it’s so nice to be able to wake up early in the morning without a hang over!
spending the morning watching hot dave fish at the dam
it’s really so beautiful out here. it’s still foggy and chilly and so quiet. •
i’m so thankful for these times we can spend together out enjoying life instead on being stuck at home in bed. •
it’s also great cooking weather! and i’ve been inspired by the thanksgiving editions of magazines. so! i’m doing a mini thanksgiving for us tonight 😍
with fall upon us, it’s time to cook!
i never really cared much about my health before. •
when i started my recovery journey, i was the heaviest and most unhealthy i had ever been in my entire life. •
i knew i needed to make a change before it was too late. •
i decided to try lazy keto and get on a vitamin weightloss program and let me tell you, it has been the easiest and most maintainable thing i’ve ever done in my life. •
i lost 60 pounds in less than a year and it’s stayed off!
last year, i was unemployed from september to february and spent most of that time in my kitchen playing with recipes. i’ve never been much of a baker but my homemade spice cake with brown sugar icing is something to behold. •
cooking brings me so much joy and helps with my anxiety immensely. and in the end, you have something yummy that you made and can be proud of. •
now, to dive into these mags and pick out something special to make with my honey tonight for a little stay in date night 💕
This week’s episode (50), we discuss age gaps in relationships. Vicki thinks about the emotional connection, Michelle thinks about their penis. What’s the biggest age gap you’ve had? Thoughts?
because we’re just beautiful people with beautiful problem s
i used to never have a problem going out alone. •
probably because i would always just go to a bar alone. •
tonight, dave and i were supposed to go see a documentary together. •
i tried to do it as a surprise date night but plans change, like they usually do in our situation. •
it’s our weekend with the little and we only get her for a short amount of time. •
i was just going to go out alone, because he didn’t want her to have to go to a babysitter. i get it. but i was sad. i was sad i was going to go do something alone that i wanted us to enjoy together. •
and i knew if i went i’d be miserable all night only to come home to a quiet house with everyone asleep and be even MORE miserable. •
so what i decided to do, was to stay home and spend time with the people i love the most and have a really good night instead of going out just to justify losing the money i paid for the tickets. •
my life is so different now. i think less about myself and more about others. •
when i got home, i got the biggest hugs and kisses and shrieks of happiness that i finally arrived. how could i leave that? how could i just be like... well i paid for it so i’m just gonna go and you guys can stay home. •
“i’m so happy that you’re home”. •
those are words of love. that is what means more to me than something that i just wanted to do for myself. •
so we’re having a family fun night in together instead. •
what used to feel like a chore, because i’m not a parent, and kids are stressful (ya know it’s true), now just feels like a part of life. an ENJOYABLE as HELL part of life. •
i feel like i finally found my place in this world.
i’ve struggled with trying to feel valid since becoming sober. my identity is no longer my addiction. so what is my identity?
my family is my identity. •
we probably have the weirdest dynamic there ever was. •
we have a 17 year age gap, he has 3 children. •
i’m in recovery and really have nothing. •
i’m always hesitant to call myself a step mom. why?
for all the flack i get for it. we’re not married (yet), his oldest is only 4 years younger than i am, we haven’t been together for a zillion years. •
so what makes me not eligible to be a step mother? because i can’t buy their love? because of what someone else thinks is “right”? •
i don’t need to buy them. i don’t want to be bought either. while i can’t provide gifts, money or the latest gadget, i CAN always provide unconditional love, a listening ear, and a hot dinner. to me, those things are more precious than anything else there is. •
that shows how much you love someone. by caring for them. not by buying something so they leave you alone for a few minutes. i’d rather endure a temper tantrum in the middle of the store than to reward bad behavior and make it a habit to become expectant. we’ve become so expectant as a society. why would i want them to expect me to do anything?
there is no expectation as far as i’m concerned. i don’t do things expecting anything in return. but what i do expect is a simple please and thank you. that’s so small but so important. •
i endure judgements of all kinds. i get told i’m not allowed to or i shouldn’t or i don’t deserve it. •
but at the end of the day, those opinions come from miserable, irrelevant people. not from those who actually matter. •
my tip for anyone struggling with needing to be validated, look at who you’re wanting to validate you. do they actually matter in the grand scheme of things? do they have any significant positive impact on your life for the long run? are they even apart of your inner circle?
if the answer to any of those things is no, you don’t need their validation. •
you are valid exactly how you are.
Val surveyed Jordan from head to toe.
Nature’s first green is gold, she thought. He was naturally appealing, his lips and skin soft with youth, his body firm and supple before age stopped hiding his bad habits. She guessed that in a few short years, his face and body would start showing the grey of cigarettes, the wear of labour and drink, the bad teeth of a gig rat who couldn’t afford dental. She, on the other hand, would go on glowing for many more decades. The disparity in life expectancy between rich and poor, once measured by good old-fashioned lifestyle was gaping ever wider, especially in the last twenty years, due to science and technology. Valkyrie Snow took care to buy only the best treatments and therapies.
But for now, nature is on Jordan’s side, she thought. Jordan raised his hand to brush a lock of hair behind his ear. Val’s eyes followed the movement greedily. Jordan had beautiful shining hair. “How old are you?” she asked. “Twenty-four.”
today i’m sitting at my job, hating it like always. and one of the loan customers comes in. •
she’s thin, and pretty and blonde and going on about how she’s getting married this sunday and how they’re closing on their construction loan on monday so they can start building their big beautiful house. •
as i’m sitting there, hair natural, no make up, clothes that are too big because i lost so much weight but i can’t afford to buy anything new that’ll fit, i start to feel bad about myself. •
in a way, i wished i was her. i wish i looked effortlessly beautiful and was having all of these exciting things happening all at once. •
why couldn’t that be happening for me?
i started thinking about if i hadn’t fucked myself up so bad for all those years, maybe that would be me. maybe i wouldn’t be so far behind. •
i used to get a twinge of jealousy every time i saw someone from home getting married or having a baby. •
because those are the things that i really want for myself. •
and i’ll have those things eventually. i don’t want to rush it and it feels forced and we’re not in the right place and then it backfires. •
dave even said to me, we’re happy and healthy. everything else is just stuff and in the end, we return to the earth and we don’t take anything with us. •
and he’s absolutely right. •
so the end note of this story, everyone’s journey is beautiful. just because yours doesn’t look like every one else’s, or you feel like you’ve fallen behind, it’s just not your time yet. •
and that time is coming.
A lot of people were not supportive of Monica and mines relationship because of the age gap. People make comments but we never let it get us down. To us age isn’t anything but a number. She’s 21 I’m 39 but we meet in the middle. Our family’s love each other and my son looks up to Monica and that’s all we need. When you find the one, you know that they are THE ONE regardless of what anyone thinks. Follow your heart and it will only lead to eternal happiness.
#agegaplove #agegaprelationship #truelove #theone #wifegoals
This man loves some TRAIL MIX!
Ours usually ends up being a mixture of banana chips, honey roasted peanuts, coconut chips, m&ms, dried fruit (cranberries, oranges, etc.) yogurt covered raisins, glazed walnuts, and an assortment of nuts (pecans, almonds, cashews) plus whatever else might be at hand. PHEW!
What's in YOUR favorite trail mix??
#trailmix #trailfood #snacks #instafood #backcountryfood #hikers #hikerlife #appalachiantraildiet #at2018 #appalachiantrail #trektheat #hiking #coupleswhohike #hikingtogether #hikingcouples #deafhiker #cochlearimplant #bionicman #agegaplove #agegaprelationship #beardsofinstagram #beardlover #saltandpepperbeard #oldermendoitbetter #menwithglasses #olderandwiser #lightheartgear
I was looking through an old copy of our hospital magazine earlier & came across this picture of my now husband. Then a total stranger. It was an article introducing him to staff as the new Chair of Medical Oncology. I remember seeing it thinking how handsome he was & how interesting he sounded! I then spent about three years passing him in corridors thinking how his 6ft6 slightly awkward frame was even more handsome in real life... & that he wouldn’t ever know who I was because he was super important, super intelligent & I was just some girl who worked in the charity office. As fate would have it, he did know who I was. He’d even picked up on my love of ducks & attempted to flash his duck socks at me in the carpark one day. 🦆 I sent him an email one Friday afternoon after a meeting we’d been in. To my surprise he replied with some banter. Then I replied with some attempted banter. Before I knew it we’d exchanged over 200 emails & had a date the following week.
We met for a drink after work & I had an escape plan ready in case it didn’t go well. I had to take my friend to a wedding at 8pm. When he reminded me I was due to take my friend to a wedding - at 11:30pm as the pub was closing - I knew I didn’t want to spend another moment apart from this hilarious, entertaining, fascinating, intelligent, generous, slightly geeky, handsome man.
The point of my ramblings is that I read an article today about how over 40% of people aged 35-50 meet at work. It discussed at what point you should declare your relationship to your boss & does your employer have a right to know what happens in your private life? Our journey was tough & lots of people thought I wasn’t good enough for the eminent Professor! 😂
Where did you meet your significant other?? I’m a sucker for a love story!! ❤️❤️
#learninghowtomum #lovestory #ourstory #fallinginlove #fate #relationships #relationshipsatwork #happilyeverafter #findinglove #agegaprelationship #ageisjustanumber #truehappiness #lovewins #parentingjourney #ihopeoursonhashisdaddysbrain
Thankful for all the loved ones in my life right now, pizza, and cheesecake for making today great 🍕🎂
got out kayaking today!
we even saw something AMAZING! a seal! yes, like an atlantic ocean seal in the river. with the hurricanes and flooding, totally not impossible!
this was my first river trip this summer. last year i also only went once but it was so hung over it took half the day to feel better. .
a hang over free sunday is something to behold, it really is! i’m so blessed to be able to get out and enjoy nature with my most favorite adventure partner!
Wilson's reaction to the new Age Gap Diary social media pages I have created.
He always says to me "Jy vang enige ding aan," when I start something.... This is what it's like in a generational gap such as ours.
Oh yes, if you didn't notice, he was cleaning to kitchen for me.
i so love the days where we have nothing going on and take a ride through the country and sometimes stop and visit our favorite farm stand. .
i love that we have these little treasures all around for us to enjoy. (by the way, BEST whoopie pies ever!)
and i’m so glad i get to experience these things with the person that i love the most in the healthiest mindset i’ve ever been in, and living my best life!
i was checking my emails this morning and i saw one come through from bethel woods (woodstock! ✌️) and they’re showing exit through the gift shop this coming friday. .
i thought it would be a really fun (and cheap!) date night for dave and i! .
i’ve always loved banksy’s art and even got to see an original piece when i was in brighton england a few years back. .
friday nights used to consist of bartending or plain getting loaded. .
now? arts and culture 🙌
❤️ “Being deeply loved by someone gives you strength, while loving someone deeply gives you courage.” – Lao Tzu. #agegaprelationship