“Be kind to yourself and those around you. Have a hygge day.” Sofie Pedersen, Keep Calm & Hygge
Jealousy - the most dangerous emotion.
I think we’ve all had a run in with at some points in our life. Jealous of peoples abilities, their belongings, their life, their financial status.... whatever!
The biggest thing to remember is DO NOT LET IT CONSUME YOU.
Confidence has no room for jealousy, if you’re confident in yourself and you appreciate yourself and the things around you, you’ll find yourself much happier.
I used to get jealous of skinny girls in fact some days I still do. But when I broke this down to myself and truly asked myself “why” I was jealous, it was from my own insecurity. As soon as I feel back in love with myself and appreciated me and embraced my body, personality and life it felt SO MUCH BETTER.
I am ME because NO ONE else is.
Being consumed by jealousy ruins lives, relationships and friendships.
I really challenge you this week, that if you find yourself jealous about something, ask yourself why!? Then ask yourself why don’t you have that?! Then figure out a way you can get it! (Without detriment to other people)
e.g I’m jealous that my friend got a new car..... WHY do I want/need a new car?
Option 1 - I don’t need a new car I’m just being a jealous person
Option 2 - I need to save up all my extra money to afford my new car because actually it is time that I had one.
#realtalk #progressnotperfection #jealousyquotes #emotional #confidence #knowyourworth #appreciatewhatyouhave #bekind #bekindalways #bekindtoyourself #nohate #loveyourself
PEER PRESSURE; As teenagers move towards independence they seek a sense of acceptance and approval from others. Conformity is the price you pay for acceptance and therefore, leads to displaying actions that go against your own morals and values. Things such as clothing, money, devices to drinking, smoking and forms of illegal activity are all influences brought upon a person merely because society has shaped our view of the ideal “norms” within our generation.
So why do we allow ourselves to be influenced by others to display actions, thoughts and feelings that do not portray our own unique qualities? Because we seek belonging, acceptance and the will to “fit in” with crowds society considers “cool”. However, what society has forgotten to mention is that in the midst of all of this you tend to forget what it means to be yourself and spending most of your time trying to be something you’re not. You forgot what it means to express your own opinions rather than basing them off what your friends believe. So here’s some words of advice; if you don’t feel comfortable in a situation , then you probably shouldn’t be doing it in the first place. If you’re being influenced to do something that goes against what you believe in then take the time to stop and think, why should I continue to pursue this?
Friends are there to support, love and tell you when you’re being a dick. Therefore, if they do not know you well enough to know when you’re feeling uncomfortable with what they’re asking you to do then you will notice pretty quickly who you should be keeping in your life.
Therefore, be sure to express your own morals, values & beliefs early and make them clear before the situation escalates. If they do not agree with what you’re saying or think you’re being “down buzz” then that’s their problem and they have to deal with that if they want to continue being in your life. Sometimes you have to do a bit of trial and error before you find the people who truly deserve your time and energy. Be true to yourself and others will pick up quickly what type of person you would like others to know you as. 🌈✨ #selfrespect #bekindtoyourself #peerpressure #selfacceptance #individuali
...and I’m back in the game!
Sometimes you just need a little encouragement from a friend 💕@jugabbs
to get everything back on track!
Went to my first Metal Yoga class today @toughloveyoga
and LOVED IT! (Well, I couldn’t hear some of the cues over the music, but 🤫)
What I loved most was the style of the class! It was more of a workshop style class-hitting some more arm balances (including the one pictured here)-building up to them-breaking them down-working them out-and just LOVING the process.
We learned about the ebb and flow of power yang and more receptive yin-how these work within our yoga practice and ourselves.
The best part of today, is that I went back to my mat, forgave myself for the judgement of my absence, recognized that not all is lost, and am energized to move forward—cultivating this momentum into a regular routine. .
#talesfrommymat #yoga #yogatales #forgiveyourself #acknowledgment #yogamat #armbalances #yinyang #yogaeverydamnday #bekindtoyourself #itsok #balance #fitness #asana #grasshopper #namaste #atlanta
Sometimes you have days where you have an awesome workout & eat 100% healthy 👍🏼 And sometimes you have days where you’re lazy and have too many cheat meals 😳
It’s all about balance 😆 And the thing you must remember... NOBODY IS PERFECT!! You’re going to mess up, you’re going to have off days, you may even fall off the wagon 🤷🏼♀️ But the important thing is that you get back up and keep trying your hardest to get to where you want to be 😘
🌟Today’s smoothie •1 Frozen banana
•Frozen mix berries (handful)
•2 celery stalks
•1tbs vegan protein powder •spirulina •water
Talk about a health boost (Woow).
Let me know if you try this recipe.
No one deserves bad treatment, including you
You deserve to be treated with self-kindness & to meet your own physical and emotional needs
Physical appearance isn’t the most important thing, and even if you think you’re “unattractive” you deserve to be able to live your life without shame
No one is expected to be perfect at everything they try, and it’s okay to enjoy things you aren’t good at
It’s more interesting and fun to focus your thoughts outward on the world and other people than to think about how much you like or dislike yourself
Everyone makes mistakes and does embarrassing things. An embarrassing event might feel really terrible but it’s not actually a threat
It’s not worth obsessing over whether you are a good or bad person, because those things don’t really exist. (There are only good & bad actions; humans are way too complex & ever changing to fit into black & white labels)
Your thoughts and emotions are as valid & real as anyone else’s
Basically, the goal with all of this is to accept that you can treat yourself with self compassion. It is going to be near impossible to be happy if you constantly tear yourself down, or if you don’t respect your needs, but it’s definitely possible to be happy feeling pretty “meh” about it.
I recommend focusing on things you believe are true for all people, then working back to yourself (for example, that everyone deserves to be treated kindly, that physical appearance isn’t shameful, that everyone makes mistakes, etc). Make self kindness the goal. When you are being mean to yourself, remind yourself to be kinder. If you feel horrible about a mistake remember you are only human. And the rest of the time? Pour your energy into creating meaningful activities in your life. Make art, chase goals, call friends, read books, learn, create, engage. You will find the world is much bigger and brighter when you make room for something besides self criticism.
Source unknown but found on Tumblr 🌸
Be kind to one another.
It's an individual decision.
We can blame others for not being kind but for ourselves we have no excuse.
Take responsibility for your actions and spread love and peace.
I never would have thought that learning how to train dogs would trickle over into "training" for myself. R+ training can apply to everyday life because it's a method directed at behaviour in an animal and humans are just another species of animal on a beautiful green and blue planet.
I have applied certain R+ philosophies to become more self aware of my "bad behaviours" and to incorporate "good behaviours" to replace them.
It's been a wonderful journey so far and there is so much more to learn.
Give Karen Pryor's "Don't Shoot the Dog" a read. It's been really eye opening and I promise that you can take invaluable information from this book to create better relationships with your pets as well as your family, co workers and yourself!! #R
+training #positivereinforcement #positivechange #dogs #dogtraining #bekindtoyourself #bekindtoothers #bekindtoyourself #karenpryor #dontshootthedog
This has been a really stressful week. Deadlines, shoots, and all the rest of my various roles and responsibilities as a freelancer have really weighed down on me this week. The temptation to find the roof of the tallest nearby building and throw myself off of it has been there quite a few times. However I keep pushing forward because I know that despite the most difficult days, there will be better ones. The bad moments don’t define me, but they make me better even if I hate every moment. I know I’ll look back and say it could have been a lot worse.
So hang in there peeps! If you are having a bad day, week, or month, just keep moving forward because there will always be better days ahead! 🤗
More self care today 🥰 Had the most intense massage ( & revelation ) then brought myself these beautifully coloured roses for no ‘practical’ reason but because I work so damn hard and deserve some self acknowledgement. Went home and nourished my body with the usual green smoothie adding a chunk of ginger, sipping on lemon water; & later it will be a soak and stretch 🥰🥰🥰 Don’t feel guilty about taking time for yourself or spending money on yourself, if your tank isn’t full how can you expect to take care of others?? #medstudentmunma #selfcare #massage #roses #whynot #bekindtoyourself #selflove #be
Cute, sporty stripey for my pal. (Pinterest inspo)
See that bloody cuticle? This is what happens when you pick. Pickypickertons. I know you're out there.
Not calling out your name my friend..but even she said.."we shoulda done a before pic". Don't RIP your nails off..don't tear at your skin with your teeth or anything else. Hydrate. If you see dry skin..ripped and torn..apply:
Cuticle oil..lotion..coconut oil..something to help you avoid ripping your skin up to your elbow. K? K. 😘🥴🧘♀️you got this.
#inmgelavish #inmacrylic #wildflowersglitter #dontpickyourskin #bekindtoyourself
Those of you who believe you have #TMS
I know how hard it is for you right now. I know how agonizing it is not to fully understand it. To be in #pain
or deal with #chronicpain
on a daily basis and yet the world is still moving and you’re expected to go along with it. I’ve never imagined something so dark would lead me into discovering so much about myself. When you have TMS, you’re forced to search into the deeper meanings of things, of life. It’s depressing and isolating. If I can offer one piece of advice, and I offer this to anyone who messages me asking for tips, it would be: 1) read #sarno
books 2) find ways to get into your subconscious through meditation so that you can see what’s being suppressed and 3) stop believing that your pain is permanent. It is transient. There have been people in this world who have come back from plane crashes with their spines completely destroyed who have walked again, just look up “Morris E Goodman”. The more you expand your mind and see what’s possible, the better you’ll feel. mindbody #personalgrowth #spirituality #wellnessjourney #holisticwellness #mindfulliving #mindandbody #mindbodyconnection #Tensionmyositissyndrome #bekindtoyourself #mindfulness #innerwork #selfgrowth #powerofthemind
Happy Saturday Everybody!!! I just wanted to express my gratitude!!! I really love how I been feeling these days!!! I have lots energy and I have truly fallin love with fitness. I look forward to my workouts they make me feel so great, where in the past I had no motivation and felt unhappy with how I looked and felt! I would yoyo diet and maybe workout a week, & give up! And then sit and wish I could get healthy & fit and never followed through... Today I am truly proud of myself everyday and continue to stay motivated and motivate others on my weight loss journey... Thank you all who are following me on my weight-loss journey!!! I truly appreciate all of you... 😘💖
Today is national day of kindness. I didn’t do any random acts of kindness but I did get in a visit with 2 of my besties. #bekind #bekindtoyourself
Yesterday, with my babes ❤ hitting recharge.
I've been in a bit of a painting funk the last couple of weeks. I'm still cracking on, & I know logically that it will pass. The ebs & flow of this creative life can be the most challenging part. Agree?
I think accepting that you cannot possibly bring your A game all the time is important.
How do you deal with the creative lows? Do you plough on through, knowing it will pass or do you step away for a while? I'm really interested in how others cope.
Why be a beggar when you can be a chooser.💜
So whatever your circumstances or conditions are, whatever your shape is, however cursed or blessed you feel, precisely how much pain you are in and exactly how heavy or light your burden may be YOU ARE ONE EXTRAORDINARY LIVING BREATHING MIRACLE and you are worth whatever expense or inconvenience or time you require.
No matter how exhausted and defeated you feel, how angry and disgusted & doubtful you are
right in the middle of that you are still a miracle deserving of every. good. thing.
Do not make excuses for neglecting yourself. Do not take short cuts or buy the latest hack, fad, or trick because THERE IS NO QUICK FIX for generational depletion. There's no easy way to 'perty-up disease. No cute filter for complete run-down-and-out upside down and inside out sadness. There's no amount of protein powder or dead-lifts that are gonna fix depression. No amount of lipstick or rouge is going to hide the anxiety from your face when you feel like a pot of icy water that's about to boil over.
You and your one body and your infinite soul deserve all of the
S L O W loving attention in the world.
DO NOT SAY
that you don't have time.
Because time is all you have.
Every second of every day is all the time you have to take care of your one self.
You can say you're too tired, too lazy, too pissed off at the world. You can even claim you are too busy but we all know that's just a euphemism for "I don't really care enough." None of us can say we don't have time. .
Take time for yourself today.
I don’t want to be a party pooper but...🙉
Red hair & loose skin. Rockin both of them day in and day out. ✌
Your body is beautiful. Stretching, shrinking, gaining strength, getting you through life. This body of mine got me through a day of pulling up carpet and tons of little staples alongside my husband (new floors finally coming in the next few weeks!). Definitely required a strong core and strong wrists. Thank goodness for knee pads!
But really. I've said it before and I'll continue to preach about it for the rest of forever. Your body is the vessel for all that you are. Nurture it. Treat it with care. Accept all the bits and pieces that may not change, regardless of your size. Loose skin and stretch marks are NOT flaws, and never will be. They are simply signs of where you've been and where you are now. Little details in the story of YOU.
So, rock that body of yours. Embrace it throughout your journey. Because you've got a life to live and no time to waste thinking about what society has labelled as "flaws." You're brilliant as you are. 💙
Love & light, friends.
I don’t care I need to make sure sure the dollar bills are all facing the same way 🙄😬
I’ve been battling with my depression...that’s why I’ve been a bit absent. And this photo was from earlier today (yes there are two dogs in it haha), but I’ve just had a bit of an epiphany and thought I’d share.
I’ve been suicidal before. I’ve been so down and have succumbed to my depression before to the point that I no longer wanted to exist. .
But sitting here, on my back porch, in 70 degree weather, watching the love of my life play with our oldest dog as the youngest cowers under the chair I sit in (he’s a scaredy cat), waiting for the grill to warm for the delicious steak we’re about to have...I couldn’t imagine missing this. Life is crazy. Times get hard. Depression kicks ass. It’s a rollercoaster. But man, I sure am happy that I’m here to have witnessed it all. Moments like this make my heart swell with love and appreciation for all the people who helped me choose life along the way. Life gets messy, but it doesn’t rain forever. Choose life, my friends.
#veteranfedup #veteran #ptsd #depression #depressionsucks #chooselife #suicidalpast #nevergiveup #nevergivein #bekindtoyourself #doesntrainforever #stickaround #itgetsbetter
Energy flows where intention goes.
This idea used to stump me!
Where we set our focus is what we create. In the last post we explored how powerful saying “don’t think of blue” is.
This is called double processing.
It gives our brain more work to do. And often time becomes the actual thing that manifests because our brain gets hung up.
But here’s the thing- our brains like EASY, FLOW, KNOWN! Our brains are highly efficient, lazy, beings. They like what they know- especially what they know. Because it means they have to work less.
Today I was talking with a dear friend of mine. She was sharing how all her relationships have ended in the same way. “It’s just my cycle. But I hate hurting people’s feelings.” And through a bit of coaching uncovered that she hated the feeling of disappointment- but that she would choose that over the feelings of vulnerability. Because she was wanted to stay safe- to avoid feeling hurt. “Let me be the inflictor not the inflicted.” She logically knew that she wanted to stop this cycle, but didn’t know how.
I asked her to investigate the relationships she held that she maintained and felt safe in. And start focusing there. To create more of that!
Working with your children is the same- we gotta get to the belief that’s supporting the behaviors and start shifting those! Then the reality in front of us will change.
Get our brains working FOR US not AGAINST US!
Want to start this work 100% free? Come join my month long mini-course starting March 4th.
Ever found yourself saying?⠀
“They don’t do their fair share,”⠀
“He/she blows up over nothing”⠀
“They’re not even trying”⠀
“They don’t even care.”
It doesn’t feel good to be blamed, and most people fight back.⠀
“You don’t even notice how much I do”⠀
“I blow up because you provoke me”⠀
“I work harder than anyone else”⠀
“You have no idea how much I care”
Blame is a game you can’t win!⠀
People get stuck in a vicious blame cycle. The more you blame, the worse you both feel and the worse it seems to get.⠀
When you blame, you start to feel like a powerless victim. After all, since it’s their fault, there’s nothing you can do.⠀
Blame does the opposite of what you want. It actually helps things to stay the same, or even makes them worse. Blame sends out a negative energy which brings you back more negative energy.⠀
Some people blame their partner for their unhappiness yet find themselves in another unhappy relationship. Some people leave a job they can’t stand only to end up in another job they can’t stand.⠀
We think if only the other person or situation changes, then things will be better.⠀
It’s like the man who decided to move across the ocean to get away from everything that was making him unhappy but when he got there, he was still unhappy because he had brought himself with.⠀
Sometimes, instead of blaming, we need to look inside ourselves and ask ourselves these five questions. Visit my blog by clicking the link in bio to read on!
🌅 take your time. be gentle with yourself 💕