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Couples tend to have couples friends. Married friends tend to have married friends. So, what happens after divorce? Historically, this is one of the messiest aspects of a post-divorce life. Can you stay friends with the couple who is also staying friends with your ex? Sometimes, you can. Sometimes, you lose those friendships.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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After my marriage ended, I lost my friendship with our closest "couple friends" and it broke my heart. Here's what I learned:⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
1. No matter what type of relationship you are in or aren't in, always have girlfriends that aren't necessarily "couple friends" - these are the women who will be your friend no matter your relationship status...it won't have to get messy. And when you are with somebody again, STILL HAVE GIRL TIME! ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
2. Not all friendships are forever. We like to think that BFF is a reality, but it's not. Sometimes it is very much worth working through the messiness and finding a new normal; sometimes parting ways is okay. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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It really, really sucks to grieve the loss of good friends when you are grieving the loss of your relationship too. If you are feeling lonely, make it a point to get out there and meet some new girlfriends. Networking groups, yoga class, book clubs, etc.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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Did you remain friends with your "couples friends" post-breakup? Share in the comments below!⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
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