Take deep breath. And - Remember, YOU ARE ENOUGH AND YOU ARE DOING ENOUGH.
🖤 Self-doubt can be crippling, it is exhausting, and its also hugely selfish. 🖤
“Self doubt is selfish? wtf?” I hear you cry… Let me explain.
The world needs your gifts and talents, it needs your unique view, it needs your art, your empathy, creativity, and compassion. Every time you allow self-doubt to keep you small and hold you back, you are depriving us of your unique magic.
Being creative, a polymath, an innovator, or just full of heart and wanting to express yourself authentically in the world – whether for money or not, absolutely amplifies and accelerates the challenges and learning opportunities that self doubt provides. Doubting your talent, your choices, your worthiness, and your resilience is totally ‘normal’.
Thinking differently, seeing differently, feeling everything and also wanting to contribute is what the world needs more of, but it can be incredibly scary to do so confidently when you feel different. The thing is that we are wired to conform in order to fit in, in order to be loved, in order to survive.
Nearly all the Misfit Creative’s that I know are actually highly compliant. We feel different, so quite rightly we fear rejection and consequently in order to ‘fit in’, have learned ‘the rules’ and learnt to camouflage ourselves; more often that not, succeeding outwardly to blend in seamlessly.
This keeps us safe, but not happy.
Stepping out, taking a risk, removing that camouflage is risky. Self doubt, creeps in and the negative committee in our heads stand up and starts shouting!
Overcoming self doubt is easy for me to explain, and may be easy to cognitively understand, but the truth is that the actual overcoming, is in the doing..... For my top tips, read more in this weeks blog - link in my bio or http://ebonieallard.com/overcoming-self-doubt/
Because what else do you do at 2AM 🤷🏻♀️ i got like three hours of sleep and I was ready to kill the day! At the end of the day I just want to be better. Made myself some ⚡️ GO GO JUICE ⚡️ MOM CRACK ⚡️ the life saver 🙌🏻 got in some time with Jesus 💕 caught up on a much needed training 📝 and now it’s time to get a leg workout in! It’s already been a productive Tuesday!
I’m not one to brag and always teach my kids to remain humble and to appreciate everything they have. I believe in working hard and that good things will come.
So posting this is a little out of my comfort zone but I want to share with you what’s possible:
Commissions were just posted from my company and I’m stunned that I did it all from my phone!😳 This is what it’s all about!!!! 🙏 buying groceries
🙏 paying some bills
🙏 money towards the boys’ education
🙏 providing for my family
🙏 pampering myself (maybe shoes 👠 - lol!) I’m so incredibly grateful and can’t wait to see what’s next 💫
And what’s really hard to believe, is that I did it while traveling and spending time with family & friends❤️ #grateful #mompreneur #followyourdreams
-Urgency is key because every minute that your not committed and all in is a minute your mind tries to go back to its natural habit of protecting you from what you don’t know.
-Your mind will come up with ways of why it won’t work , it’s to hard , you will doubt yourself as a protective state of mind will do to keep you where you are comfortable .
when really you should be thinking about why it will work , how easy it can be with some time and commitment as anything in life is .
-Same concept as working out you get uncomfortable and sore but you continue and you gain , your body signals it doesn’t like it but you commit and achieve past the limiting beliefs of your body.
If you saw something you wanted in arms reach and it was your all you had to do is pick it up would you sit there and think about it .
-No your going to take it , without hesitation.
Ask yourself ... are you doing what you love in life and if you continue doing that now is it going to give you the life you deserve and desire .
Or will you be limited to being on a plateau , with no new heights but your dream of truly living , traveling and enjoying your life for the gift it is .... will be out of reach because you are afraid to get uncomfortable , commit to something more and drop the habits that hold you back.
Make new habits that pull you forward because if is truly what you want you won’t have to be pushed forward , it will attract you .
Remember there are no refunds on time spent thinking , do more say less , fail more , live learn , grow 🌱 .
Mummas - I know it’s HARD. I know it’s FRUSTRATING. I know some days you just don’t think it’s worth it.
But trust me on this one.... It IS worth it.
And so are YOU.
Keep trying. Keep believing in yourself. Keep pushing for whatever goal you’re working on.
Whether it’s to drop those last 10 lbs, pull off that epic Thomas the Tank Engine birthday party for your 4 year old or just to simply GET THROUGH THE DAY..... I’m rooting for you, love. 👭💖
Kids up way too early (they don't care we're on holiday) and I know from about 2 pm the great whinge will start. Working out gives me energy - otherwise I would not cope. This and a large g&t when the day is done I think 🤔.
My next mummy wellness group starts on Aug 27 for 4 weeks. You can also join me for a Monday only challenge starting Aug 20 (log ANY workout every Monday between Aug 20 and end of the year) and win a prize. Drop me a ❤ below to be in and get some energy back!
This is what the past few days have looked like.
As I start around the next rotation around the Sun post birthday celebrations – lots of things have been triggering me to THINK more deeply about a few things.
Especially My Mission. 💯
Why am I here and how can I make the world a better place and diving even deeper into
My personal mission, my businesses mission and my social mission.
Right now I’m enjoying journaling about ALL of these and how they look and fit in together for this year ahead in all aspects of my life and business.
I’ll be honest - It’s been shaky and not just the earth beneath me Mama Bali has been shaking! and things beyond my control sooo many planets in retrograde digging into this has seriously triggered me so much.
For me journaling, meditation and answering the questions that come up is the easiest way for me to figure it out. Curious … what’s your favorite way to figure this kinda stuff out?
YOU WERE MADE FOR MORE! “know this one great truth: you are in control of your own life. You get one and only one chance to live, and life is passing you by. Stop beating yourself up, and dang it, stop letting others do it too. Stop accepting less than you deserve. Stop buying things you can’t afford to impress people you don’t even really like. Stop eating your feelings instead of working through them. Stop buying your kids’ love with food, or toys, or friendship because it’s easier than parenting. Stop abusing your body and your mind. Stop! Just get off the never-ending track.” Rachel Hollis #madeformore #lifebydesign
One of these things is not like the other... This is so painful to look at. Instead of snowballing my debt, I somehow blacked out for about 6 weeks and decided to live my best life and spend needless money on a credit card to get free points. 🙄
As you can tell, I’m extremely disappointed in myself. In all fairness, I do work a commission based job and the summer is a black hole of nothing compared to the rest of the year, which also contributes to tighter budget = smaller shovel during the months that no one and I mean NO ONE is planning events because it’s approximately 319 degrees in Phoenix. 🔥🔥🔥 -
August may be half over, but I’m refocusing, looking at my side hustle opportunities, and jumping back in full force!
#grace #stumbleforward #fallseventimesstandupeight #debfreejourney #progressnotperfection #debtfreecommunity #intentionalliving #lifebydesign #debtisdumb #debtfreeliving #debtfreedom
Often when we engage in big reflective exercises, or face big life decisions, we hit resistance, struggle to gain traction, or face blocks.
One of the most common reasons for this is a result of holding preconceived notions.
When you begin with what you think you "should" be doing/saying/thinking, you limit yourself.
The key to move beyond this lies within the beginner's mindset, a term that stems from Zen Buddhism.
The beginner's mind is you minds natural state - open, eager to explore, and receptive to all ideas.
Next time you engage in some big reflection or decision making, consider this: What can you do to access your beginner's mindset?
Ok! Just got back from watching the amazing MADE FOR MORE by @msrachelhollis
! Inspiring, uplifting, ass kicking, thought provoking ... how many of us are keeping our lives small to suit the other people in our lives? Are you living your best life? Do you know what that even looks like for you??? .
It has taken the last two years of personal growth and stepping outside of my bubble for me to start dreaming again...I mean really dreaming. I know I AM MADE FOR MORE...and guess what? I KNOW YOU ARE TOO! No one can tell you how big you can dream. Do it. NOW! .
#mompreneur #lifebydesign #cleaneating #ocmoms #findyourpurpose #madeformore #youdoyou #fazzfix
Someone asked me the other day how I eat. I get this question a lot and the first thing I always like to get clear is, just because I make certain choices doesn’t mean it’s what you should do. Food is supposed to make you feel good, not restricted or stressed or overwhelmed.
For me it’s about empowering you with the food knowledge and skills in the kitchen so you can make choices that work for you and your real life.
With that being said, there’s a few simple guidelines I follow:
It is real food? Get rid of the chemicals & processed foods as much as possible.
Does it align with my values? Am I making conscious choices that I can support ethically?
Does it make me feel good? And by good I mean listening to my body to know the difference between real hunger and emotional eating.
Find the grey area. No one’s perfect and my food choices may not always be - but guess what? That’s okay!
Everyone responds to foods differently but that doesn’t mean you should fear it. It’s supposed to be pleasurable. It’s supposed to bring you joy. And yes, it should be fun!
What would it look like it if was just that easy? Because I promise you it is!
Have you ever notice that people around you are just your mirror?
The things you like or don't that you are noticing you can see because you too have them. .
When you then become better you attract better.
I make sure I daily improve by:
listening to podcast
improving my good habits
setting healthy boundaries .
What will you do today to become even better?
Let me know in comments.
As much as we are busy, we must put our health first. Carve time out time for yourself because the better state of mind you’re in, the more happy, productive, and abundant your life will become. #FACTS #bodyandmind #highperformancetraining
Well hellooooooo little peach blossoms! I see you sneaking out of your little buds!! 👀 Aahhh the promise of warmth, sunshine and frolicking fun. 😍
There are a few exciting developments ahead for Hopscotch... stay tuned! With a new season comes new motivation, creativity and enthusiasm and I’m bursting with ideas! 💡
So, tell me what’s in the agenda for your biz this coming season? 🌷
Where are you headed? Do you know? For the longest time, I had no clue what I was doing. I became a mom at 17 years old and I am SO grateful that I was lucky enough for the majority of the time to be a stay at home mom with my babies BUT, I lost my identity. I knew I was a good mom but couldnt identify myself outside of that. I knew I had a passion for helping people be their best self but nothing I did quite felt right..
Last year the vehicle to allow me to live a healthy life, build a legacy for my children, follow my dreams of helping people in many different ways came in to my life and I have made it my mission to bring people along this journey with me freeing people from physical, financial, and even spiritual pain they may be going through..
Last year I was a completely different person than who I am now, I actually hated social media and even more so talking to people but now I am connecting with the most amazing people from all over the world and the best part is I am able to create a schedule around my time with my kids and be as present as possible with them.
If you feel lost, if you are stressed about money or health, I have a solution that I would love to share with you and have you on this journey with me 💋❤#Gratitude #Vision #Belief #Passion #Action #DailyAction #wantmore #lifebydesign #LiveWithIntention #LiveWithPurpose #LiveWithPassion #timeisprecious #DontBlink #OneDay #PathWithPurpose #Goals #Purpose #Inspire #Create #Mindfulness #LifeGoals #Intentions #Believe #Holistic
Happy Monday and week ahead, friends!💕
I had the pleasure of teaching a Masterclass earlier tonight on one of my favorite topics -mindset, specifically cultivating a CEO Mindset.
We dug into a lot, but I wanted to share my closing thoughts from our class with you tonight...
Stop looking for the answers and approval out there - you’re not going to find them.
Everything you need, all the answers...you already have them.
We are all so much more capable than we give ourselves credit for.
YOU are so much more capable than you give yourself credit for. ✨
The most important part of a CEO Mindset? It’s taking the inside out approach, tuning in, trusting yourself, and believing your own answers and wisdom. ✨
Kick some ass this week 💪🏻❤️
DID YOU KNOW ❔ ▪️Due to the harsh growing conditions of Alaska, Wild Alaskan Blueberries have even higher nutritional values than common blueberries. In fact, studies have shown that Wild Alaskan Blueberries have at least ten times higher antioxidant levels than the common blueberry. ▪️”When it comes to brain protection, there is nothing quite like blueberries. Call the blueberry the brain berry.”
-Dr. James Joseph, Ph D, ▪️#healthyfood
Glass Ceiling Shatterers.
P O W E R Partners.
Made for More. .
The morning sun streaming in, family gathered around the table my husband made, and the perfect weekend waffle topped with berries....these are a few of my favorite things ✨ #latergram
Got fired from my job, then I hired MYSELF! ~
It was that day 3 years ago I decided to take control of my own life and create my own luck! Forget the status quo! ~
I NEVER wanted a good job anyway! Lol I wanted a GRATE life!
That’s a wrap #seattle
. Thanks for your hospitality! Good food and drinks and loads of love and laughter! #lifebydesign
moments like these — sitting outside, pausing from the craziness of a busy schedule, taking time to breathe, reflect, and praise God for the beautiful world he made just for us🌤
Failure is not an option! You only get one life so live it to the fullest and go after what you want! 🙌🏻💥💪🏻🤩