I'm 64 and still trying to figure out that first part. But I'm a lot closer than I was 😌. And I have experienced moments of feeling the freedom of being my true self without self-jugment.
I think it takes most of us a good part of our lifetime to unravel the messages we've been given from childhood on to finally break through and find ourselves.
Of course, it didn't help that I spent decades in active addiction. How blessed I feel to have the roadmap of recovery to help me find my way 🙏. #unstuck #recoveringartfully #healingdoodle
Growth & Discomfort go together 💑 .
It's our attitude that counts
💖Bekkii Spain @bekkii.spain
is from Sligo, Ireland 🇮🇪 and bravely shares her mental health journey and experience being admitted into the hospital.
‼️everyone needs a good support system. Sharing stories also makes a difference! #youarenotalone
👀 Check our @bekkii.spain
blog (link in her bio). She’s a mental health advocate with Sligo Replenish Tribe🙌
Who here struggles with social anxiety?
✨ Social anxiety, or social phobia, is more than just shyness or occasional nerves.
✨ With social anxiety disorder, your fear of embarrassing yourself can be so intense that you may go to great lengths to avoid situations that can trigger it.
✨ BUT...no matter how painfully shy you may be and no matter how bad the butterflies, you can learn to be comfortable in social situations and reclaim your life!
✨ The first step is to challenge your automatic negative thoughts!
✨ Social anxiety sufferers have negative thoughts and beliefs that contribute to their fears and anxiety.
✨ Challenging these negative thoughts can effectively reduce the symptoms of social anxiety (source: helpguide.com)
✨ What do you do that helps your social anxiety?
✨ COMMENT BELOW!
When I stress, I neglect myself in multiple ways. Skincare is one of the last things on my mind.
I’ve been watching @labeautyologist
a lot and this #1
tip saves lives + skin.
Severe stress + anxiety started for me in 2015 after high school, right on into college.
Over the past few years, I’ve learned a great deal and I don’t stress or get anxious nearly as much. I don’t believe in medication for resolving these issues, so I never went that route.
What I did do was become a student of all things self-care. I recognized that I have better places to exert my energy than on stressing about things that are out of my control.
Instead, I lean into my self—the study of self. I work on things that I can always improve, like my level of gratitude, improving productivity, and becoming a smarter spender.
Most of my stress + anxiety stems from anything having to do with finances.
I want an emergency fund for my emergency fund + a healthy savings account + debt paid off + capital to fund my (expensive) endeavors.
Financial stability is a steep mountain to climb, but I can further my stride by spending the money I do have in a well-thought out manner.
By doing this, I symbolize to The Universe that’s there’s complete trust on my end of our infinite relationship. I let God know that I have relentless faith about the work being done in my life.
All I need to do is breathe and take it one day at a time.
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Each day you have the chance to train your mind to shape the thoughts that you think and feel within yourself. In developing thoughts that allow you to feel positive, uplifted, loved, happy and healthy, you can powerfully transform how you feel within yourself in any space and at any time. ❤️
Self-Discovery Challenge Day 4!
✨ Today’s Challenge...Take a personality test!
✨ A personality assessment will help you understand more about your own beliefs and limitations.
✨ A personality assessment will also help you get an accurate description of who you are and why you do things the way you do!
✨ CLICK THE LINK in my bio to take one of my favorite personality tests!
✨ Have you ever taken a personality test?
Abundance is a mindset. So is lack.
We all have patterns of defaulting into looking at the things missing from our lives. As humans we always want and will want more. It comes with the territory of being alive. Desire does not cease. This is why grounding yourself in an understanding of your power will keep you rooted in spite of external things available or not yet within reach.
It’s an intentional choice to redirect your focus on what’s already available to you, big or small. Abundance vs. lack is a real struggle for so many in life. It shows up in our finances, relationships and even our physical health.
This is why defaulting to appreciation will keep you balanced no matter what comes or goes. Where your focus goes, your energy flows. Where energy flows, you ask for more of. .
So keep saying, “I don’t like that” or “that’s not fair” and you’ll keep receiving more reasons to proclaim it’s not fair.
Reframe your reaction to, “This is clarifying for me. I may not know how but it is helping me” and in that appreciation of what might initially seem like the opposite of what you want, you transform the current momentum to present itself in the way you want! .
Swipe for an excerpt from my book on this topic - “365 Little Blasts Of Love” available on Amazon
how I’ve reduced my 𝔸ℕ𝕏𝕀𝔼𝕋𝕐 ⇩
hi, I’m kelly, a type-a, overachiever who feels best when in control. I suffer from high functioning #anxiety
. you probably wouldn’t have guessed that when I took this photo I was on the brink of my second anxiety attack in less than 24-hours, #truth
. I’ve been there, that sudden drowning feeling, uncontrollable crying or rage, unable to catch my breath, overtaken by darkness and feeling utterly alone. until you’ve experienced it, it’s hard to relate. but now, I can genuinely say that I see the light. I no longer let anxiety CONTROL ME and wanted to share a few things that have helped:
1️⃣ movement. whether it’s my morning gym sesh, the occasional yoga class (spoiler: I can’t focus, go figure 🤷🏼♀️) or a quiet Saturday beach walk with bae and bae 🧔🏻🐶 working out is my THERAPY
2️⃣ dedicated quiet time. I start each morning with a cup of coffee and a reading from my women’s devotional bible — maybe religion isn’t your thing, trust me I’m just now reinvesting myself too — but self help and affirmation books work just as well. rather than jump into the chaos of my day I commit the first 30 minutes to positivity, healing and guidance.
3️⃣ practicing gratitude. approaching each day with a grateful heart. even if I still face some obstacles or inner pain I choose to celebrate the good in my life. I’ve made a conscious choice to release negative energy, toxic people and triggers, while celebrating how much I’ve been blessed already. this takes PRACTICE, it’s easy to get sucked into a negative loop, but don’t give up.
I work on these things and more every day. I recognize my faults and forgive myself for them. I started caring less if I was being judged and began sharing more of my authentic, weird self. I won’t sugar coat it and pretend like my life is all butterflies and rainbows, but my MOOD and what’s important to me has drastically changed ❤️
#anxietyrelief #mentalhealth #selfgrowth
There is no such thing as an unmotivated client. Everyone is motivated by something and we have never met someone who is actively hoping their life gets worse. That said, what changes when we ask our young participants about what they’re motivated by and their best hopes? Then we can collaborate to make our #adventures
so much more meaningful! #mentalhealth #outdoortherapy #adelaide #australia #anxietytips #therapy #teens
Let the story of your life be one that you would be happy to look back on. ✨
Each person will always have elements and experiences in each chapter of difficulties, struggles, triumphs and stories of love. In living in a way where you move through the ‘bad’ and value the good, look to elevate yourself as much as you can to move past those limiting pages of your life story. ❤️
Yes! It's the first day of Spring, natures way of reminding us that better days lay ahead! ☀️
What your favourite thing about Spring?
If you have an anxious child with a ton of worries, this technique can help them learn to contain their worries to a designated time.
Take any box, and decorate it. On a piece of paper, allow your child to write down as many worries as they can come up with. You can also write down the worries on paper butterfly cut outs. (Explain to your child that worries can often feel like butterflies in our stomachs). Put the ‘worry butterflies’ in the box and put it away in a safe place, maybe under their bed. Keep blank ‘butterflies’ in the box so your child can keep adding their new worries to the box.
Assign 10 minutes every day, for instance before bedtime, for at least 10 days, to take out the worries and talk about them. During those 10 minutes, allow your child to say whatever they want about the worries.
Don’t help them come up with solutions, don’t try to fix it, and don’t interrupt them or make them feel better. Just listen, validate, and empathize. You can say ‘that sounds like a huge worry!’ ‘I can see that’s really worrying you and it must be so hard.’ You can also rephrase and reflect back what they are saying. If they start talking about something else, bring them back. If they run out of worries, ask them to repeat them.
Tell them they are not allowed to talk about their worries at any time apart from Worry Time, and that you won’t answer questions about them before that. If a worry comes up before that, they can add it to the worry box.
It can be helpful to externalise unhelpful, anxious thoughts which can make you feel less weighed down. Plus, when they look back at the untrue worries, your child can learn that most of their worries don’t and probably won’t come true.
Credit: Butterflies in My Stomach activity by Liana Lowenstein, MSW, RSW & CPT-S.
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Definitely, when someone understands your mind, heart and soul it's so very different 🖤🐾
discuses pain and issues that haunt him from the past that cause him anxiety.
🎙SOUND ON🎙'Why do I have ANXIETY?!' It SUCKS and we don’t want it to get in the way of your success! We share our personal experiences with anxiety and how we overcome it on the daily. Listen to our new episode on iTunes / Spotify / Youtube! 🎧⭐️#entrepreneurpodcast #anxietysupport #anxietytips
Filling your cup is a part of whole body wellness.
Our functional and holistic wellness team in our pharmacy speak often with customers feeling overwhelmed and anxious - seeking relief through options we carry such as supplements and CBD.
Along with being a full-service pharmacy with a speciality in fertility and compounding meds, we listen. When stress hormones and cortisol levels are elevated and on fire, we can suffer from adrenal insufficiency. This can contribute to aches, pains, fatigue, depression, and other health issues.
Along with recommending supplements, CBD, oils, and natural products, what are some ways to fill your cup?
❇️ Spending time with a friend or loved one.
❇️ Blowing off stream through exercise.
❇️ Practicing meditation or yoga.
❇️ Having a fun evening out with a fancy dinner and entertainment.
❇️ Surrounding yourself with positive energy in your home, spring cleaning, decluttering.
❇️ Grounding yourself in nature - getting outdoors.
❇️ Finding a newly discovered intimate space with your partner.
wishing all a healthy Spring season ahead.
#wellnesswarriors #autoimmunewellness #anxietytips #cbdoilforsale #fertilitysupport #ivfcycle #spooniesunite #ivfinjections #selfcaretip #thyroidhealing #hashimotosdisease #erectiledysfunction #menswellness #ivfcommunity #wellness #fertilityawareness #ttcsisters #nycmoms #nurse #womenshealth #ivf #fertilitysupport #healthymindbodysoul #ttcsupport #ivfjourney #TTC #ivfsisters #ivfsupport #womenswellness
🌸Do you wonder if you will ever have love and connection with your partner again?🌸 I used to wonder this all the time and I finally made it through the darkness!
Becoming free from anxiety is a process. It’s a journey of courage. It’s continuing to return to the fire with a willingness to sit inside the flames and learn more about yourself.
As I mentioned in yesterdays post (if you haven’t checked it out I would go back and read it over) Relationship Anxiety relates to past pain.
This pain lives inside of your unconscious mind and is waiting to be rescued and healed.
Until this healing happens, the anxiety will remain. As we know from Internal Family Systems Therapy (IFS) The protective parts of you that employ their defence mechanisms (Intrusive thoughts) won’t let up until the pain they protect is healed. This doesn’t mean you can’t gain some separation from the protective parts and intrusive thoughts, however the thoughts will come up anytime the parts sense that the pain will be triggered.
This kind healing takes time and is not a linear process. It is best done with a trained Counsellor or Therapist with knowledge of Relationship Anxiety.
The amount of time it takes all depends on the person and how many wounds exist inside. It also depends on the amount of work you commit to putting in and how consistent you are with that work.
This is no easy journey, however, I believe that anyone can do it!
Are you ready to become free from relationship anxiety? Let me know in the comment section!
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Anxiety and Panic attacks,
A hidden mental health disorder that often goes unnoticed. 😢😢
Most of us suffering from anxiety and panic attacks try to hide it from others especially those not close to us and the public.
People may think you are just being ignorant or rude. 😅😅
It can also manifest in physical problems as well. I know when I am super anxious for a period of time I break out in eczema, particularly on my face. This adds to my anxiety.😯
Four simple tips that have helped me
✔Acknowledging I have a problem and Sharing my feelings and thoughts with those I trust
✔Learning what are the worst triggers for panic attacks and plan what I will do if it happens (involving my family and close friends in the plan)
✔Seeking professional help
Thank you beautiful @wanderingforests
for helping us with our new mini camera 😍 .
😍 please DM us if we can be of any help and support. .
Have you heard of autogenics? Developed by a German psychiatrist, it’s a relaxation training technique which anyone can learn — and it’s effective for easing feelings of stress and anxiety. It works by using a series of statements that create feelings of heaviness and warmth in different areas of the body. This has a relaxing effect on the nervous system.
Autogenic training is known to reduce the experience of anxiety and help you to feel calm in situations that you might usually find very stressful — such as social events or performances. It becomes more effective the more you practice it. So eventually a simple, single statement could be enough to induce a conditioned state of relaxation at any time.
Think back to that bully in elementary school. All they were looking for was a response out of you. When you don’t react, you win.
Anxiety is a lot like this. It wins if it gets a rise out of you. The less you respond to it, the more control you have.
One of my number one things I keep in mind is that you can’t always control what happens, but you can always choose your response.
Anxiety will sneak up on you, bad days happen, but once you know that you have a choice in how to perceive what is happening, you will learn to free yourself of a lot of this negativity ✨
Judgement of others is the most hurtful and spiteful things. Judging other because they sin differently than you does not elevate you. We have to stop the competition with everyone around us.
Surround yourself with friends and people that don’t gossip and judge others. Use our words to love and help others instead of hurt them. Let’s love like God loves us.
It has taken me a long time to learn this and I am still learning it but it doesn’t matter what other people think of you ask long as you are doing what God wants you to do. So be you. Follow God. Love others. And no judgement ❤️
I run an account called “CHILL Chief” and I had an anxiety attack. .
I had an amazing time at the beach with friends over the weekend - valuable bonding time. 👯♀️ But I didn’t take care of myself in the least — drank far too much, didn’t work out, didn’t meditate for the first time all year, no supplements, bad sleep and ate out every meal. Four days was enough and my body (and brain) noticed. We are all human and I am by no means making excuses to not care for yourself. What I am saying is that this is REAL life and sometimes you prioritize a weekend of shenanigans over your wellness plan. .
When I got home Sunday, my emotional state was intensely hard to control hopping from anger to sadness to irritation. I tried my best to be mindful of each emotion and look at them from a distance. By Monday the stress and frustration had risen so high that I had an anxiety attack (for the first time in a long time) over a normally manageable issue. Hyperventilating on the floor of my closet (my safe space) with my head tucked between my knees and my dog standing by for comfort. 🐶
The definition of wellness literally states that it is a process of awareness and making healthy decisions. That means that sometimes we move forward and sometimes we move backwards BUT as long as we have an overall forward progression that’s the only thing that matters. This past week I definitely moved backwards but it taught me so much. ✨Remember to not be so hard on yourself and allow yourself to grow and make mistakes. To work through those mistakes and grow even more. I am still in the aftermath of emotional disarray but I’m working through it — now excuse me while I get my sweat on! .
What helps you feel better when you are stressed?
19. Eat at Yo Sushi!
So this happened last weekend! I ate at Yo Sushi! We even sat at the bar meaning I could watch the conveyer belt to my hearts content! 😂😂 Talk about head on a swivel!!!! I am super pleased to tick another challenge off my list but the bill mounted up very quickly, just like I thought it would 🙈 #30before30
I received some DMs from someone who shared about a painful traumatic experience and asked for a post about healing from trauma.⠀
A tiny square on Instagram is not NEARLY sufficient for addressing trauma (and nothing I provide on Instagram constitutes psychotherapy in any way, shape, or form), but it’s at least a place to put a few ideas out there.⠀
Recovering from trauma is a messy process, but it IS possible. While you probably won’t forget what has happened to you, with time and support you can learn to understand your experience as one piece of your story and not the whole book.⠀
Before any provider EVER asks you to describe what you went through, it is imperative that they first make sure you’re safe and stable. Jumping in too quickly can be re-traumatizing. “Safe and stable” means⠀
✅You’re not in immediate danger of having the trauma happen again⠀
✅You have a place to go where you feel safe ⠀
✅You have skills for calming yourself when you get upset, overwhelmed, or triggered (like knowing how to take slow deep breaths and use tools for grounding and self-soothing)⠀
Anyone helping you work through trauma should always be willing to go at your pace and take a break or stop completely if you get too activated. They should never force you to share details before you’re ready. ⠀
The biggest way to start the healing process is to seek the services of a trained trauma professional (a psychologist, social worker or therapist).⠀
That’s not an option for everyone, so if you cannot access mental healthcare, I recommend completing the PTSD Workbook by Mary Beth Williams and Soili Poijula. It’s not a replacement for face-to-face care, but it’s a great start.⠀
To learn coping in times of high stress (whether it’s trauma related or not), check out some of my previous posts. I give lots of step by step guidance on using various skills for grounding and calming yourself. ⠀
If you or someone you know has experienced a trauma, please try to seek help outside of Instagram. Go to psychologytoday.com to find a provider. ⠀
Sending 💕 to all the recovery warriors out there, no matter what you are recovering from. Keep fighting the good fight.