The Art of Loving
#theartofloving #erichfromm #socialpsychologist #psychoanalyst #sociologist #humanisticphilosopher #humanist #democraticsocialist
- 1 of founders of #thewilliamalansonwhiteinstitute
of #psychiatry #psychoanalysis
in NYC and was associated with the #frankfurtschoolofcriticaltheory
Fromm presents #love
as a skill that can be taught and developed, rejecting the idea of loving as something magical and mysterious that cannot be analyzed and explained. He is therefore skeptical about popular ideas such as "falling in love" or being helpless in the face of love.
Because modern humans are alienated from each other and from nature, we seek refuge from our lonesomeness in #romanticlove
. However, Fromm observes that real love "is not a sentiment which can be easily indulged in by anyone." It is only through developing one's total #personality
to the capacity of loving one's neighbor with "true #humility #courage #faith
that one attains the capacity to experience #reallove
. This should be considered a rare achievement. Fromm defended these opinions also in interview with Mike Wallace when he states: "love today is a relatively rare phenomenon, that we have a great deal of sentimentality; we have a great deal of illusion about love, namely as a...as something one falls in. But the question is that one cannot fall in love, really; one has to be in love. And that means that #loving
becomes, and the ability to love, becomes one of the most important things in life."
The Art of Loving argues that the active character of true love involves four basic elements: care #responsibility #respect
Each of these is difficult to define and can differ markedly depending on the people involved and their circumstances. Seen in these terms, love is hard work, but it is also the most rewarding kind of work.
One of the book's concepts is #selflove
According to Fromm, loving oneself is quite different from arrogance, conceit or egocentrism. Loving oneself means caring about oneself, taking responsibility for oneself, respecting and knowing oneself.
#humanism #socialtheory #marxism