I just LOVE this photo that my cousin @anthea_scordilis
sent me recently after she listened to a long voicenote I sent her on Whatsapp and advice after a relapse with her eating disorder.
There are times I sponsor other addicts and they don't really take on any of the things that I suggest and then there is Anthea that took notes on her hand because she was out and about and wanted to make sure she didn't miss a thing.
Food addiction is such a tricky one, it is not as simple as say my addiction which is alcohol and drugs. Staying away from alcohol and drugs is easy but how do you keep yourself away from food? You have to eat to survive which means you have to face your addiction at last 3 times a day for main meals and perhaps a few snacks too.
I can only imagine what it would feel like for me if someone said I have to have 3 small lines of cocaine a day... and I have to have those 3 little lines, no more and no less.
Anyway back to the topic of relapse - it happens. If you have an addiction you are always at risk of relapse. The important thing when you have a relapse is what you do with it. Do you wallow in guilt and shame, hiding what you have done and very possibly continue to use and go further down the slippery slope? Or do you face it head on and try to figure out what went wrong and work out how you can grow from the experience. How can you use that relapse to learn more about yourself, your triggers and your addiction so that you can prevent a relapse in future and come out stronger for the experience.
Also bear in mind that the relapse is a symptom of a bigger problem. Things don't go great and whoops suddenly you relapse out of nowhere. There is a process that goes on before you use your drug of choice - be it narcotics, alcohol, sex, gambling or any other type of addiction. The fact is that you have slipped back into your old addictive ways long before you used.. So if you have relapsed try and track back a bit and see if you can find the source of the problem and work on that while working on some coping mechanisms and a relapse prevention plan in place.
Progress not perfection is key.
Note that I said simple not easy. Some days are incredibly exhausting. It’s in these times of heightened adversity that I take a step back, breath, and clear my mind. Weather that be with yoga, meditation, a nice run, an intense workout, a walk, or what ever else I decide to do to get myself grounded and then refocus on WHY i continue to do what I do. To support my family, to see the world, to allow my parents to retire early, to put my daughter through school one day, to help save others from the grasp of addiction. These are all things that I NEED to accomplish and I won’t rest until they are realized. Blessings to you all ❤️
#thesoberinitiative #simplenoteasy #focus #drive #joy #knowwhereyouregoing #goals #visions #aspirations #desires #adversity #meditate #yoga #clearheaded #dehaze #recenter #ground #align #manifest #create #thefutureisyours #soberaf #soberliving #sobriety #recovery #recoveringaddict #addictionrecovery #wedorecover #odaat
Le conseguenze di un’infanzia passata a far finta di odiare il rosa🌸 #sobriety
🌻 As Spring hopefully arrives here soon in the UK, your mind might be wandering to sunshine filled days and romantic (false) recollections of drinking during these times. This was a big one for me, the sunshine was such a biiigggg trigger. We'll come back to this in a future post. Now is the time to get that preparation in to develop a strategy whilst the weather is still a bit grim. A weekend away might be the perfect opportunity to have a relaxing break yet put yourself in a position where you may have drank previously. Doesn't have to be anything extravagant, just anything that is a break from the usual routine and yet pushes you forward and puts you in control of your strategies in readiness for the Summer! ☀️
#Sober #Sobriety #Soberplans #SoberLife
# Soberliving # Soberaf #Sobermums #teetotal
So it's actually come round pretty quick to be fair .. 90 days today ...suprisingly easier than I thought ..dropped a stone in weight due to best part of 60000 calories not being taken in ....longest period of sobriety in 25 years ..#90days #sobriety #90 #better #healthier #stronger #focused
You've ONLY Ever Experienced YOUR Perception 🤓
Every Wednesday I am sharing some Wisdom with you; my teachers; my influences and who I am inspired by. I hope you enjoy!
Bentinho Massaro. "You've only ever experienced your thoughts about the world.
You've never experienced the world outside of your perception." We have all perceived something different about the same thing
Meaning nothing is actually real
For how could something be real, when it is different for someone else.... 🤓
Read something that has been said by one of the Quantum Sobriety Online Programme members over on the very lively private forum: "Well, I’ve got say I’m feeling very smug with a big smile on my face. I came back yesterday from a fantastic retreat with Jo and the amazing team at inner guidance. Today I hosted a party.....I did this completely sober and enjoyed every minute of it. I would normally have been stressing about everyone enjoying themselves and have been on my second bottle of wine by the time they arrived. But I’m now in bed leaving them to finish off and so pleased that I had the tools to deal with it. I wasn’t triggered at all and I was happy to drink my fizzy water. Also everyone was understanding and supportive, which is something I’ve been worrying about unnecessarily. Actually once they’d started drinking they didn’t give a shit about the fact I wasn’t. I have gone to bed before them, is that a rude thing to do? Or is it self care?" Residential Retreat and Online Member
#addiction #addict #sober #sobriety #recovery #freedom #recovered #meditation #alcohol #drugs #food #binge #yoga #sobrietyrocks #QuantumSobriety
have posted some very resonant pieces for me this week.
Around nine months ago, a delightful text was sent to my husband from a "friend" calling me a slag, stating that I was cheating on him and reiterating that he needed to "sort me out". I know who was responsible for it. I can't prove it but I don't need to. I've heard those words spat in anger and violence before.
I found my line. The point where I would not allow this vile, manipulative bullying to continue. Believing that my husband would think so little of me showed that person's true colours to more than just me. Trying to influence the sanctity of my marriage was the final straw.
Hubs changed his phone number shortly afterwards when he upgraded his phone. I was supposed to do the same. I'm not sure why I didn't. Maybe I was holding on to something that had never been, that never was, something that I wished for so deeply.
Yesterday, I finally let go. New phone, new number, new start. I will grieve for what could have been for the rest of my life, but as with all grief, every day it gets a little easier to bear. I've come too far to return to the starting line and begin all over again. Too far.
The three most important things in my life are simple: my marriage, my peace, my happiness. And I will never let anybody take any of these things away from me, ever again.
This was an accidental selfie of me holding a beer stein while out with my kid.
My son was invited to go bowling with friends from high school on this day. He has special needs and didn't feel comfortable with me leaving him there, even though there were no other parents. So what did I do? I sat far enough away to let him have his space, but he could also see me, and I drank a *bunch* of beer. And then I drove him home (it's like a 2.5 mile drive, so my drunken justification was "it isn't far" 🤦🏼♀️). I remember when I got home, I thought, "wtf did I just do??? I just drank a TON while out with a bunch of TEENAGERS, and then DROVE MY KID HOME? Wtf is wrong with me???" This day I knew I had a problem, but I was still hung up on FOMO with my group of friends. Soon after this day, I stopped drinking for 5 days, and as soon as I went to a social event and ordered a glass of wine, I was back to 2 bottles of wine every night.
At 10 p.m., I passed the 10 day mark and I feel incredible. I found a SMART meeting nearby, and a women's AA meeting. I'm going to try them out this week. 🔥
#teetotal #soberissexy #sobriety #soberlife #sober #AdventuresInSobriety
What you are seeing here is a woman of 32 years who is just beginning to truly love her body for the first time.
This love goes beyond the way my body looks: I love the way my body feels, flows and carries me through life.
I went through most of my life completely ignoring my body and its needs. I ended up with a feeling of disconnection that did not nourish me.
Ultimately, I paid the price: I depended on alcohol to feel connected which was toxic to my mind, body and soul.
I pushed my body to the limits with hiking in hopes it would heal my emotional pain, which eventually led to a severe ankle injury that I am still recovering from.
What I learned in those months of being in almost complete isolation after I was hurt and unable to do any of the things I loved, drive myself anywhere or even walk down the stairs: you are the one who will be partnered with your body as long as you are here.
This is the longest relationship you will ever have and allowing yourself to cherish it is the best gift you can give yourself.
Now I thank my body every day and honor each breath I take. I am learning to move with my rhythm and feel aware of where my body is leading me to.
Reconnecting with my body through @ambamovement
has allowed me come home to the love, beauty, and power that lives within me.
I feel so blessed I am learning these life changing practices and I feel so fortunate to show it to others who are crossing my path. ❤
SOBER | BEAUTY | BIRTHDAY
A very Happy Birthday to this GORGEOUS Sober Beauty, Olivia, for TWO YEARS OF SOBRIETY!!! 💖
Here she shares her words...
“Two years ago I believe angels picked me right up out of my life and wrapped me in their arms as they carried me to safety. I believe these angels stood around me while all of my deepest darkest secrets unraveled erratically right in front of the ones I love most. I believe they held my mother’s hand while she picked up the phone to call a treatment center in San Diego to ask for help. The same treatment center that I would ultimately end up spending 10 months at, despite my initial promise to be out of there in two weeks. I believe they carried me along and brought people in my life to love and challenge me from that point forward.
These angels held me as I broke down; as I brought to light my biggest fears; as I let shame tell it’s last bit of lies, and hope stepped in to tell a different story. I believe they let me feel so much pain that I ultimately would surrender to this disease and give me a chance to fight for a life I deserve.
I’ve officially made two fucking trips around the sun without drugs and alcohol. TWO YEARS.
Honestly, is this real life?!? This past year has taught me more about ME than all of previous the 24 years of my life combined. I’ve learned to breathe deeper. I can pause longer. I’ve added new words, kinder words, to the dialogue that runs thru my head. Places in my heart have softened for others. My ability to love has grown deeper and stronger. I’ve shown myself I am strong enough to show the world the raw parts of my life. In return you all have taught me that my story is worth telling.
I woke up today & thanked my higher power, God, or whatever it is up there, for getting to start another day sober. I am grateful for 24 more hours to overcome and thrive.
Thank you to my angels, up there & down here, for taking a chance on me two years ago and staying by my side ever since. I couldn’t do it without you. I am blessed beyond belief. I wouldn’t change this beautiful, crazy, chaotic, ever changing life of mine for anything in the world.”
Just because you've made positive changes to your life, it doesn't mean life won't keep chucking curveballs at you!
You just learn how to deal with them that bit better!
Keep going 👊🏻 #WHYSUP #MarkAndLiam
So I FINALLY found a full body picture of sort of what I looked like after I had Isabelle (I was avoiding cameras). I am also cracking up because... 1.) I STILL have the same phone (anyone that knows me knows that's un heard of, she's definitely hurting though😂) 2.) There are nods to the Chive in both of these pictures ❤️❤️ 3.) Apparently that's my go to pose 😂🤷 Keeping in mind, before I had her I was one pound shy of 190 and she was only 6 lbs 8 oz. The first picture on the left I took on 7/15/17 almost 6 months before I had my Fitbit so I honestly don't know how much I weighed. Isabelle was a year and a half old at this point😬😬. The second picture is from TONIGHT. So it's math time lol. TO DATE I weigh 141 whoop whoop! One pound away from 140 and only 6 away from my goal! I went back and looked for my heaviest recorded weight on my fitbit... It was 165, so if I were me, I would add ATLEAST another 7 or 8 to that from July of 2017. I probably weighed 173 ish when that picture was taken🤦. Now I know I am not breaking any records here and I am not trying to 48lbs in 3 years is still an achievement. I CAN NOT believe it took me this long to realize how horrible I felt. Emotionally and physically. I feel better now than I ever have. Am I perfect, no, do I still have work to do, yes. I now have the drive to do it and accomplish my goals along the way. As corny and clichéd as it may sound, if I can do it so can you. I am going to keep walking/running and using my basement stairs as a stepper until I am satisfied. Maybe someday I will get to an actual gym but for now this is how I am working it out creativity is key to getting what you want and using what you've got. If you're not happy fix it lol. That's all folks! #gains #goals #achievement #fitbit #workit #workout #drive #healthychoices #healthandwellness #health #walkitout #exercise #gohard #loveyourself #lovethyself #happyandhealthy #happiness #happy #thankful #grateful #sobriety #weightlossjourney #weightlosstransformation #weightloss #losingweight #slowandsteady #makeithappen #thechive #gingersofinstagram
@fitbit @_mr_obnoxious @thechive
Into Retreat: Training Ground For Magic To Happen 🌟✨💫 Have you booked your 2019 retreat yet?
Check out some of the events that are happening at Inner Guidance this year underneath the blog; we are so excited about the new teachers plus many returning teachers and what they will be sharing with us this year 🙏
We have another blog for you about going on retreat, which Jo wrote a couple of years ago.... Into Retreat: Training Ground For Magic To Happen 🌟✨💫
by Jo De Rosa
I have a retreat centre
I invite others to come on retreat
I MUST go on retreat myself
Otherwise it is all a farce
I would not be walking the talk
And so here I go
Into retreat today
I’ll be gone for 11 days but the blogs will continue from the archive
If you’ve read them before then they will serve as a reminder, and if you have been part of this Daily Motivation blog for less than a year the words over the next 11 days will be new to you.
I am sure my writing will be different on my return
As I am going to...read the whole blog here: https://mailchi.mp/innerguidance/the-weekly-newsletter-3029201
#yoga #yogaclass #yogaclasses #yogaretreat #meditation #meditationretreat #meditationclass #meditationclasses #cacao #cacaoceremony #drinkcacao #detox #educate #reset #vegan #veganism #soberlife #sobriety #alcoholfree #transformation #shift #freedom #newbeginnings #innerguidance
Carl, that is a fantastic and humbling piece of truth right there.
I’ll definitely be putting this one in my life pocket.
Goodnight to all of you magical human sunsets.
You ever get asked if you're ok and you say "I'm fine"... because easier than explaining yourself or in my case, not really sure why I feel down sometimes.
Instead of frustrating the shit out of someone I'll say I'm just tired. 😊🤷♀️🤦♀️ We have to stop avoiding our feelings and talk about them. This goes hand in hand with addiction as well as mental illness. When something is triggering you PLEASE talk to someone. Family, friends, sponsor, the sober community, the are so many avenues. When we hold it in, it only festers and becomes unbearable.
We are all guilty of trying to handle our shit ourselves, the truth is...we can't. We need to feel that we aren't crazy for feeling out of control. We aren't, we are just wired differently, and IT'S OK. But...we need help when we are triggered, so reach out, be humble, let's help each other. 🖤🦋🖤
Even if you had a bad day, or moment, if you are still sober... You conquered today.
Love you guys. Peace and strength to everyone.
#perceptionisreality #girlswithink #imfine #mentalillness #soberissexy #girlswithtattoos #semicolon #inked #unfuckyourself #recovery #soberliving #soberaf #halfsleevetattoo #countrygirls #love #fuckheroin #fuckaddiction #fuckdrugs #sober #soberlife #sobriety #soberliving #soberquotes #compassion #encouragement #empath #moon #soberissexy #shamelesssobriety #thesoberlife
Showing your wife that you are making changes is a thousand times better than telling her what it's going to be like again... I took this from allprodad.com
Here are 10 ways to be your wife’s hero:
1. Be there for her.
2. Romance your wife.
3. Set the example as the spiritual leader in your house.
4. Support her
6. Spend time together
7. Pay attention to detail
8. Give her a break
9. Commit to your wife
10. Appreciate her
The fears you don’t face become your limits. ⠀
New blog post up! Link in my bio ⚡️
📸: by the amazing @javie.33
“People are like piers.You get stepped on and tossed around, but you still stand tall with your feet planted firmly on the ground. In the midst of your struggles remember why you are here and don’t forget to thank God for where you are & what you have.”