cooler than discovering that a button can CAUSE action? Well, teaching your brother how to press buttons. Press it once - the pump turns on. Press it again - it turns off. Repeat until mama takes it away. Little moments of discovery can be HUGE moments of development for little ones.
Y'all, I'm exhausted. Mamahood is hard and easy and a twisting turn of events and decisions. Parenting multiples is this intense transition into a whole different universe that, I'm pretty sure, if I took the time to learn to read the planets, I would be told that I've evolved to an entire different state of being as a multiples parent. I'm finding that I'm flying through the day battling with having a finite amount of energy to do things and all that energy is going to these two humans. I'll grab my journal or Nintendo switch or Kindle and place it nearby. Like this silent, hopeful reminder that I can get to it. But then it's left there. .
I'm really good at this mama thing. Like, really good. Even at the hardest points I don't loose my temper or get frustrated. I spend hours planning out their shelves and watch their development and I'm hella in-tuned with them. But I suck as prioritizing myself, protecting my time. I suck as getting time for myself. And it shows. I'm not diving into writing and creating worlds like I so desperately need. I'm not wearing headphones in my little curiated corner in the back of the house like I desperately wanted. I'm not making time for me. Who am I even more? Who is this person over the last three years? It started with diving completely into TTC, then my pregnancy, then becoming a NICU parent, and now I'm a full time parent. And despite having two amazing mother's, my kids choose me to climb all over while I desperately try to enjoy a meal. .
I know what brings me joy. I know what parts of myself that I absolutely love. I know talents that I have and what makes me feel liberated and who I was before kids, before trying to conceive, before marriage. I just don't know how to make time for her. Her. This being inside me, looked behind some metaphorical door inside my throat, who is sitting. and waiting. .
Staying home, bring a full time parent, it's rough. But being a multiples parent? Well, it has a TON of benefits but it also means that things are twice as hard. I don't get to throw one baby on me and go. God, life would be easier. I would have more energy. But I don't. And I don't know how to get there.
“Although she was anxious of venturing out into the big, wide world, she did 🌍. And, she found that she enjoyed it. It would change her life forever.” Name one transformation travel moment you’ve experienced. #FamilyFLY
On our shelves this week.
We are loving these bright, little wooden stackable puzzles from @imaginechildhood
They've been having a winter sale going! Definitely check them out! They are kind of local to us - about an hour up the highway in Castle Rock, CO.
Toilet learning. But why? .
I mean, the easiest answer is that I have time and this is how I have always done it. As a nanny, teaching, the kid sits on the toilet because it's what we do as humans. It's where the waste of our bodies go. From the moment that they can sit up, you sit on the toilet. But let's dive a bit deeper. .
When? When all depends on the child. For our fam, we knew that we would start normalizing the toilet when they were able to sit up unassisted. I sat little Ikea toilets out in an area that would be their defined toilet area. They explored them at first. Then, at diaper changes, I would sit them on the toilet. And now, they sit and read books or build. They also take time to explore their bodies. They always stop their play when they pee. "Pee comes out the top of your penis." I give them language or sometimes we sing the potty song by @kimyadawson
I don't do this so that they won't have to ever wear diapers or have accidents. No, their bodies are slowly learning how to control itself and they are only now being aware. Toilet learning is a process. It is a time to connect with their bodies. It's a time to explore their bodies and bodily functions. It's a down time to read. And it's a ritual process we do. .
The process starts with them standing. They don't like lying for diaper changes and I don't like wrangling them. They are physically telling me 'no' and I'll respect that. So, we have started standing. This allows them to be more a part of the process. Instead of something happening to them, they are helping with pushing down pants and spreading legs. After they're undressed and wiped clean, they go on the toilet. They are able to sit here, play and explore and listen to stories. They always pee and sometimes poop if I catch their morning poops in time. We clean up, stand back up, and put on a clean diaper and pants. It's that easy. I have the time to do it all day. My wife makes an effort to continue when she gets home from work. But, if you're interested in starting, start slow. Try one day at a time. It shouldn't be a frustrating. Instead, it's a time to learn, connect, and be present. .
Resources in the comments.
The car tracker is currently the favorite material in our house (quickly follow d by the @guidecraft_official
Jr. Blocks). Both of my little humans will often slide it off the shelf and push the cars down. Their eyes easily tracking the face movement. Moya Baby has learned, with a ton of practice, to place the car back up to the top and put it on so that it can start it's journey again. It takes him a few tried before he slows his movements, focuses, and get it right. The reward? The car sliding down the track again - the wheels making a rhythmic noice that keeps his attention. Lately, both children have been so hyper focused in their play.
🌟🌈 dancing queen, 17+ 🌈🌟(a full face of @milkmakeup
& an @abba
reference wow 😀)| products used: @milkmakeup
eye pigments in 'sesh' and 'mermaid parade', kush mascara, holographic stick in 'supernova', lip color in 'O.G. Red', and star tattoo stamp (swipe to the end 4 a 😁)
You may shoot me with your words, You may cut me with your eyes 👀
You may kill me with your hatefulness . But, still like air, I’LL RISE. #mayaangelou #FamilyFLY
Prasadam Baby has taken the last month to 'catch up' with Moya Baby. Can you even call it catch up when each kid grows at their own pace? We really try not to compare or worry when one or the other is doing something the other isn't. It's hard when our entire culture revolves around comparison. .
I have spent years caring for children. I also spent five years in a montessori environment learning language, skills and the best way to follow the child in their development. I have learned to honor each individual child's progress. Being able to reflect on those years, on the people who helped encourage me and take time to teach me about various concepts and materials, has truly enabled me to be the best parent that I am capable of being. That they absolutely need. Yes, they get all the love in the world but they also get someone in-tuned with their development (especially those first 3 years when the brain grows the most). I've learned to sit back, allow them space to grow in their independence and concentration. I've learned language to encourage them, but not to make them dependent on my approval or love. I've learned patience that allows me to tackle the most stressful situations without overwhelming frustration. I've learned. And I've dreamed of moments like this where I can apply these skills and knowledge in my own parenting. .
Prasadam Baby is moving - grabbing material from his shelves or crawling around. He goes from room to room now with curiousity and excitement. Moya Baby has learned to be somewhat gentle, playing with him or laying next to him - both babies hyper focused on cars going down a wooden car track, and for many moments of the day I sit back and observe. I observe and observe and observe. Allowing them space. Figuring our their interests and where they are and I'm finding that most of my 'free' time is figuring out what kind of material to make or find to show them next! .
I'm sure I would be a great mama without my montessori background - but it has been so helpful and truly has set a foundation for our parenting.
Corn Fed 🌽... “You gunna finish that?” 🍲👀🦍
Pulled these old kicks out the closet ... Still PHRESHHHH 👟
11 months (8 months adjusted) .
* pushing and chasing after balls
* loving their car tracking
* pulling books off the shelf *walking from one end of the couch to the other
* standing and retrieving things from
the second tier of their shelf * using mallets
*using spoons / forks
* handing things back and forth between each other * having thirty-ish minutes of alone time
in their room playing together *crawl after mama from room to room *constantly nursing
I know I should mention
how this kid got into my oatmeal,
all I can recognize is how great
looks with his beautiful brown skin.
I stay in my own lane 🤷🏾♂️
Usually these things require a lot of doctoring but this one was great as is. Husband: “When did you make this? you weren’t cooking for very long and I didn’t hear you use any blenders.” Me: 😶😶😶 #costcofinds #blindian #fakingit
Eating out with kids while on holidays is always a balancing act. We (parents) usually want to eat something exotic and exciting we can’t get back home. They (kids) usually want what they eat back home £&?!& How do you manage eating out with kids while you’re on holiday? #FamilyFLY
Amazing what a few cardio sessions do to my physique 👌🏾🔥🤷🏾♂️
Workout so hard that you don’t need any filters 🤷🏾♂️ BUILT FORD TOUGH 🚚
Walk It Like I Talk It 🤷🏾♂️😎 Some slight work on a Saturday 🏋🏾♂️