~Kids are like a mirror, what they see and hear they do. Be a good reflection for them~
As parents we have major influence on our children’s self-esteem, and how they think about themselves – either positively or negatively – influences their attitudes, behaviour and future success in life.
Of all the reasons I’ve embarked on my own self discovery and personal growth journey, being the best role model for my girls is the most dominant reason that has driven me to get my own sh*t together by far.
Because honestly, I wasn’t always a good one, and I was no longer ok with that.
I’m under no illusion. Raising children who love and value themselves isn’t an easy task, especially in a culture that is so self obsessed in such unhealthy ways. But it’s just too dam important not to show up and do our best here.
One of the most influential behaviours we can do is modelling self-love to them. They see the way we look at ourselves in the mirror, they hear how we talk about our bodies, and they observe how we treat them.
Everything I do that helps me nurture the connection between my own heart/mind/body/soul, helps my girls do the same. Teaching them to love themselves and embrace exactly who they are by doing this in my own life is laying the groundwork for them to value and respect themselves now and in the future.
We need to speak kindly to ourselves. Our children internalise our voices, and the way we speak and interact with them becomes the same dialogue they speak to themselves later in life. And the way we speak to ourselves becomes the way we speak to our children. This carries on, generation to generation. We have a powerful effect, and a profound opportunity to instill the voice of love in our kids if we can bring awareness to this in our own lives.
Accepting ourselves - and our children - in our as-is state requires us to surrender to ideas of who we should be, and instead embrace and love all parts of who we are. I promise that when you realise the most magnificent you will ever be is yourself, a huge weight will be lifted from you and you will feel FREE.